Sibling asking for loan and his lifestyle choices are more expensive than mine

My brother asks me for loans occasionally. Ranging from a few hundred to a few thousand. He sometimes returns me the money and overall, still borrows.

Recently, the total loan added up to about 5k and he is not very consistent with repaying.

Now, he is asking for 2k again. I’m getting of tired of chasing for the unreturned amounts. I feel like I’m begging for my money, so I stopped. I will probably have to write off.

I’m not inclined to lend him this time. But I’m pissed that my mum feels I should help him since it’s not a big amount (“It’s just 2k”).

Hello! I have already lent him $$ and he makes a lot more expensive choices than me. Branded wallet, bag, watch, clothes, more frequent grab rides, holidays and cafes/restaurants than me.

Am I suppose to support his lifestyle choices? I have my goals too. I’m saving up for my own wedding and renovation. However, when his wedding is near, I’m sure he will ask my mum for a loan.

Do you notice Singaporean parents don’t discipline their kids in public?

Just curious if its just me or if this is also the experience of others. Singaporeans usually have a stereotypical strict household where you even hear stories on r/sg about parents caning/beating their children. However, it seems that parents barely care about how their children behave in public (I’m referring to basic mannerisms). For instance:

When exiting an elevator, I would find a child standing directly in front of the door, and not even budge when I am walking out. The parents behind them off to one side don’t seem to care to teach their children to wait on the side so people in the elevators can exit first. (This seems to be an issue with adults on the other hand with respect to the MRT)

Out in public or in malls for instance, kids seem to run wild all over the place. I have no problem with this actually, at the end of the day, they’re kids, but where I would expect parents to step in is say when walking on the sidewalk – children seem never to have been taught to step (in front or behind their parents) to one side so people going in the opposite direction can pass.

I wouldn’t even call it bad manners, it seems people are almost completely oblivious.

I am actually happy that Meta start laying off these overpaid SWEs. It is high time these people stop thinking they are so much better than others that they are entitled to their 10k a month job (or maybe more in Meta) and settle for that 4k a month job in your local SME!

I have seen a few of them on linkedin and reaching out for fresh opportunities. While there are recruiters from other companies reaching out to them on the comment sections, I don’t think any will pay remotely close to what Meta does.

But lets be real. Those companies only take in like the top 10-20 SWEs per batch combined (not the mention the people who get to those places are literal geniuses if you stalk their profile).

In comparison, Meta takes way more people. Methinks, it is time they accept that paycut (which is probably 50% or more)!

Here are what netizens think:

• I have seen people from lousy universities like Curtin, Monash, DeLaSalle get employed into Meta, Google, Twitter
• There is no need to gloat at others misfortune. Everyone has unique stations in life. We just need to do the best for ourselves.
• While I do share some of your schadenfreude, I can say that regardless of how much you make, it’s also what you do with it. Reality comes aknocking sooner or later. Those who save their pennies will weather the storm. Those who spend above their means will never earn enough.
• It makes me cringe when those get laid off starts posting on LinkedIn as if someone just die. Quite true they won’t be able to find same job same pay and same benefits. Those tech companies are overpaying them long ago.
• Instead of wasting time being jealous go and find ways to make 10k/mth.
• Then you should be disappointed because you would expect Elon Musk to retain all staff at half the salary