If you are sick, don’t come into work

I can’t believe I have to say this in 2022, especially since my work has the option of working from home. So I am part time in the office, I come in on Monday and am in line at the cafeteria. The guy in front of me apologizes to the cashier because he’s so sick he lost his voice. Ooookay?

I get to my desk and set up, guy at the next desk has a bad cough, the lady across the room can’t stop sneezing. I can hear people in respiratory distress all over the place. They are not even masked up. So I packed up and went home.

I am NOT getting Covid again because these idiots can’t be asked to at LEAST work from home when sick. Or take a sick day, I don’t care. GTFO. And we have a mandatory three hour all hands meeting next with with a couple hundred people packed into a conference room, IN PERSON.

This is unacceptable. It is like 2020 2021 never happened. Remember when we could only eat with others with a plexiglass wall between us? Remember having to prove you didn’t have a fever just to get in the door? Remember mandatory masking? Remember social distancing? REMEMBER STAYING HOME WHEN YOU ARE SICK? What was it all for?

As far as I know Covid never went away and now we are in the middle of flu season. I see this as a failure of management as much as a failure of common sense and I will be bringing it up to management.

Been in my job for about a year and i’m starting to feel really jaded about my job (from colleagues, to the culture, job scope etc). The only thing i’m looking forward to everyday is ending work, weekends, and payday.

Some days are more bearable than others. On certain days, i feel like ending work the moment i step into the office.

I can’t find any joy or sparks in this job at all (except for some freedom from my boss), as she doesn’t micromanage me on a daily basis.

Every week the only day i enjoy fully is on Sat, cos on Sunday i would start feeling the blues from starting work next day.

It doesn’t help that i have certain colleagues here that enjoy playing politics/stirring sh*t within my department, and make our work life even more unbearable.

Would you hold out longer if you feel this way about your job? Or are you equally jaded and just waiting for the day to pass, or for the weekends/holidays?

Netizens’ comments

• I feel damn jaded too. I think im burnt out and hence am clearing leave to see if it helps. If i come back still feel jaded, then time to quit. Take 2 to 3 mth break and find a new role after that.
• Was in a job where I kept asking myself “Do I want to be doing this for the rest of my life?”
  Promotion or not it’s still the same job, just more responsibilities and expectations.
  My answer to my question is no, as I didn’t look forward to work and cannot stand bosses that only want to squeeze out every last drop of productivity from me without proper reward or recognition.
• Contrary to popular belief, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with only looking forward to COB, weekends or payday actually; your workplace isn’t your life. It does help to feel great at the workplace, but don’t beat yourself up if you don’t!
  Personally I feel what’s more important is having a reason for a job in the first place. Obviously you need to eat, pay rent, etc, but being focused on personal growth in terms of hobbies or skill development is just as, if not more, important.
  Is it possible that you’re not really jaded about the job, but the workplace (employees, culture, environment) and the assignments you’ve been given? You mentioned politics and sh*t stirring, so perhaps it’s the people that you’re around which affects you more than the industry/job itself.

grab driver forgot to press pick up until halfway through the ride?

I boarded the grab on time, didn’t incur any added charges but halfway through the ride i got a notification stating that i had incurred an additional $6 even though i was already on the grab.

Told the uncle about it and he said he forgot to press, and pressed it infront of me. He said to split it and he’ll give me $3 cash but I said i’ll just contact grab instead.

He didn’t want to involve grab but i’m thinking to do so anyway cause i don’t want to pay an additional $3 for something that isn’t my mistake(?).

Netizens’ comments

• Record your conversation now. Tell the uncle you will report to grab if he doesn’t pay you $6
• Split lan, he will then earn the $3 , just talk to grab.
• Why would you want to split if it’s not your fault though? I don’t get the rationale. I would say report to grab.
• Oh gosh.. I guess it’s true, this is a new scam tactic done by some notorious grab drivers. They simply pretend that they forget to press the pick up button as the fee you incur will be directly transferred to them. 😐
• Walao whether or not the uncle genuinely forgot, his logic to split damn champion. Some brains are more smooth than others
• Complain to grab. Next time take screenshots in the middle of the journey to prove you’re alr on the ride — make sure can see the start/end pins and your locator pin. If your notifications still have the [“your driver has arrived” – xx mins ago] i would screenshot that too. Basically give grab whatever info you can.

