Paid 5.2k for my driving licence

Been under a private driving instructor since April until now, never really check how much i have been paying him until this month then i realise i have been paying him alot for my driving license.

Failed TP twice and each time was $522. Anything i can do about this?

Netizens’ comments

• Uh, huh. 5.2k for failing twice. This is why I go school.
• U will pass eventually.. keep paying..
• Damn… and I thought $890 was expensive….
• You can pass
  • I think take bus safer. For us.

• Huh, $522 + $522 isn’t $5200. Even a primary schooler could do it, you should let someone handle your finances before buying a license or 5 licenses
• I should’ve become a driving instructor instead, the money is so good.
• How many lessons was that? And 500+ for tp test?!?! Bro you driving lambo for tp test?
  • Circuit book plus car rental with insurance is around 500. Very standard among private learners.
• Nope. Keep paying. Private is v cheap if u pass first try without taking too many lessons, v expensive if you keep failing.

Hello all, I am just finding a place to vent as I cannot stand my sister’s actions anymore. This is a rant so it will be negative. You have been warned.

I really can’t stand how my sister doesn’t practice what she preaches.

1. We have 2 toilets in the house, 1 in the master bedroom and 1 in the kitchen. My sister and I usually use the master toilet. Whenever my sister wants to use the toilet to bathe, she would tell me not to use it at least half an hour before (regardless of big or small business) and I would comply and use the kitchen toilet. However, whenever I tell her I intend to use the toilet to bathe in 20 mins, she still goes ahead to use it to do her big business. I am disappointed and confused as to why she used it while knowing that it would stink and I would have to wait even longer to use it. When I confront her about it, she told me I couldn’t possibly expect her to wait for 20 mins when she wants to shit. But why couldn’t she have used the kitchen toilet? and why does she expect me to hold in my business/ use the kitchen toilet when she wants to use the master toilet but doesn’t do the same for me? She basically expects people to give in to her whenever she wants to use the toilet, but doesn’t give in to others.

2. To make things worse, whenever she uses the toilet, somehow the flap ends up being very dirty and it’s disgusting. I always end up having to use wet wipes to clean it before use. Whenever I tell her to clean up after herself, she always denies that the mess is because of her. And when I realise she clogged the toilet, she doesn’t want to unclog it as it is “dirty”. Talk about responsibility.

3. We both still stay with our parents. We share the same bed but the room is my sister’s. Sometimes when we go to sleep around the same time, I ask her to stop using her phone as the light from it prevents me from sleeping. However, most of the time, she just ignores me and continues using her phone, knowing fully well that it prevents me from falling asleep. For cases where it’s urgent, I can understand. But honestly, most cases there is nothing urgent and the texting can actually wait till tomorrow. And she could actually go out of the room if she wants to continue using her phone, except she doesn’t want to.

There are many issues, but all of it seem to stem from a lack of respect for others, or a form of narcissism. You might say I should talk to her about it, and I have. Many times. It just fell mostly on deaf ears. After I realised she has absolutely no intention to change, I decided the only way for me to have peace was to just shift my energy away from all of these. Basically just try not to react whenever these happen. It has mostly worked but there are days like today where it feels especially difficult. It is somewhat comforting to think that I just have to tolerate a few more years before I move out. But yet, sometimes a few more years seems a long way away.

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I just paid the option fee for a BTO with my boyfriend and I have been regretting ever since.

In fact, I started having panic attacks over the whole flat buying thing the night before that but didnt have the courage to not go through with it because our queue no is decent.

Part of the reason is because I am unsure if he is the one.

I was unsure since the start of the relationship but just carried on with it because it became comfortable.

I would like to know if such feelings of anxiety and strong thoughts to just forgo the option fee (I will fork it out fully) is normal, and what is the best thing to do moving forward?

Here are what netizens think:

• If you are unsure if he is the one, better to forgo the option fee and just leave him. You’d most likely regret especially after marriage and having kids. Things become more complicated.

• GG. Never get a flat just for the sake of getting one. Lol.

• Don’t get yourself trapped in the purchase of bto if he is not the right partner. You will have more regret and pain later on.

• Can I just say that no one finds the “one”. You find the 0.75 and round up. You don’t share what makes him less than perfect, so it is worth considering what this man brings to the table that led you down this path in the first place. If his mediocrity is really so unacceptable, then the obligation is with you to end it and let him go/ give yourself the chance to find “the one”.

