My best friend’s awesome dad is sleeping with my mom. I introduced them and now my best friend is upset with me

Personally, I’m really happy for them. They’re really cute couple, always blushing when they’re together and being all goofy. I actually introduced my friend’s dad (34) to my mom (30) and they became friends immediately. My biological father is NOT a good person & has treated my mom horribly, so I’m happy she’s with a man that treats her sweet and respectfully.

My friend’s mom cheated on his dad, so he was pretty heartbroken for a long time. That’s when I decided to introduce him to my mom, they liked each other and the rest is history. Seriously, his dad was really depressed after his wife cheated. My friend loves his dad, but I never felt like he cared 100% about his feelings. The day I introduced his dad to my mom, he really lit up with happiness. It was pretty obvious he really needed someone to talk to and be with. Same for my mom, my biological dad was always awful to her, she too was super happy & all blushing when she first met my dad’s friend.

My best friend though is a little annoyed and pretty upset by everything (he thinks his dad doesn’t need a woman right now) and he also believes i should’ve told him before introducing his dad to my mom. I told him what his answer would’ve been if I told him first, he said it would’ve been a huge no. Thank god I didn’t mention it to him first, I think he’s being selfish. His dad was super hurt with the cheating situation and my friend isn’t thinking about his feeling at all. I believe my mom and his dad deserve each other. So yeah! I feel pretty happy they’re together. Also my mom is super young and very gorgeous, she deserves to be happy.

Plus, my friend’s dad is awesome! I’ve known him my whole life (my friend and I have known each other since elementary) so I know my mom is being treated beautifully by him. I also know my mom is treating him beautifully as well, she’s has kind and caring heart & I know they’re both in good hands.

Is it normal for my gf (f19) to talk to her ex (m20) all day everyday ?

My gf talks to her ex boyfriend every day without fail.

Whilst I trust her and trust nothing would happen I don’t feel comfortable her talking to him every day. They was only together a year but it was a well formed relationship, they met each others parents had “family days out” etc etc.

My past relationships have been very toxic and I don’t want to seem unfair or unreasonable by telling her I don’t feel comfortable with it.

I can’t see her being comfortable if it was the other way around. In fact I would feel so wrong and disrespectful if I was talking to my ex every day.

Netizens’ comments

• It’s not normal to talk to your ex all day, everyday when you’re in a relationship. I don’t think she’s over him. Ask her about it, tell her how you feel.
  Edit: What’s odd about it isn’t the fact that she talks to her ex, but the fact that it’s all day, everyday. Once in a while or regular communication is normal as some people can be friends with their ex’s without any remaining romantic feelings. But when it’s all day, everyday…
• most of my relationships ended on semi-good terms, every now again we wish each other a happy birthday, or comment if we see something cool on another’s story. but talking every day without fail is weird.
  your situation is not normal.
• You’re the extra in their love story, man. In their mind it’s about how they got back together even after years of separation. They already had one villain, don’t stay to become another. If she prioritised her current relationship, she wouldn’t have constantly been in touch with a guy she was emotionally and physically dependant on.
  This relationship is not her priority. I usually refrain from commenting “just leave/breakup’ but trust me, my man, this is not about insecurity or trust, she’s just not that into you.

I’ve graduated. I’m currently unemployed and is still job hunting.

Many ppl around gave different advices and at the end of the day, you just have to understand what exactly you want to achieve yourself.

I started off thinking I can get a good-paying job with my engineering degree since the news keep saying its the employee’s market at that moment. But after several applications, I received zero replies due to my lousy results and inexperience.

I reflected upon myself thinking if I want to pursue the career path as an engineer since I had already lost my interest in this field and my technical skills are not that great either. Being an engineer has became less appealing to me and I started to look into other industries. Since then, I’ve alr stopped caring about salary and focus on a career with prospects instead.

I’m interested in a particular industry and I began sending in many resumes but to no avail. I’ve even applied for diploma level entry roles but still, there was no response. It’s quite disheartening to see ppl on linkedin with an irrelevant diploma background getting the job but mine was not considered.

Not even an interview chance for me to explain that I’m willing to start from the bottom of the industry for experience. I’ve also tried signing on but was unsuccessful as well.

There were times that I felt like a failure, a discouraged worker, and I do not believe that it was ever an employee’s market since a company can still function at the point of time before hiring you. I would think about jobs almost every night as I face reality and would shed a tear to sleep sometimes. It has been a long time since I ever truly felt pure happiness, enjoyment without any stress. I try to stay positive and distract myself, and have accepted the fact that because of my poor results and lack of networking skills, I just have to take a longer route.