Bf (24M) told me (24F) I’m not as attractive as his ex

I(24F) have been with my bf(24F) for almost a year. This is the best relationship I’ve ever had. He’s sweet, thoughtful, and pretty much everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. I can truly see myself spending the rest of my life with this person, getting married someday, having kids together.

Lately he’s been kind of distant though, so I brought it up to him and asked him if everything was ok. I was expecting him to just tell me he’s kind of stressed, he does seem kind of stressed from work. But instead he told me he hasn’t really felt inspired to spend time with me because I”m not as beautiful as his ex. But he also still loves me, and thinks I’m a much nicer person, with the best personality he’s ever seen.

I’m really hurt, but I don’t know if I should be. It is just simply true that I’m not as pretty as the ex. Like she’s literally gorgeous. Before this comment it’s never really been a big deal to me, I know I’m pretty average, but he’s choosing to be with me right now. Also I guess if I really think about it my bf isn’t conventionally attractive, but the difference is I never even thought to compare him to any of my exes, or to anyone else I’ve seen. He’s the most attractive possible person to me because of who he is, inside out. Isn’t that kind of the same thing? And shouldn’t my personality matter more, which he says is better? So why am I so hurt?

I told him that I was really hurt, and he apologized, but says that it’s just how it is. I don’t know where to go from here.

Sorry if this doesn’t really make sense, it’s really making a mess of my head

Difficult traveling partners

Bg: we’re a group of 4 adults in our late 20s who are friend for 10 years or more!

We often travel together to Malaysia for a one day trip or 2D1N. We have a fix driver, a female who enjoys driving and a back up driver.

The driver have a brother who is 4 years her senior. We know her brother (B) but is not close with him.

Anyways we decided on a 2D1N trip to Melaka and B decided to join us since he have to clear leave. Our driver was quite hesitant but it still happened.

When the trip started, we understand Why.

Her brother is the kind if super spoiled child. And worst, the kind that didn’t went through army training (managed to siam with doctor letter of an old injury + some acting)! Anyways, don’t know the details.

Also not saying all males that didn’t went through army is as spoiled as him!!

Back to story, he is very temperamental like something random can trigger him. We booked a AirBNB with 2 rooms. One of which have a 2 bunk beds.

Being the only 2 females, we are allocated the room with a queen size bed. The guys sleep in the room with bunk beds.

B went all quiet about the decision but he probably think it’s too ‘unmanly’ to snatch the room from 2 females. Especially with all the other guys agreeing.

The next morning, he kept asking for Teh but there’s none at the place we took breakfast and we drove to another cafe to let him have his Teh but then the cafe was closed. We suggested Starbubks or Coffee Bean but he say they’re expensive and not as nice. In the end we decided to go to the souvenir shop first then try to find Teh for him. But his face black already.

Later it was his one man show – showing how a man baby is like! Basically kept throwing unpopular and insulting ‘jokes’ whenever we tried to get him involved in our conversations and whenever we try to lift up the mood.

We thought it’s just a one time off incident that it could be a bad/tiring day for him bt we quickly know it’s always! And his tantrums just get worst – TV volume turn ip to 20+ When 13 is loud enough, not eating etc.

On the night of our last day, he sort of argued with his sister and then refused to help pack the luggage. In the end we all help him pack just to leave on time as planned.

Now we are planning another shot trip and he wants to join us too. Wondering how to turn him down without my friend kena sia…

How should I move on? (Part 2)

I am the OP of this story.

Part 2

To further elaborate, we are both single. The complication lies in the nature of our work. Let’s put it this way, we are in an industry where it is unlikely possible to “switch career”.

Our jobs have a certain level of exposure. One wrong move and it can be disastrous. This is why I am struggling. I don’t want to look back and regret but at the same time, making an advance might cause a bigger regret.

It is not as simple as making that first move and see where it takes us because the uncertainty that comes after will be our greatest fear to move forward. Like I mentioned in my earlier post, no matter what the outcome is, most likely one of us still have to sacrifice our career. Why? If we are together, there will be a conflict of interest. If confession failed, the bond will never be the same again. We cherish this connection so much that we will not do anything funny to destroy it.

I don’t think anyone here can truly feel my struggle.

And I am not expecting a perfect answer. I just want to know your thoughts in general. Should I just continue loving him in a different capacity?

And if YOU are reading this, I just want to tell you that I genuinely care and want the best for you. It’s unfortunate that we are caught in this limbo.