• Yes it’s normal to be unsure and forgo the option fee. If you are regretting and anxious now you better to cancel first rather than staying that way for the next 10 years

• If u are unsure then just don’t go for it. U are making the 2 most important decisions in one go.

• is okay, after our family bought the previous house, my mum called me while i was in school in jc, and had a panic attack being anxious about how the fighter planes were noisy, and we ended up staying 14 years there. and i always laugh at her esp when we just sold the place last year and right sized. What i’m saying is, perhaps you’re more afraid of the uncertainty, and ur bf is part of that uncertainty, but it is only normal to be scared. don’t let that fear consume you. get on with your life, everything will work itself out

I graduated some 25 years ago from NUS with FCH. Needless to say I expected great things when I graduated, yet I only reached management when I was 40. I was continuously surpass by a 3rd class or lower, sometimes from a university that few know of. It’s tough to swallow but I’ve only reached management after I’ve come to terms with the following

1) Degree, schools and results does not matter.

2) You don’t need to be the solution, you just need to look like one.

3) Promotion isn’t based on meritocracy, your capability does not matter.

4) Management loves Theatrics, learn to present.

5) Your hard work will only be rewarded with more work.

6) Obedience is valued over facts.

7) Hardest part of the job is politics, if you’re in the company, you’re in the game.

These advise were given by my uncle who despite never finishing secondary runs a sizable firm in Singapore. In the last 10 years, my Career shot up in an upward trajectory without any strong headwind. Today, I sit in two Boards as director, simply because I’ve followed his advise.

This isn’t a complain about the vile reality or to boast my achievement. Rather, It’s to warn my fellow Singaporean, that your competitors, the foreigners embrace each and every part of these advise which is why they are winning.

Some of you may feel that if everyone is playing by these advise wouldn’t it ruin Singapore eventually? To that I say to you, the rot has already set in.

After having it in hall with my new GF, we went to shower together and the most disgusting thing happened, she peed in the shower.

I asked her why didn’t she do it in the toilet and she just shrug and said I could do the same as well.

I shared the ordeal with my BFF, and she said its normal and every other girl does it. When I was in the army, peeing in the shower was like a big nono, and as far as I’m concern, no one does that.

I’m not asking for girls to fart rainbows and unicorns but how do I come to terms that girls pee in the shower?

Netizens’ comments

• It‘s not just the girls,ok.. guys do that too except you. What is the big deal?
• What.. I always pee in the shower, is that a problem?
• Do u go swimming? I believe many ppl pee inside the pool, do u stop going to swim?
• Congrats! You belong to the super rare minority that could not pee unless you see an official toilet bowl!
  What an obedient boy! We will inform the Evolution Dept that you were missed out at their last review.
• better than you pee in the toilet bowl and still have to flush it..it’s to save water..everyone is doing their part in saving the planet except you
• u need to pee and it can be done in the shower too 

Why do men always trivialise women’s pain?

First thing first, I’m no ku niang. I have a high threshold of pain. I used to do endurance sports and I’m the sort to complete a sport even with torn muscles and dropping nails. I’ve never given birth so I won’t comment on that.

Usually when I do make squeak on my pain, I am usually in a lot of pain already and I’m not looking for some girly attention. It pisses me off whenever my partner just laughs off and trivialise my pain. And that is his default reaction.

I fell on a sharp rock while hiking overseas and landed right on my tailbone. I felt a cracking that jolted through my entire spine and I couldn’t stand. I was on the ground muttering “I’m in pain… very painful”. He didn’t think anything about it. I spent the next week of our holiday hardly able to move but got better by to tahan to go canyoning and slide amd jump off rocks although I am still feeling pain. At some point of the holiday he mocked me by imitating me when i was on the ground recovering from my pain. Turn out, I had a fracture and I couldn’t sit for long for the next 6 months.

Crash on my mountain bike while going downhill and plunged into the bushes with cuts? First thing first. Laugh at me.

Injured my foot? He’s all blasé like you are fine. My x-Ray later showed a healed fracture.

Sure I get you are all manly. Some empathy from you would be nice sometimes. This coming from someone who whines from deep heating rub creams which are too hot for his tender skin, but noooo…. my fracture is just me being dramatic. Thanks ah. Nah beh

*bracing myself for all the ,”for starters, behave more like a (weak)woman.” This is for you