This is a story that I never told anyone which i should be ashamed but isn’t.

I was 15 when I first met him while playing ml. He was 29. We got matched in the classic game and my stupid ass think he was a god for having 30/1. so i added him and invite him to another game. he ended up with some 20+/0.

I eventually got him to mentor me after pestering on in game chat, hearing his voice the first time made my heart skipped. I would wait for him to get online everyday so I could play with him and listen to his voice. Eventually we started talking on whatsapp. One day i received a text to stay clear of him, it was only then that i knew he had a gf, my heart sank. We didn’t flirt or anything, to me he was that invincible senpai that i admire. i blocked him everywhere the next day.

During my 16th birthday, he texted me, happy birthday in ml. I joked that i wanted a meal for present. we met the very first time in real life after school. he took me to swenson, which to me is like the mother of all restaurant.(I apologize for my 16 year old self) i sat across him, getting a good look at him, it’s great to finally put a face to his voice. He looked like a nerdy Fresh Grad Teacher and yeah that’s like my weakness? We had our meal and catch up a lot on our lives.

After Lunch, he send me home. I don’t know what got over me but i kissed him on the lips for the first time at the lift lobby upon realizing what i had done i ran up the stairs back home and blocked him again.

I kept thinking about the kiss for the next one year and eventually got into JC. Again on my birthday he texted me happy birthday again. But I did not reply because I stalk him on his ig to know that he’s still attached and I didn’t want break their relationship of 5 years.

Extremely stressed over my A lvl and also completely couldn’t get over him, I told myself that if he texted me on my birthday i would hook up to him and get him out of my system. If he doesn’t then i’ll completely give up on him. I know it’s morally wrong to hook up with someone with a gf but it’s driving me crazy. I waited everyday for that day to come reminding myself of what i promised myself.

He did message me Happy birthday. so I took the chance to invite him to repair my computer. (i know it’s a lame excuse i was 18). i met him on the following thursday at noon after school. Upon entering my house, i bolted the door, scaring my parents might come home early. i led him to my room which i locked the door behind. I pushed him onto the bed and after a short persuasion he eventually fell for the temptation.

We agree to keep it physical and behind his gf for a Year. Fast forward, I enjoyed every moment that I spent with him, the memories we had will always be precious. I’ve since return him to his gf as promised and cut ties.

I am 21 now, it’s been two years since he last wish me happy birthday. Even though i misses him, i’ve gotten him out of my system, some part of me still wants him but it’s not that strong. i sometime wonder if I’ll ever find another guy like him.

Dear Ed*****,

I never regretted being yours, I’m glad that it was you. Thank you for fulfilling my unreasonable request. I just wish you’d say happy birthday to me next year. Hope you stay with your gf forever!

Dear GF,

Sorry for stealing your bf for an entire year. I know i’m selfish, but i hope you’ll never find out. if you do, please forgive him.

Woman who says all men are trash are the trash themselves.

When woman get cheated on, immediately they’ll label men as trash.

Here’s the reality, those men that cheated on you are most likely the top 1%. Woman has a specific taste for men.

Woman want tall man, that’s about 15% – 20% of the population (May not be accurate but you get the point).

They want a good looking man, cut that percentage in half.

They want a strong man, cut that in half.

They want a rich man, cut that in half.

And whatever other attributes of men, the more you add on, the lesser the chances. Roughly 1% or less of men has all those attributes at the same time. However, why they most likely to cheat?

Because they can.

They have everything. Good looks, heights, strength, money etc. So he has power to simply fuck around. Cause here’s the reality, what is special about you that’ll make the 1% stay? Think about that.

Then you woman will start complaining and say there’s no more good man.

There are. They are the ones that are invisible to your eyes. Those men that work at McDonalds or Starbucks, those men who woke up early morning to take out the trash, those men that works in a factory, etc

These are good men. They’re not the 1% , but apparently they are trash cause the 1% treated you bad over and over again.

You woman don’t even bother looking at the other 99% cause they have no attributes that you want at same time. That or you got “bored” of happiness and want some toxic drama, thus the whole “You’re too nice for me”.

These majority of men are actually good man. But you woman put them in the friendzone instead.

And before you attack me and call me an incel or whatever, I am a happily married woman with kids. When I met my husband, I admit, he wasn’t the 1%. I’m not even that special. But we made the best out of each other, and here we are now.

The difference here is that you woman just wants what’s the best for you. Men will make the best out of anything he can get.

Men are not trash.

Your taste in men are.

Wake up.

My ex husband left me for another woman but wanted to come back to me after she was diagnosed with cancer

I’m 25 turning 26 tomorrow actually. (Happy birthday to me I guess). We were school sweethearts and married at 21. Hes currently 27.

I’m not sure where it went wrong honestly. We had our ups and downs sure but I thought since we had been through so much already that our marriage could prevail. Boy was I mistaken. He started coming home late, 3 hours after his shifts would end. He’d come home smelling like strawberries and beer.

I’d ask him and of course he’d deny and deny. Nothing was confirmed until she messaged me on facebook apologizing because she had a suspicion he was in a relationship but was too nervous to ask or pry.

Everything blew up at that point. We filed for divorce and he left me to go “start his new life” with her. Why she stayed with him is beyond me but it doesn’t matter. I eventually came to terms with it. I didn’t have any kids with him so it’s not like I had to keep thinking about him.

I started a photography business and even started flirting with a cute guy at my work. Felt like life was great up until this point.

This morning he called me 5 times at 1 am. I finally answer, ready to tear him new one but he’s just sobbing. I asked him what he wanted and he says that awhile back his fiancé got a pretty serious diagnosis of cancer (he did not specify what kind).

I apologized and said he had my condolences but that I was confused why he was calling me since we hadn’t talked in forever. He says he just wanted to vent. I was super annoyed but I let him talk. For 20 minutes he goes on about their relationship problems, his alcoholism, etc. After that, he goes quiet for a minute and then says “I love you Sarah, my life is shit and I need you please”.

I hung up the phone. I was too tired to deal with that mess. But then he sends a loooooong text basically saying that he wants to be there for “Megan” but doesn’t want to continue having a relationship with someone who is dying. I told him he was a piece of s- for even considering leaving her after her diagnosis. Plus how would she feel if she knew he felt this way?

He said I was twisting his words and that since she didn’t know she’d never be hurt by it. He was just tired of pretending to be the loving and caring boyfriend everyone thought of him as for staying with her. She was “driving him mental” and had basically become a different person. He then proceeded to beg me over and over to get back together. I finally had enough of the stupid drunk, screen-recorded the entire convo, and blocked him.

I’ve sent the screen-recording to every account on facebook that I could find that had her name and picture in hopes she will see it. (she deleted the account she originally messaged me from).

If you read this far I’m sorry you did. This has been hurting my heart and head all day. I feel somewhat better getting this all out. I just feel like I’m getting caught up into something that I shouldn’t but also should do more for her.