Then again, I think of the present moment and feel blessed that this job allows us to connect deeply, emotionally though in a different context but still, in that moment. ily

I started to fall for my boyfriend’s friend.

I’m falling in love with my boyfriend’s friend (let’s call him H here). Something about H attracted me a lot. It started few months back and I thought it might be just a silly crush.

I don’t always hang out with H. It’s always in a group. But somehow he caught my attention. I don’t think he is interested in me because he just got out of a relationship. And obviously, I am attached. I will not act on it but these few days H is constantly on my mind.

Few days back, we were all out drinking together, and the club got crowded and we all wanted get out of the place. So my boyfriend was standing in front, he hold my hand and signalled me to hold whoever is behind me and let’s get out of the dance floor.

So H was behind me, and I didn’t think much and just grab his hand. Out of all the guy friends that I had would not respond when I grab their hand, or just stiffed up their hand, but H actually readjusted his hand so that we could hold each other’s hand properly. I felt the sparks in that short 10 sec. I feel guilty and happy at the same time.

I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I’m with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. Should I talk to my boyfriend about this feeling or just let it go away? Please help. I know I will not act on it. Just need some advice before I do something that I’ll regret.

Thank you in advanced.

Here are what netizens think:

• Let it go. Telling your boyfriend will only make him feel uncomfortable, and you already know you won’t act on it no matter what, so don’t put him in a spot. That crush you’re experiencing is only temporary and will fade.

• I think with the presence of this crush of yours, there’s already a problem within your relationship. If you don’t love your bf anymore, better to break up, heal and move on without taking any action on his friend. There’s always karma.

• Let me first warn you, if you break up with your bf and go with H then things might get ugly because he is your boyfriend’s friend. They 2 will definitely fall out as friend or some may even fight because of you. Do you want that to happen? Ask yourself do you still love your boyfriend? If yes, honestly tell your bf you still love him but somehow you got this crush. Tell your bf not to bring you out in group when H is around. Let time erase this crush. If your boyfriend is mature enough he will understand you tell him out of love and he will know what to do.

• I bet your bf doesn’t have a brother else I’m sure you would have fallen for him.

My wife has decided to change careers and try her hand at real estate.

My friend had mentioned in past conversations that he and his family wanted a bigger place but the market was too high at the moment and they want a particular house in a particular district, so they are fine staying put for the moment.

I had a shock when I checked the amount on my credit card bill one day as I do not really use my credit card and hence thought that I might have been a victim of a credit card fraud.

However after some investigations, I realised that it is not a credit card fraud but rather it is my boyfriend being a fraud.

We do not really stay together as my parents are more conservative and so usually I would just go over to his house and go back home by the end of the night.

He must have took my credit card and used it when I accidentally left my wallet at his place one day.

The scary thing to me was actually not the amount on my credit card statement, but the company which the transactions were made to.

After questioning him about the usage of my credit card, he finally admitted that he had used it to subscribe to some ‘premium’ content on one of the ‘special sites’.

He even showed me the collection of those ‘premium’ content and asked if I wanted to watch together.

Am I being too conservative which made my boyfriend decide to do what he did?

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My best friend used to work as a waitress at a pub where all the waitresses are Singapore girls.

While the pay scheme for waitresses in these type of pubs are good, she will always complain that she has to end work late and that the pub boss does not provide transport to them.

Guy sends her home everyday

There is this customer of hers who would text her from time to time, trying to make small talk and ask her out every time.

He had ask for her number on the first time she served him at the pub and she gave it to him because it was easier for her to make reservations for him which would in turn make her money.

Every time she was working, he would show up faithfully and even wait for her to end work, at times just sitting alone and drinking alone because she had to hop around to entertain other customers.

After she ends work for the day, he would always offer to send her for supper and then home and she would never have to pay a single cent whenever she goes for supper or take a ride from him.

She even said that at times, he would tell his friends who go to the pub with him that he cannot join them for their second round or supper because he needs to wait for her to end work and send her home.

She said that she has never asked him to do so, but enjoys making use of him for free food and to save on Grab fares and therefore she allows him to continue doing so.

She claims that this is the best way, killing two birds with one stone because on one hand she can let the guy think that he has a chance and on the other hand, she still gets to earn from the guy in terms of her commission from his reservations, free food and free transport home.

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