It was also during this period I came across the term NEET- Not in Education, Employment or Training. I read some of the forums where other ppl around the world share their NEEThood and was shocked to see that ppl are actually seriously discussing about ending their lives. This sort of woke me up and that I’ve learnt to stop comparing lives with others and also to ignore other ppl’s opinion about me. I am not giving up and am still continuing to apply for jobs. To the OP of Confession32538, tough times don’t last, tough man do.”

long story short i didn’t call my partner’s parents “auntie, uncle” six years ago and now i can’t get myself to cause it’ll be so weird to just start… and they seem to be expecting it (?)

i know this seems like a small problem to have but just thinking about it makes all my cells shrink into the darkest crevices of my body

i didn’t call them that because i was scared they’ll be offended, you know how some people get offended when you call them auntie/uncle and it has happened to me before at a workplace.

but now it has backfired and seems like i’m disrespectful when i say hello and bye without saying auntie and uncle.

anyways my partner and i are planning to get married and im dreading the day i need to call them “dad/mom” i think i’ll die of shame, i don’t even think i can look at them in the eyes anymore…

i just wish it was the norm here for everyone to just use names instead idk

HELP

Netizens’ comments

Wow don’t know how you manage to avoid addressing either of them for 6 years. True feat.

Just ask your partner to initiate a conversation

• Partner: Mom, Dad, now that we are getting married, OP would like to know of how to address you. Is Mom/Dad ok or stick with uncle/auntie?
• OP: acts like Uncle/Auntie was always the default

Don’t force it la

people think body dysmorphia can only happen to females, but it can happen to males too

from 2018-2021 , i was super focused on my body. i looked at the fitness youtube video and i trained 5-6 times a week at the gym except for circuit breaker.

my six packs became very well defined. even my calves are great. i prob can give mr singapore a run for his money. but i had to have a clean diet and gave up my social life. the hardest part was food

breakfast – plain oats, 4 hardboiled eggs, 2 tomatoes for breakfast

lunch – i would pack food to school. few scoops brown rice + generous amount of steamed chicken, cucumber slices

dinner – few scoops brown rice again, generous amount steamed chicken, 1 fruit

supper – 2 blocks of plain tofu, another tomato

but deep down i wasnt happy. i craved for hotpot. i craved for midnight prata/thai food supper session with my friends

so i gave in. and i joined my friends for supper and eight month later i am a much happier person. i still can do 15 standard pull ups (full elbow extension, and chin clear the bar by 1 inch at least). my body fat has gone to a more normal 20%. i no longer feel hunger pangs. i gained 8kg. but every ounce is worth it.

always remember looks is external. happiness the most important. plus i feel more energetic now

dont let the instagram models (males or females) cloud your judgement. you have a choice. you do not have to look like them. YOU can choose a happy life

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Injured at work that requires a lot of travelling and carrying heavy luggage, can’t quit because of 1k contract bond thingy

Job desc: Working FT as a house call manicurist – however few days back I had a bad fall down a flight of stairs as I was overworked and my luggage (17kg) dragged me down the stairs, landing on my tailbone.

Injury: I can’t really walk well due to this and it’s worsened because I have to always carry a very heavy metal luggage. Even sitting on the floor hurts it so badly and I haven’t gotten it checked. Sometimes it will hurt a bit, sometimes it hurts so bad I can’t even lift my foot and I’ll cry

Workplace: Doesn’t care if I’m injured, overworks employees for almost 12hours plus with no compensation or transport allowance. Welfare is also really bad and can’t take leave because they don’t have enough employees to cover up for the massive discount campaigns they’re having. In return we would always have to rush back to back across appointments, and most of the time I wouldn’t be able to even eat.

I want to leave but: the company stated that I would have to pay them $1000 for the training that they gave initially, as well as another $700 ish for the equipment. I don’t mind paying for the equipment but $1000 for the training is a lot.

Help needed: I will be going to polyclinic this week and probably do an X Ray as well, is there any way I can sort of “negate” and not pay for the $1k bond due to the injury? My company will most likely not foot for the injury and medical bills as they will surely claim that I fell down after my job has ended. I’m not sure if TAFEP/MOM or other agencies can help with this, as I can’t possibly suffer and keep working if my body is really so worn out.

Netizens’ comments

• You should have reported the fall right away. Go see a doctor and get it documented asap. Report it to your company and MOM, file an accident report.
  Your medical bills should be covered by your company.
• This injury will cost you way more than 1.7k in the long run.
  Stop working immediately, go to the a and e, tell them exactly what happened. Inform them of the pain, mention that your job is physical and that you need a medical cert (MC) and a doctor’s letter exempting you from any physical/strenuous activity pending further tests.
  All these the doctor will know what to do. Doctors usually dgaf about what job ask you do or whatever, if you’re seriously at risk of further injury or pain, they don’t need much telling.

