Singaporeans, please, tell your moms and dads to hang up the phone whenever they hear someone claiming to be a government rep, yet (1) they’re speaking Mandarin, and (2) they’re speaking in a foreign Mandarin accent.

This is such a simple rule to follow. If you hear Mandarin just hang up.

My mom is 65 and my dad is 70. They have received numerous scam calls over the years and my dad sent $3000 to what he thought was the ICA.

Now whenever they hear Mandarin they just hang up. Works perfectly.

If you’re reading this, scammer, please make an effort. Don’t speak in Mandarin. And even if you can’t be bothered to speak our official working language at least speak in a Singaporean Chinese accent.

I don’t know if you’ve been led to believe that we can’t tell apart Chinese accents but it takes us 2 seconds to know that you’re not local.

So please. Make an effort or stop scamming.

Losing some money can’t be a total loss. But losing your life and hope is seriously bankrupt!

You are now looking at the spilt water, the one gone, not the water you have left in your cup.

The money lost…should teach you some lesson learned.

1) Greedy mind is the most dangerous form of any financial crisis.

2) No easy money in this world. Any kind of investment involves risk. High risk, high return.

3) Any scam is successfully done because of one’s greed.

Yes, it is indeed a very expensive lesson. But it will prevent you not to make the same mistake again.

My husband was once trembling because…he lost more than 100KSG$ overnight. He looked like a corpse to me. I didn’t feel despaired or angry. I told him…just “cut loss”.

In investment, you must know when and how to cut losses. Timing is important.

We made that decision 10 years ago to cut losses. Now, our daughter is 15 years old. We didn’t lose our minds and time spent with her. We switched our investment strategy and diversify our investment.

Just fix your attitude and the way you look at money. Do you want to be its master or slave?

Earn money and spend it to live your life well. Save and investment is part of living your life BUT, not the main goal.

Look at the water left in your half glass. You are still young and both of you will be able to earn and save more.

Get up. You are not alone to lose from investment. Make it a valuable lesson, not just waste it.

P.S. Most the people’s portfolios now are in RED, mine too. So what? I still enjoy the rain just now

He left me for another long distance relationship

Singapore and Malaysia, about 400km away, but he complained that he’s tired with this LDR.

He’s 29 year old, living in Toa Payoh, not a very rich fellow but he claimed that he’s currently dating a very rich girl from Hong Kong.

How ironic that someone who used to complained about he’s being tired with LDR, yet gave up a 3 year relationship and began a relationship with someone who he had not yet met.

I never regret anything in this relationship, one thing for sure I regret that I am not heartless enough to left him earlier.

Netizens’ comments

• “Not very rich”…. Once he kena scammed, will drop rank to “very poor” 
• Maybe later she ask him to buy Bitcoin or Tether and you’ll see him cry back to you.
• Wow instead of girls leaving for richer guys, its the other way round this time 

I am really conflicted right now and I don’t know if I did the right thing. I feel like I need to get some outsider perspective on this otherwise I’m going to drive myself crazy overthinking.

Simply just want to brag about my relationship.

As the title says, here I just want to brag about my relationship with my gf. I have bragged about this on different confession page before, but just wanna brag again cause why not.

I knew my gf since childhood days. We became bestfriend and have a great connection with each other. Confessed to her in 2008 (We were 10 years old back then) and she said yes cause she felt the same way. Happiest day of my life so far.

14 years of relationship and I’ll tell you this, we never have any unnecessary fights or argument at all. The only so called “arguments” we had are the really silly kind, like how do you pronounce “Data”? I usually say “Day-ta”, but she says “Daa-taa”. We “argued” over our opinions with laughter and teasing. So far, no serious dramatic fights at all. Cause we both have no time for drama when we can think about something more worthwhile like buying a house, traveling, career progression etc.

This is gonna sound impossible but we can go months not contacting each other and still be together and happy. This happened because she’s a medical student with busy schedule and I’m a software developer which requires me to concentrate a lot in my work nearly 24/7, additionally I was taking care of my sick parents a lot. One time we didn’t contact for 6 months all thanks to work. Now it’s reduced a lot to a week. Sometimes I’ll text or leave a voice note for her, and she’ll answer it back in few days or a week at least. I did the same if I’m busy. But here we are still together.

