SG ❤️ – someone returned my lost wallet

Went out for a run this morning and 10km later realised my wallet had managed to fall out of my pocket. I walked back the last 2km or so of the run without seeing it and realised it would be very unlikely to find it that way. Went home and put blocks on my cards, applied for a replacement IC.

6pm tonight I was on a work call when someone rang the doorbell. He said his employee had found the wallet this morning outside their business and passed it to him.

There was a few hundred dollars untouched in the wallet, all my cards there, and he refused to take a reward for his effort going out of his way to drop it off.

Some days you just have to wonder at how great people in this city are. Thank you Singapore!

Netizens’ comments

• I’ve noticed this about Singapore where I’ve left things at busy restaurants by mistake, went back several hours later to either find it untouched or picked up and kept aside by the staff. It’s a really comforting feeling!
• Dropped my wallet on a feeder bus, on concession so didn’t tap out and didn’t even realise it was gone, woke up next morning by my sister who said a couple came by to return my wallet :’)
• Experienced this today as well! Not me, but my dad misplaced his wallet in a rental car. He didn’t even notice it! Till some kind souls drove all the way to our place to return the wallet. Thankful that we do have great young people around!
• Had a good meal and left my work laptop at a restaurant. Sauntered out satisfied from my meal and was window shopping for 15minutes when I thought about the work I need to do at home. Then something felt amiss and my laptop to do my work is missing. I ran back to restaurant and the staff handed it back to me…. Whew…

My friend and I travelled to the Philippines from Oct – Nov. We were supposed to travel on another flight to one of the islands there, but due to the typhoon, our flight was delayed and subsequently cancelled much later.

We were stranded in the airport for about 18 hours and were given the option of a replacement flight which is not inline with our travel schedule, so we did not take it.

When we came back to Singapore, we wanted to make claims for our mishap.

My friend got his claim in just 3 days, no questions asked for $300, while mine, which took almost a month, was concluded at only $78, for cost of flight ticket that was cancelled.

When asked, they said they will only reimburse for the flight tickets only for trip disruption and not trip delay, because we did not take up the replacement flight (this is not stated on the T&C).

I asked for further explanation on what is their interpretation of trip delay, but that was not offered any.

So any advice on this? Can we also claim for the hotels that we have to booked in place of our pre-booked hotel because we didn’t make it to the island? Or can we claim for the hours we spent in the airport?

(PS. the claim officer in FWD was extremely hostile in asking my friend to return them the excess amount after reviewing my case, which my friend did return, albeit not even a word of apology from them)

My widow mother want to go everywhere with my husband and I and it drives me crazy

My father died 5 years ago ever since then my mom has been my responsibility. She sold her house and moved into the same neighbourhood as me which I was against from the start.

When my husband and I go grocery shopping or anywhere she wants to come. She calls me first thing in the morning on Saturdays to ask what we are doing. We want to go away for a weekend she wants to come. She calls every night to see what we are having for dinner. If we go out to eat she has to come with us.

I feel smothered here I moved out only a few month before my father died and now I feel like we might as well still live together. I feel like I have to make sure she is fed and she has groceries. If I tell her she can’t come somewhere with us she mopes. I lie to her about where we are and what we are going and I feel terrible about.

I didn’t answer her phone call so she called me 4 more times texted me twice and started blowing up my husbands phone all in the span of 10 mins. We haven’t gone on a honeymoon yet because she keeps saying she wants to come because she has no one to travel with.

She has a part time job and friends there. When I ask her why she doesn’t hang out with them she tells me they are just work friends not real friends.

I can’t take it anymore I am an adult I need to live me own life away from my mother I need space. But at the same time I feel terrible because she is a window and alone. I also feel bad because she my only parent and I need to spend time with her while she is still here or i will regret it for the rest of my life.

The worst part is I have an older brother that doesn’t do anything for her . He’s been to her home once since she moved in. She goes over and she watches his kids every weeknight for a few hours then leaves his house and immediately calls me to hound me for dinner.

I’m so sick of it I don’t know what to do here. I know she is a widow and alone but I need to have my own life. I also feel a bit resentful because I feel like I never got to deal with my dads death properly because I spent so much time and effort worrying about her.

How do you go through life as a person who isn’t academically inclined?

Been failing my whole life.

