I’m 19 and started smoking at 15. I know it’s a bad habit, and I know people’s view on it, but whatever. I was depressed and felt numb and didn’t care what I was doing. One of my teachers at the time (who was known for being super strict and mean) found out and called my mom personally instead of going through the school and doing all of that stuff.

My mom was livid but instead of trying to understand why I started or having a discussion about mental health, I was taken to her boyfriend’s house and locked in my bedroom for 3 months straight. I missed 3 months of school and she told the school that I was in a ‘rehab centre’.

Luckily I had an en-suite bathroom, and she brought me my meals but it did literally nothing but show me mom was unhinged. I’m 19 and I still smoke, more than I did at 15. I am trying to quit though, so yay for me.

Anyway, I ended up going back to my old school for something and I saw my old teacher (the one who grassed me up). She asked what I was doing nowadays and all that small talk and then she asked if I still smoked.

I’m not going to lie, seeing her smug face just made me so angry. I know my mom is to blame for my ‘punishment’ but she grassed me up.

She ignored the school’s protocols. She deliberately did a workaround so she didn’t have to do the safeguarding paperwork. So I said ‘no I still smoke’. She looked upset and said ‘after all that time in the centre, you’d think you’d have better habits.’

I just laughed and said ‘You have no effing idea what happened, huh? I never went to rehab. I was taken to my mother’s bf home to be locked in a room for 3 months. All because you refused to report it the proper way for safeguarding. F you.’ She ended up ‘chasing’ me up the road and asked if what I said was true.

I said yes. She began genuinely crying and apologizing. I said ‘I’m sorry but I can never forgive you. I don’t believe you had my best interests at heart otherwise you would have done it the right way and gone through the school.’

The whole thing was very emotionally draining and I told my boyfriend (who can be a little slow when it comes to others’ emotions and social cues). He said I should have ‘given her peace of mind’ by accepting her apologies even if I didn’t mean it. He said it was ‘spiteful’ and ‘douchey’ of me to harp on about how bad person she is.

I got an email from her apologizing again but I have responded.

I’m 31, have been with my boyfriend M, 37 (who’s a single dad with 2 boys) for 2 years. He has a decent job with a decent income and sports as a hobby.

For Days, Bdays and every other celebration, He’d gift me mostly jewellery and I get him his favourite gadgets or sports gear. For this Valentine I got him sneakers, I found out today that his gift for me was a handmade wooden framed photo of him, me, and the kids. I gotta say I wasn’t thrilled with it.

When I told my boyfriend my honest opinion (I didn’t wanna open my mouth but he pushed me) He said he couldn’t believe this was my reaction but I pointed out that he has money for a $2,000 necklace at least so I could wear it at the engagement party.

But he said I was out of line to imply he was being cheap when all he was doing was to make me a special gift and also had the kids help with it and put so much thought and effort into it because they see me like family and I should be appreciative of that.

I said I was but still thought he could’ve added the necklace as a great combo but he got even madder saying he couldn’t understand why I’d value a necklace as much as or even over a special gift he and the kids made for me.

We went back and forth on this and breakfast got ruined. He went upstairs and refused to speak to me. I feel like he blew this out of proportion since he asked for my opinion and I don’t know if he has the right to be upset with me now.

Here are what netizens think:

• superficial materialistic pok pok gei . Just because he can afford it does not mean he has to buy it. You are judging his love for you based on the price of the item. Sounds just like the chicken i paid for.

• So you don’t have enough jewellery yet? How many necks do you have?

• it’s weird to always expect high-value gifts, especially on Valentine’s Day. Not a great way to take a gift symbolically adding you to the family. Wear the first necklace he ever gave you to the party… literally can’t imagine wanting new jewelry every year how boring

My brother who is 27 is currently engaged to his 25 y.o fiancèe.

He bought her a new phone for valentine’s and asked my boyfriend who’s trained in computer and software to install a hidden tracking app on the phone so his fianceè won’t see it or notice.

I overheard them talking and when I entered the room they went silent. I waited till my brother left then talked to my boyfriend, he denied having this conversation with my brother first then, admitted to installing the app on the phone.

I told him he and my brother were in the wrong because this is a huge breach of privacy. he said he has nothing to do with it and advised me to stay out of it as well. but I said I want to tell my brother’s fiancèe.

My boyfriend argued with me about being nosy and intrusive and told me to stay out of it and let them deal with their own issues. But I thought that was unfair to my future sister in law since she’s the one working, paying bills and installments and this is how she is treated?

My boyfriend told me gtfo with this attitude and again, said I should stay of it because it does not in any way concern me. I don’t know I feel horrible after hearing about what my brother did and since I have a good relationship with his fiancee I can’t help but feel guilty and want to tell her.

I did told her and it was a nightmare, the wedding might be off. I’m feeling guilty

Here are what netizens think:

Tell her. But also have your phone checked out, cos your BF is throwing out CRAZY red flags.

wow, this actually never occured to me. also seeing several comments saying the same thing I’ll definately be checking my phone. My boyfriend tends to do things that cause me to side eye him sometimes. this one is definately nit okay.

Your boyfriend really said you were being intrusive, after helping put a tracking device on her phone?!!?

The irony of him calling her intrusive when he’s putting a tracker on someone else’s phone is just too much.