I am actually happy that Meta start laying off these overpaid SWEs. It is high time these people stop thinking they are so much better than others that they are entitled to their 10k a month job (or maybe more in Meta) and settle for that 4k a month job in your local SME!

I have seen a few of them on linkedin and reaching out for fresh opportunities. While there are recruiters from other companies reaching out to them on the comment sections, I don’t think any will pay remotely close to what Meta does.

But lets be real. Those companies only take in like the top 10-20 SWEs per batch combined (not the mention the people who get to those places are literal geniuses if you stalk their profile).

In comparison, Meta takes way more people. Methinks, it is time they accept that paycut (which is probably 50% or more)!

Here are what netizens think:

• I have seen people from lousy universities like Curtin, Monash, DeLaSalle get employed into Meta, Google, Twitter
• There is no need to gloat at others misfortune. Everyone has unique stations in life. We just need to do the best for ourselves.
• While I do share some of your schadenfreude, I can say that regardless of how much you make, it’s also what you do with it. Reality comes aknocking sooner or later. Those who save their pennies will weather the storm. Those who spend above their means will never earn enough.
• It makes me cringe when those get laid off starts posting on LinkedIn as if someone just die. Quite true they won’t be able to find same job same pay and same benefits. Those tech companies are overpaying them long ago.
• Instead of wasting time being jealous go and find ways to make 10k/mth.
• Then you should be disappointed because you would expect Elon Musk to retain all staff at half the salary

“I seriously hate university, cannot put into words what it is doing to me.

I used to be such a happy person, loved my year out working but as i felt i had no other choice i ended up at university, it feels like its sucked the life out of me, all i do is sit around feeling depressed and stressed out about how much work i have to do and crying.

i wanted to drop out from day 1, but kept telling myself it would get better/that i hadn’t given it a proper chance, but now i’m one term into my second year (out of 4) and i feel like its getting worse.

i feel whats massively pushed me over the edge this year is an assignment i recently got marks back for, i told myself 2nd year was a new start and since i only had this one assignment due in the first term i would work my ass off on it. I really did try, i’ve never put more work into a piece, and i proof read it and re-edited it loads, was pretty damn happy with it after my weeks of slog. got my marks back, i got 58%, i know this isn’t bad, but i seriously don’t get how it could of been any better and it was one of the easiest assignments i’ve had. My friend who’s not overly academic and did her entire assignment the night before it was due got a better mark than me for gods sake. All that effort and i don’t get any decent mark to show for it? whats the point?

The work is ruining my life, i’m not a particularly fast worker and i just can’t keep up, i’ve got 8 assignments due in the space of 6 weeks soon and i’m pretty sure it’s going to kill me doing them. I’m so sad all the time about it, i have to give up things

i want to drop out, i really don’t think i’m as academic as i was at school, but i’m massively scared what to do afterwards, i just want a job, a job that pays enough for me to live my own independent life, but i know they’re so hard to find these days, i can’t deal with the idea of being a 21 year old who works part time at a supermarket (which i already do now alongside my studies) and still lives with his parents.

Its not the course i hate i don’t think, it’s just the whole academic process, i can’t see how i’m going to cope with all this work in this year whilst trying to find a placement for my 3rd year, and then come back and do the worst year out the 4 and a dissertation.

i need help and advice please”

i am very keen to report my classmate for inappropriate comments but everything is said verbally.

He also displayed some inappropriate behaviour (not done on me) and i do not have any text messages or video to use as proof. this is also a reason why i am very hesitant about reporting him.

is there any chance that i can report him successfully, i feel that this pervert needs to be thrown into jail or sent to imh for evaluation or even some form of disciplinary action from the school would be great.

he has serious issues and i hope that i have a 100% success rate in reporting him. if not he will try harder to mask his problematic behaviour in the future and it will be harder to catch him.