Got a shitty psle score, went into Normal Academic

Got a really bad N level grade

Did really bad for ITE in both Nitec and Higher Nitec

I’m in a part-time course in poly and its not looking so good either

I don’t really know what my options are with navigating life and I feel so trapped and lost

Netizens’ comments

• Not everyone is paper smart, some are more hands on street smart ppl.
  Find what you’re good at and use that to your advantage.
• It’s about self-awareness first. Are you not “academically inclined” because of:
  Too dumb to understand the academic content
  Bad familial and social environment
  Lazy/unmotivated about life in general
  If it’s the first 2 then there is still hope for you. If it’s the last one then you’re screwed.
• What is something that you enjoy doing? Something that interests you, energizes you, makes you feel happy doing, something you’re passionate about.
  There’re always tonnes of possibilities to be in a field that you love that generates income, if you hang on to the determination to find that possibility and believe there’s something out there for you. Don’t give up OP, give yourself a chance to try all sorts of opportunities. You are definitely made for something that you’re gonna be good at.
• I understand your feelings, but just because you aren’t “academically inclined” (I say this with inverted commas cuz tbh I feel the education system doesn’t cater to everyone well), doesn’t mean you are screwed for life. There is always a way to navigate thru life, you will find it. I believe in you.
  Are there things you enjoy doing? Activities that you can do with confidence yet learn something new and the time just flies by super quick? Maybe that’s where your niche lies. Maybe you could take baby steps by doing some part time work/internships in this niche? Or take a free online course to learn more about it.
  Also, not sure if relevant, but don’t compare yourself to others. You go at your own journey. There is nothing right or wrong in that.
• like many have said, grades isn’t everything. but at the same time, i can’t help but think you didn’t try hard enough. nobody is born stupid (less those with mental disabilities, bless them), singapore’s education system may not be perfect, but i think it’s one of the best you can get in terms of “level playing field”. till you decide to buck up and work harder – be it in sch now or when you are at work, your chance at success is getting slimmer as days past. only you know yourself what you can do better kid. be honest to yourself, nobody owes u anything. just don’t regret later on. all the best.

When to treat your first date?

So I met a sgprean girl through dating app. We talked everyday and she was damn enthu on the chat. It was a good 9-hour date. I also treated her to almost all of the activities.

Sadly, i’m being ghosted and she doesn’t even bother to offer a split bill. How do I approach this situation? It was a big amount of money.

What should I do if a girl does not offer to split bill? Felt kena scammed here…

Here are what netizens think:

• Just spend within your means next time. No need to go all out since you’re only meeting for the first time and barely know each other.

• I think is the person la. I will only split or pay for it if I have no intention to see the person anymore. Like I will insist to pay, so he don’t say, last time I treat, this time your turn. I don’t even want that conversation. Lol.

• first date should be short and sweet. a meal to get to know each other and that’s it. at most, simple dessert after if things go well.

• My goodness, how much did you spend? There are dates who only want freebies, so please spend within your means. If you are going to an expensive place and want to split the bill, best to discuss about that first before the date. And avoid dining at MBS or other tourist places.

• Bro – u use the word treat. Meaning it is a gift or showcase of your generosity. If want to be a stingy guy, don’t skirt chase. Want to go Dutch then say upfront before meeting. Don’t gaslight Liao then cry mother cry father cry whisperer. We just read and laugh at your expense.

Attracted to my (33F) friend who is 10 years older than me (23M)

I’m 23, we met about 2 months ago through some common friends. Since then, we’ve been speaking with each other almost everyday, and went out a couple of times with that same group of friends.

Last time we went out (with that same group) to a couple of bars and had some drinks. she held my arm and said that she was afraid to fall since the sidewalk was slippery.

She would immediately grab me as soon as we left a bar, even though there were plenty of people there with her age that could hold her.

She already said that she feels comfortable around me and i can tell that she doesn’t mind when our lips are like 2 cm a part (usually happens at the club since the music is so loud) and being touchy.

At the same time she could also just really like me as a friend and since im really bad at reading people i’ve come to ask for your help.

Tomorrow we are going to watch a movie so i might get more hints as to where i’m standing.

Im not good at my job and and have wasted years in a career that’s going nowhere

When I was 22, I got a job at a startup as an executive assistant. Being a chaotic startup with no structure and few employees, they allowed me to work in areas I wouldn’t have been able to off merit alone. Basically, they put me on the marketing team with no education in marketing but didn’t have anyone there to teach me anything about marketing.