Now some of you might think she or I could’ve cheated all those months. She didn’t cause we also have an agreement, that if ever we fall out of love, or cheating, etc, just be honest straight away and break up. It’ll hurt but at least we can move on instead of playing unnecessary dramatic games with each other. We have transparency. I’ll tell her everything and she does the same.

Some of you also will think “Fighting in a relationship will make the bond between couples stronger”. I’m not denying it, but however, we are not a fan of fighting for no reason. Imagine going through unnecessary fights everyday when it all can be solved with logical thinking.

She has always been understanding. She was always there for me as I was always there for her. We laughed together, cried together when life hits us hard (like losing a home, pet loss, etc). I came from nothing, and she came from an abusive household. But here we made each other happy. We just want to make each other happy no matter what.

Now, here I’m going to compare my relationship to a lot of you and for once be immature. Honestly, I don’t think I’ll ever relate to a lot of you people. All I see from other relationships, is that you people tend to be extremely dramatic.

• Didn’t wish good morning also fight
• Guy has female friends also fight
• Girl has guy friends also fight
• Cheating on each other
• Always demand but never give
• Stayed with an obvious toxic partner
• Stayed because you scared of loneliness

In other words, lots of y’all are never thinking ahead of your future and just behaving like a child. And I find it to be very pathetic and funny. Not sorry at all but I can’t help feeling superior

Y’all can have the type of relationship I’m having, but y’all are waaaaaaaaay too immature

Here’s the hard truth, you people are addicted to drama, that’s why. That’s why when things went so great, you people tend to think “what kind of fight should I pick with him/her” hahahhaha. You people have it so good but you people are so immature to handle happiness. You people have the privilege to feel “bored” of happiness. Of course that’s cause you people are just in a relationship for fun or cause you’re afraid to be alone. You don’t even think about your future at all

And then you people complain about not being happy with anyone hahahahha

Here’s my advice, start thinking with logic more than feelings. Apply more action and have more understanding.

Think about your future more. A lot of unnecessary fights can be avoided. Trust me on this.

Welp, that’s all for my bragging. Just felt extremely superior compared to lots of you people, and I earned this feeling

Ever study so hard while your friends are screwing around, and you got the highest score while your friends didn’t even come close to your score? Should you feel bad for your friends then? Of course not, they were screwing around. my point is that it’s the same exact feeling I have comparing my relationship to you people. Therefore I earned the right to feel superior for once

That’ll be all people. Have a nice day and start using your brain more than your heart

Editor’s note: Really happy for you bro! Here’s wishing you and your imaginary girlfriend a lifetime of bliss and happiness!

To guys out there, will you all stay with a girlfriend that is super clingy and demanding??

My gf and i have been together for a few months now and she expects me to bring her out on a date everyday. And, she wants me to pay for all of them.

Side note, i am not rich and im still studying so i dont hold a job . Should i break up with her?? Why are SOME girls so self entitled and expect their boyfriends to pay for them.

If it is a once in a while treat i dont mind, but all the time? If i am doing a part time job, i would pay. But shouldnt she consider my current situation now??

Here are what netizens think:

• thats not clingy though…thats extortion~ she stick to u to suck yo money dry manzz~ she belongs to da streets

• Even if u are working and making big bucks…. expecting u to pay for every date is beyond reasonable. She needs a sugar daddy,not a bf.

• Find out why she is clingy and demanding, understand it and then assure her and then work something out. If you cant. You have your answer.

• She think she is entitled just because the both of you are in a relationship. Soon she will think your money is hers too lol. Tell her what it is, and if she doesn’t like it then byebye.

• Yea, you should break up cos you can’t sustain the relationship financially for long. And no, you arent the problem.

• Talk to her. If she cant be reasoned with, then it is better to end the relationship early to cut cost.

• In your situation, no. Going on dates everyday now and expecting you to pay for all of them is just unreasonable. Don’t settle for this.

How to deal with a colleague who’s a slacker
Question
This one person (new joiner) in my team is very unmotivated and negative at work. He doesn’t do much because whatever he does is not very helpful. He comes to work at 12pm, takes 2 hour lunch and leaves at 6pm.

During work meetings, he asks a lot of insignificant questions (asking if the client is a scammer or complains how the client was rude in an email).

He never does the actual work but pretends like he “knows” things. I used to entertain his questions before but now I don’t have the patience.