My son is product of my ex’s affair

I’m raising an 8 year old boy who is not my bio kid. My ex-wife cheated on me and got pregnant. She wasn’t sure if it was mine because she was on birth control.

When he turned two, it became obvious that he wasn’t mine and my marriage was over. My ex tried to shut me out of his life but over the years I got physical custody and she pays me child support.

For all purposes he is my son emotionally and legally. I don’t think he knows how he was sired. We do not look alike and it’s becoming more obvious as he gets older.

He looks like his bio father. It kills me how hurt he will be if and when he finds out. He will because he’s very into science and asks questions about his heritage.

I try to smother him with as much love as possible and hope he’s not too hurt by everyone not telling him the truth.

Netizens’ comments

• A dad is the person who raises you into a man. Not the one that made you. Kudos to you bro. You’re a great man.
• I’m adopted, and I have to urge you to tell him as soon as you can. It is much better to know this and grow up knowing it rather than find out when your in your 20s or 30s…so many options may be unavailable to him at that point, and it’s such a shock…
  At 8, you can tell him and he’ll understand slowly. It won’t be nearly as big of a deal. He’ll just know that he’s loved and taken care of, you can explain this to him on terms that you both are comfortable with right now, and you can explain to him that nothing has to change. I really cannot stress to you enough how much better it will be than if he finds out later in life, and especially if not by you, but by someone out of anger or hate.
  Good luck.

I am starting to find dating boring, tiring and expensive. I also find that it is unfair that guys have to do almost everything. I will be putting the juicy part about me complaining about girls’ lack of efforts in dates in the 3rd last para. Burn me if you want to in the comments section. If you think girls put in a lot more effort than guys, list the things in the comments as well. Would love to hear about those.

Most of the time it goes to 2-3 dates and some don’t even go beyond 1. The worst ones are those that you spend weeks or months on the app and never meet in real life. I love it when they find something stupid to stop dating me like my salary or my choice in music (yup that happened) or because I don’t drink alcohol or the best one and the most common one, because I want to have sex after marriage. I do ask them why they want to stop and those are the reasons they give. The more polite girls use the ghosting method which makes me feel more respected,

My salary, though average, is definitely sufficient to run a family. I am just no rich. You do realise that I could get a better job in the future right? I might be the next Elon Musk who speaks singlish. Get ready to eat your words!

Oh yes, if I was a girl and I wanted sex after marriage, my wish is to be respected and I am apparently holy. If I have the same request as a guy, I am a loser? Love the double standard!!!

I only reject girls who are rude, manipulative or think they are made of gold unlike everyone else

The rule is that guy has to pay for the first date so free meal for the lady. If I ask to go dutch, I seem petty. If I pick a simple place, they complain so i have to find something that is at least mid tier. To be honest, I don’t mind paying for meals even it means for the rest of our lifes together. The problem is that we stop seeing each other after a few dates and this happens so often. I am losing a lot of money.

I also feel that the guy has to put in more effort. Come on, the competition is rough out there. I am not exactly Chris Evans. To make myself stand out, I have to put a lot more effort. Based on the person’s profile, I would think of a relevant place or activity for the dates. I would research about the things they mention in their profile like a certain sport or some famous figure. We will have more to talk about and most of the time, it impresses most of them except for the ice queens. They just need to come and enjoy the date, no effort from them at all. They might not even remember my profile or what was in it. If the date sucks, then it is my fault. Yes, I feel amazing when that happens, especially listening to them complain.

I have done this dating thing so many times that I have a routine like those guys performing shows on stages. I have experimented on various jokes or types of humor and found the most optimal ones. The only thing is that since I pay attention to their profile, I might customise it to them. We also talk about the things. Literally the same darn things. Deal breakers, interests, etc. Same thing over and over and over and over and over and over and over (approaches infinity).

As i mentioned, I am not Chris Evans but I do groom myself as best as I can. Most girls would come to dates in a decent outfit. I love it when girls come as if they just woke up from their bed and show how much they care about the date.

I find the lack of effort from girls extremely annoying. Some come to dates not remembering my profile. If the conversation is dry, I have to be the one who has to keep it lively and prevent it from turning awkward. Most girls don’t even try anything. They get free meal on the first date. They don’t have to plan dates. They can give the uninterested face and it is fine. If I do it, then it is a sin.

Out of all the girls I have dated, only 3, that is right, only 3 girls have seemed to put in effort. 2 of them made an effort to keep the conversation fun. The last girl planned the second date voluntarily. I am still friends with all 3 of them till today because they are WORTH IT.

Honestly, I don’t mind putting the effort. It is fun to do some of the things. If nothing else, the least I expect is for the girl to put in effort into the conversation and as a plus, remember something about me from my profile or our chats. The problem I have is that despite putting in all the effort, it keeps failing for stupid reasons (2nd para). Guys deserve to be respected too by the way.