My husband confessed to having slept with his female friend everyday for 2 months after our son passed away.

Our son passed away when he was 3. It hit my husband hard and he isolated himself from everyone around while shutting me out emotionally.

Despite living in the same house we were so far apart. He’d leave to go hang out with his female friend who he knew for 13 years.

I never suspected anything off about him spending time with her because she’s always been his comfort person. He did this daily til one day he stopped.

I noticed change in behavior and him lashing out at the mention of her name. I thought they had a fight or something but days ago, he sat me down, started crying and confessed to me that he slept with her everyday for almost 2 months!!!

He said he didn’t know how it happened or why. But mostly blamed it on the wrecked emotional state he was in.

He said he visited her home days after the funeral (first time she saw him after the funeral) and despite the fact that no drinking was involved, he said he felt like he was doing nothing wrong when he started getting too close to her.

He swore she had many opportunities to push him off and say no to him but she didn’t which made it worse. I was in a state of disbelief.

He said it just happened and swore he never in a million years thought he’d do this, not with her but it happened.

He did it EVERYDAY for almost 2 MONTHS. and not once has he stopped to think about what he was doing. He didn’t speak after that.

After I pushed him and started screaming at him that he made my grief worse and hurt me in my darkest days. Just kept looking down crying. And his friend didn’t even come visit me probably cause she was too ashamed.

He is currently staying with his dad. I’m too exhausted I spend most of my days in bed. I feel like my life is over. Everything just seems to be falling apart including my own body.

He is asking for forgiveness because he calls it “unique circumstance” but something in me refuses to to forgive.

My best friend’s awesome dad is sleeping with my mom. I introduced them and now my best friend is upset with me

Personally, I’m really happy for them. They’re really cute couple, always blushing when they’re together and being all goofy. I actually introduced my friend’s dad (34) to my mom (30) and they became friends immediately. My biological father is NOT a good person & has treated my mom horribly, so I’m happy she’s with a man that treats her sweet and respectfully.

My friend’s mom cheated on his dad, so he was pretty heartbroken for a long time. That’s when I decided to introduce him to my mom, they liked each other and the rest is history. Seriously, his dad was really depressed after his wife cheated. My friend loves his dad, but I never felt like he cared 100% about his feelings. The day I introduced his dad to my mom, he really lit up with happiness. It was pretty obvious he really needed someone to talk to and be with. Same for my mom, my biological dad was always awful to her, she too was super happy & all blushing when she first met my dad’s friend.

My best friend though is a little annoyed and pretty upset by everything (he thinks his dad doesn’t need a woman right now) and he also believes i should’ve told him before introducing his dad to my mom. I told him what his answer would’ve been if I told him first, he said it would’ve been a huge no. Thank god I didn’t mention it to him first, I think he’s being selfish. His dad was super hurt with the cheating situation and my friend isn’t thinking about his feeling at all. I believe my mom and his dad deserve each other. So yeah! I feel pretty happy they’re together. Also my mom is super young and very gorgeous, she deserves to be happy.

Plus, my friend’s dad is awesome! I’ve known him my whole life (my friend and I have known each other since elementary) so I know my mom is being treated beautifully by him. I also know my mom is treating him beautifully as well, she’s has kind and caring heart & I know they’re both in good hands.

Is it normal for my gf (f19) to talk to her ex (m20) all day everyday ?

My gf talks to her ex boyfriend every day without fail.

Whilst I trust her and trust nothing would happen I don’t feel comfortable her talking to him every day. They was only together a year but it was a well formed relationship, they met each others parents had “family days out” etc etc.

My past relationships have been very toxic and I don’t want to seem unfair or unreasonable by telling her I don’t feel comfortable with it.

I can’t see her being comfortable if it was the other way around. In fact I would feel so wrong and disrespectful if I was talking to my ex every day.

Netizens’ comments

• It’s not normal to talk to your ex all day, everyday when you’re in a relationship. I don’t think she’s over him. Ask her about it, tell her how you feel.
  Edit: What’s odd about it isn’t the fact that she talks to her ex, but the fact that it’s all day, everyday. Once in a while or regular communication is normal as some people can be friends with their ex’s without any remaining romantic feelings. But when it’s all day, everyday…
• most of my relationships ended on semi-good terms, every now again we wish each other a happy birthday, or comment if we see something cool on another’s story. but talking every day without fail is weird.
  your situation is not normal.
• You’re the extra in their love story, man. In their mind it’s about how they got back together even after years of separation. They already had one villain, don’t stay to become another. If she prioritised her current relationship, she wouldn’t have constantly been in touch with a guy she was emotionally and physically dependant on.
  This relationship is not her priority. I usually refrain from commenting “just leave/breakup’ but trust me, my man, this is not about insecurity or trust, she’s just not that into you.

I’ve graduated. I’m currently unemployed and is still job hunting.

Many ppl around gave different advices and at the end of the day, you just have to understand what exactly you want to achieve yourself.

I started off thinking I can get a good-paying job with my engineering degree since the news keep saying its the employee’s market at that moment. But after several applications, I received zero replies due to my lousy results and inexperience.

I reflected upon myself thinking if I want to pursue the career path as an engineer since I had already lost my interest in this field and my technical skills are not that great either. Being an engineer has became less appealing to me and I started to look into other industries. Since then, I’ve alr stopped caring about salary and focus on a career with prospects instead.

I’m interested in a particular industry and I began sending in many resumes but to no avail. I’ve even applied for diploma level entry roles but still, there was no response. It’s quite disheartening to see ppl on linkedin with an irrelevant diploma background getting the job but mine was not considered.

Not even an interview chance for me to explain that I’m willing to start from the bottom of the industry for experience. I’ve also tried signing on but was unsuccessful as well.

There were times that I felt like a failure, a discouraged worker, and I do not believe that it was ever an employee’s market since a company can still function at the point of time before hiring you. I would think about jobs almost every night as I face reality and would shed a tear to sleep sometimes. It has been a long time since I ever truly felt pure happiness, enjoyment without any stress. I try to stay positive and distract myself, and have accepted the fact that because of my poor results and lack of networking skills, I just have to take a longer route.

It was also during this period I came across the term NEET- Not in Education, Employment or Training. I read some of the forums where other ppl around the world share their NEEThood and was shocked to see that ppl are actually seriously discussing about ending their lives. This sort of woke me up and that I’ve learnt to stop comparing lives with others and also to ignore other ppl’s opinion about me. I am not giving up and am still continuing to apply for jobs. To the OP of Confession32538, tough times don’t last, tough man do.”

long story short i didn’t call my partner’s parents “auntie, uncle” six years ago and now i can’t get myself to cause it’ll be so weird to just start… and they seem to be expecting it (?)

i know this seems like a small problem to have but just thinking about it makes all my cells shrink into the darkest crevices of my body

i didn’t call them that because i was scared they’ll be offended, you know how some people get offended when you call them auntie/uncle and it has happened to me before at a workplace.

but now it has backfired and seems like i’m disrespectful when i say hello and bye without saying auntie and uncle.

anyways my partner and i are planning to get married and im dreading the day i need to call them “dad/mom” i think i’ll die of shame, i don’t even think i can look at them in the eyes anymore…

i just wish it was the norm here for everyone to just use names instead idk

HELP

Netizens’ comments

Wow don’t know how you manage to avoid addressing either of them for 6 years. True feat.

Just ask your partner to initiate a conversation

• Partner: Mom, Dad, now that we are getting married, OP would like to know of how to address you. Is Mom/Dad ok or stick with uncle/auntie?
• OP: acts like Uncle/Auntie was always the default

Don’t force it la