Well I spent three years at the company. Every 6 months or so they’d move me to a different position where they needed someone. I could figure out just enough to get the job done okay but never became really good at anything because I was constantly switching positions.

I then left the company and based on my resume with a 3 year “marketing” background, I got a really good job. I’ve had a year now at this company riddled with anxiety feeling like I have no idea what I’m doing. My coworkers are great at what they do and I’m an amateur. Now my resume says 4 years of marketing but I feel like I really have the equivalent of a year and have realized I don’t even like marketing. I was kind of thrown into it and figured it was a great opportunity but now I feel so stuck.

I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and still no idea where to go from here or what I’ve done to advance my future. The jobs I could get with my resume, I wouldn’t be capable of accepting. I just know I don’t have the skills.

Lusting after a male colleague

Started a new job this year, best move I’ve made as the last job I was in was full of toxicity. Everything was going great, brilliant team, absolutely adore all of my colleagues, we all get on very well.

One in particular, one of the few male colleagues, stands out to me. I find myself getting kind of nervous around him, almost like when I was in school and fancied someone.

Now, I’m in a relationship and have been for nearly a decade. He is married, but recently broke up with his wife.

I feel guilty because I want him, but I’m happy where I am and I’m too scared to say anything to him, I also don’t think it’s appropriate given his situation, but I can’t help but lust after him. What do I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. Crushes on colleagues are pretty normal. Enjoy the fantasy, keep it to yourself, and let it pass.
2. Here is the best advice you will never take. Don’t shit where you eat…feel free to not take it like most of the population.

I never thought I would find myself in this situation.

I am a 29-year-old man who has just been caught sniffing my sister’s panties. It’s a confession that fills me with shame and embarrassment, but I feel like I need to get it off my chest.

It all started when I was rummaging through my sister’s drawer, looking for something to wear to go downstairs.

I didn’t have anything clean and I figured she wouldn’t mind if I borrowed one of her shirts. But as I was going through her clothes, I came across a pair of her panties. I don’t know why, but I felt a sudden urge to sniff them. I know it sounds weird, but I couldn’t help myself. I picked them up and took a deep breath in.

The smell was intoxicating

It was a mix of her natural scent and the smell of her perfume. I don’t know how long I stood there sniffing her panties, but before I knew it, my sister walked in. She was shocked and disgusted to see me standing there with her underwear in my hand. She screamed at me and ran out of the room.

I knew I had done something wrong, but I didn’t know how to explain it to her. I tried to apologize, but she didn’t want to hear it. She accused me of being a pervert and said she never wanted to see me again. I was heartbroken. I had lost my sister’s trust and respect, and I didn’t know how to fix things.

I decided to seek help and talk to a therapist about my behaviour. I learned that what I did was called fetishism, a condition in which a person is aroused by objects or body parts. My therapist helped me understand that my behaviour was not normal and that I needed to work on changing it.

It’s been a long and difficult journey, but with the help of my therapist and the support of my family, I have been able to overcome my problem.

I still feel ashamed and embarrassed about what I did, but I am determined to move on and become a better person. I have learned to respect my sister and her personal boundaries, and I am working on rebuilding the trust and bond we once shared.

An idiotic boss

I just tender my resignation after 10 years in the company.

During this 10 years i did commit a couple of mistakes at work. The problem is that those who is gang with the boss commit mistake get away scot free.

My mistakes are always publicised, emphasised and highlighted to the team and the whole company. This is to a point my reputation and personal well-being is affected as I always need to look behind my back.

Exit interview I am again reminded of the mistakes of the boss.

Is there karma in the world? Why does she have to keep on biting on my shortcomings?

I felt terrible and demoralised and internalise that I am simply no good.

Here are what netizens think:

• Just focus on your well-being and find a better job. If it’s not possible, you can consider starting a business of your own.

• Yes, I do think there’s karma in the world, but you may not get to see your ex-boss get her just desserts. Just focus on your well-being. Hopefully your next job will be so much better.

• Your boss name starts with Ong right?

• I understand mistakes are normally due to one of three things: workload, training, or personal reasons. The employee may have too much on their plate, they may need to be trained further, or (most difficult of all) they may have a personal issue that is affecting their performance, such as a sick relative who needs frequent care.

• Berating people for their past mistakes never achieves anything and doesn’t put them on a path to improvement. If they were nagging me about past mistakes at the exit interview, I’d be even more glad I’m leaving