Here are what netizens think:

• U can actually approach the school counsellor or even the lecturer/teachers. They are able to give u better advice.
• Zero proof + hearsay = please fly kite. Presumption of innocence >>>>>> me too. Report if have proof.
• Dont worry. If he keeps doing it, there will be another chance to record him visually and verbally.
• ask the victim if they are affected. and then u ask if they would like to report together. it’s more useful in numbers other than just u alone. if the victim is fine then nothing we can do about it.
• Sure can report, but only if it was said to you. Otherwise, the recipient has to report it. If they don’t report means they like it and it’s not a problem to them.
• watch and learn from gone girl

Is anyone else in Computer Science worried about the tech layoffs and how it will affect our livelihoods after we graduate?

I’ve been reading the #metalayoffs on linkedin lately and many of their stories are so heartbreaking. Though strangely, I don’t see many software engineers among those laid off, who seem to be made of recruiters, managers, data scientists, researchers etc.

Her are what netizens think:

• Still *a lot* of SWE jobs at this present moment. A lot of people are v happy about the layoffs and are actively trying to hire the FB engineers being laid off, which included a number of my ex-students. Ironically, a small number of them are quite happy about being laid off ‘cos they were planning to leave their jobs but dilly dally. Now all of a sudden got severance pay for no reason.
• My ex-students who got laid off are a bit shocked but none of them are particularly worried about not being able to land the next job. The layoffs were apparently quite random because they were by product and not on merit. There’s actually a list floating out there on all the FB folks being laid off. One of my ex-students complained that he got approached by 6 recruiters already.
• Maybe the situation might get worse later, but SWE jobs are still abundant. That said, these jobs probably won’t pay as much as FB, except maybe ByteDance, which I was told is actively trying to scoop up all the FB engineers who were laid off.
• Seems to me like more than half the talent acquisition team in SG got laid off.
• Afaik most company do hiring freeze so good luck.
• There is no jobs for everybody so some will stay unemployed for a while

Apathetic Parents of Girlfriend

Girlfriend’s parents, when they found out that I was raised by a single mom tried to make things sour between my girlfriend and my mom.

They would tell stories to my girlfriend to warn/scare her about how my mom would be entirely dependent on me and therefore her.

My girlfriend is the only child too. Her parents are constantly hounding me about what plans I have for them if I were to marry their daughter. I would suggest some ideas but these would always be met with a “what about your mom?” in a way which suggests it’s them or my mom. Her mother also hinted that there’s no way 2 families can gather as there will be too much politics. My mother is an easy going woman and has not made any demands. I obviously cannot abandon my mom she has no one.

I love my girlfriend very much but I do think that her parents are being very selfish and apathetic towards my mom. Refusing any compromise. And this really breaks my heart especially as they’re can perfectly make a lot of the compromises.

Am I right to feel the way I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• You’re right to feel the way u feeling.
• Ur mother has no one left in this world but only u. It is only right that u take care and protect her. Having said this, if ur mother is as reasonable as how u describe, she will not put you in any tough position by making you choose. She will support u in every decision u make and I hope you WILL include her in your every decision.
• Your gf’s parents on the other hand, while she is their only child, her parents got each other still. And they shouldn’t be pressuring you to include them in your plans. It IS selfish of them to do so. Your gf needs to step up in settling her parents as they have overstepped their boundaries.
• Next, your gf. If she truly love you, she will accept you and your mom. She will spare a thought for you and your mom’s dynamics. She should be inclusive of your mom in her plans too.
• It’s all about how your gf is willing to stand up for your situation and explain it to her parents. If she is not willing to do that for u, then she is not worth of your love. Its as simple as that.
• what has ur gf said or responded to the situation? if she’s also sounding like her parents and after talking it out she’s not helping to ease the situation then change gf. since her parents are so difficult she has to step up to do smth about it and not leavethe plans of her parents to you.
• you 1 person wanna take care of how many people? it sounded like the whole world will depend on you.
• I’m just curious. How does your girlfriend feel about this?

I just realized today my husband doesn’t eat in the morning to feed our son and me

I (29F) and my husband (30M) have had a tough life recently. When I had my kid at 27, corona started. I lost my job. My husband’s company failed and everyone left.