I think some of my other colleagues noticed this but I don’t think my boss knows. Should I inform my boss about it? Whatever he’s not doing is picked up by other people including me.

Netizens’ comments

1. Yes. Collate some evidence first (don’t just go to the boss empty handed, will turn into a he-said-she-said) and show to your boss. Let your boss settle it. It’s not your problem to get him to do his work correctly.
2. How does he come into work at 12pm and not get scolded by the boss for coming in so late? Because my boss doesn’t keep track of what the employees are doing as long as the work is done
3. Why pick up his work? The last time someone tried that on me I arranged enough work for myself so the other party had to do the work independently (which of course imploded). Then afterwards the blame game started but it’s clear who screwed up to everyone

no matter what i do for my gf, her family n friends has never approved of me.

Since we started to date, she felt that her life quality as dropped. She said she given up a lot of things for me and she been feeling quite mentally exhausted. She been wanting me to proposal to her and getting our marriage but i feel that currently, we’re not ready yet. We’ve also been quarrelling for even small matters, she always think that she’s in the right and i’ve been purposely finding faults to argue with her.

She always get angry for no reasons. That day her mum asked me to help her buy stuffs and since she said she tired from sch, so i picked her up and send her home first. But she get angry that i didn’t told her that her mum asked me to help buy items and she felt that buying those stuffs unnecessary. She argue with me said that i don’t bother telling her what’s happening and then she throw mine items on the floor, take scissors cut the shirts that i owned. While picking those items she thrown on the floor, she been raising her voice until whole building could heard the arguments.

Sometimes she love to play “cold wars” with me for no reasons, suddenly block me for hours/days then don’t want pick up any calls/messages. She allergies to crabs so when we eating, she insist of eating crabs but i said no. She angry and then walked/dump me there while we’re dinning.

She also angry that i don’t share salted eggs potato chips with her when i ordered like a bulk of it and she probably ate like 90% of it and i eat probably like half a packet. Saying how ” I don’t love her anymore, don’t cherish her anymore after we’re dating”. She said how in her family, what she wants to eat n etc, ppl will always ask her, share with her and they don’t snatch with her snacks to eat.

So one of the days, i requested her to walks the dog as i was busy with presentation and since for the past few days, it was raining so the dog didn’t manage to be out of the house. She said i’m treating her like a maid, asking her to follow my order. She never touched dirty things in her life. for example, when the dog shits. i’m always the one picking up the poops. In her family, she ate alr just dump the plate/bowl at the sink/basin, for someone in her family to wash. She also don’t tidy up her room, sweep floors and etc, was always me when i go her house to help her housekeeping her room.

She also have a bad habits of wasting money on unnecessary. She always like to go cinema to watch movies , probably like every week. But i’m the one paying for it since she doesn’t have any income. She also rant that i am unlike other ppl bf, buy for their gf accessories.

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What would you do if you strike the $8m TOTO?

I’ve always dreamed of striking and always told myself what I would do etc.

When I was younger I thought that I would give like 100k to each of my immediate family members. However in the current stage of my life I feel that I shouldnt announce my winnings at all.

Reinvest everything in a commercial property and get rental yield every month. It could be something that I pass down to my children and their children for generational wealth. My wife will probably quit her job while I continue to work but at a much more relaxed pace.

Just wondering if I’m the only one dreaming about it because my wife always complains that I dream too much

Netizens’ comments

• Back to sleep and continue my dream.. 🛌
• 1st rule
  nvr let your family members know, children esp
  tell some people and before you knew it, more ppl will know (big mouth), ppl will be guilt tripping you and sucking money left right
  if both you and your wife quit jobs, will arouse suspicions lol. Just keep the job but work at slower pace, or find something w gd wlb.
  anw dont need to think cos will nvr happen to me lol, I nvr dreamt of winning toto. I just want to be healthy.
• 50% to my mother, my only parent in life and life giver. No matter what she did, it’s a fact I am here because of her whether good or bad. Always remember your roots and repay what is owed.
  10% to my brother, because I hope he doesn’t have to keep worrying about his daughter’s upbringing costs.
  10% to charity, it’s always important to give back.
  Remaining 30% is for myself only.
  10% for whatever I want to splurge on.
  10% for withdrawing slowly, bring in the ‘long run’ effect
  10% for investing or sealing the deal towards owning a small little apartment for myself, likely 3 room HDB.