We didn’t know what to do anymore. We barely had food to eat. I tried selling stuff, but it wasn’t near enough. I once walked to our bedroom and saw the door slightly open. I looked and saw my husband crying. It was the first time I see him cry.

I sat next to him and he started apologizing, saying he failed as a father. I calmed him down and told him we are fine and he is doing an amazing job.

Few months ago, he landed a job that is paying him so well and it was the first time in a while I saw him this happy. But thinking about it, I noticed he stopped eating breakfast with us.

There are days he wouldn’t even eat, and just sits with us on the table and looks at us eating. When I ask him, he would say he wasn’t hungry.

There were nights he wouldn’t sleep either. I kept asking him every day if he is okay because he is too skinny and looked so pale because of that.

He finally told me yesterday why he was doing all that and said he wanted to make sure that me and our son had enough to eat, so he would skip eating to make sure there is enough food for us. And he would stay up at night planning how he is going to spend the money on groceries and stuff.

I started crying when he told me all that. He was sacrificing his life for us. I don’t know what I was going to do without him.

I don’t know how to be an adult.

All of the people I grew up with are moving on with their lives and have jobs and homes. I live with my boyfriend and his dad. I don’t have a job and I’m really struggling to figue out how to get one.

I tried to get a job at a petrol station but they never called back.. I’m trying to be as positive as I can but It’s hard..

I’m sure no one will see this but I just needed to vent.

Netizens’ comments

• It sounds like your parents did a poor job of preparing you to be an adult. This just means you will have try harder to prepare yourself.
• But don’t forget that their are other people out there who can help. Find others who you admire, who are competent at what they do, and ask them for advice.
• Nobody knows how to adult, everyone out here is just faking it :)) Be kind to yourself and just keep trying, you’re doing great
• I loved your post. You have the world at your feet. I admit it’s hard to do it alone, but if you have a mentor it should be a piece of cake. It sounds like your boyfriend’s father has his head on his shoulders and perhaps he can help you. To get ahead you need two things. First is the desire and second is to ask for help. I see both in you and I am guessing you will go far in life. Best of luck. Ohhh and …..try hard….but be patient with yourself
• Im 30, never been on my own, no clue who to call to get water and electric turned on or off, I just work and pay bills with no extra money to save, living paycheck to paycheck. You learn when you learn.
• Hell I’m 35 and still don’t have this adulting thing figured out haha… good thing is pretty much everywhere is hiring right now so shouldn’t take long for you to get a job…try not to stress too much, everything will work out, good luck!

I’m(M25) worried about my girlfriends(F25) relationship with her new male friend as I’ve just been told by her other two friends that this guy told one of them that he’s taking my girlfriend on a date and intends to sleep with her.

We’ve been together for five years and she is doing her post grad. This guy is someone on her course. I’ve known that they have become pretty good friends but I’ve always trusted her so it’s been fine. Two other people on her course are also a couple and I’ve become quite friendly with them because the four of us hang out as couples.

The guy in the couple is also apparently close enough with the guy in question and he told him that my girlfriend finally agreed to go out with him and that he’s going to shag her. He had no other real details as he said he didn’t want to know and didn’t want to be involved but I’m not sure if I believe him. I get the impression that he didn’t want to be talking to me about this but he probably told his girlfriend and she was making him tell me something at least.

He admitted that he was told this over a week ago so I’m terrified that if this is true it might have already happened. My girlfriend never mentioned hanging out with anybody but I’m working full time during the week and she’s not in school every day so it could have happened and Id never know.

I don’t really have any other friends here so I don’t know who to talk to. The advice I’m looking for is what is the best way to approach this? I don’t want to accuse my girlfriend of anything as this could all be nonsense or a misunderstanding and just because this guy has said he’s going to shag her doesn’t mean he gets too.

The only thing is if she agreed to hang out with him and it’s innocent on her part she would have told me. I’m not sure what to do? I asked the female friend if she would be open to talking to her and seeing if she tells her anything and she said she would but Id be putting her in a shit position and thats not fair. She’s already stuck her neck out for me by telling me this. I’d be grateful for any advice? Thanks.