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WOMAN THOUGHT HER RELATIONSHIP WAS “WONDERFUL”, UNTIL BF GAVE HER AN STD

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I (28f) thought my ex (32m) and I had a wonderful relationship for the last two years, but I guess I was wrong.

We met kicked it off. He was tall, cute, nerdy and a great lover, but last week he called me crying, apologizing and letting me know he cheated and that I need to get tested for chlamydia. I ended up having it and I was prescribed a round doxycycline to get rid of it.

He refused to tell me the names of the women he cheated on me with at first, which I needed to know so I could contact them to get tested so I called his mom and she forcibly sat him down at her dinning room table and got him to give up two names (it’s now been five names).

The one girl he cheated on me with was engaged and now her fiance is leaving her, and I had to deactivate my Facebook, because her family and friends wouldn’t stop harassing me for him leaving her and we’re threatening to call my work place and tell them I’m dirty and have STDs.

I also contacted the boyfriend of the other girl who’s name he gave up, but since I don’t want to reactivate my Facebook I don’t know how to contact the other people he named after her so they can get tested.

Some people think that I shouldn’t had gotten ahold of their boyfriends, because it just caused me drama, but my ex was refusing to inform anyone that he might had given them an STD because he didn’t want anyone to get angry with him, so I felt like I didn’t have a choice, because if I didn’t tell them no one would of.

Has anyone else very been in this situation and how did you handle it?

MAN TELLS BOSS HE IS SICK ON MC, BUT OTW TO CHANGI AIRPORT FOR A HOLIDAY

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So as it says above, my partner was caught by his boss as “pulling a sickie”. He went on holiday for 2 weeks which was authorised, but what he didn’t say was that Friday was the day of the flight and he was not on leave.

He emailed at 4 am on the way to the airport saying that he would not be in as he had been throwing up.

Now he’s not entirely wrong, he was actually ill. It’s a matter of fact though that he was never going to come in as he had a flight at 10 am, and his boss knows that.

He went to work yesterday and was handed a letter stating he’s on administrative leave until Friday when he will have a disciplinary hearing for leaving the business without cover and dishonesty.

He knows he f up, it’s his first job and it was bloody stupid of him.

He only works for a small IT company of about 4 employees. I think he must have just thought pulling a sickie is fine as you see it in media and such.

What can he do to get the best out of this situation or possibly keep his job? (deep apologies are a given…)

Here are what netizens think:

  • There’s not much that can be done really other than assuring his employer that he won’t do it again. If he is a valuable employee then he will likely be able to keep his job but there will be a lot of questions asked should he have any future sick days.
  • Admit his guilt /grovel / plead etc , assure them it will never happen again and will use this as a “learning” experience to improve himself and to ensure he fully understands the companies absence policy . he will be lucky to keep his job tbh , at the very minimum i would expect formal disciplinary action
  • There is no legal standpoint that can be offered because things like this will be in the contract or the employee handbook. I can give you the benefit of my own personal experience though.

WOMAN NOT EARNING MUCH, MUM DEMANDS MONEY FROM HER & TELLS HER IT’S FOR “BLESSING”

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I graduated from uni during peak Covid & it was hard to get a job so I settled for a traineeship.

They offered me a contract position afterwards which I’m thankful for but now that I’m married and saving up for our home, I’m looking for a new job with more salary before my contract ends. (This process has also taken a toll on me)

I’m not earning much, & my husband and I are also currently renting a place. I contribute significantly less than him for our place but still 1/5 of my salary goes to rent. and I also have my study loan to pay. on top of the other bills like phone, subscriptions and groceries (altho my husband usually pays for that unless it’s me shopping on my own)

We also currently stay in Jurong while my family stays in Pasir ris so every weekend we travel sometimes via grab/hitch/train as that’s what my mum insisted.

If i don’t visit that week she will start her drama of “you don’t care about me etc etc” so to avoid that we just put aside one day every weekend to spend time with her.

but bcos she stays home everyday whenever we visit, she wants to go out here and there and have dinner outside with us and my siblings.

My siblings are younger, one is still in school and another one just started working with a small salary. So you guessed it, everytime we go out and have these dinners I usually pay the most if not for all of it.

My husband helps sometimes but I feel guilty as this is for my family and he pays for everything else in our home that i will usually just say it’s okay.

anyway i’m sharing all this so that there’s an idea of where my money goes monthly. i used to give my mum money previously when i was not married maybe around $400 a month.

it started reducing abit bcos i was paying for my own wedding. then now that i live some place else and have all these expenses i told her that i’ll give her money when i can but if she ever needs she can just ask. i told her also since i’m paying for these weekly outings i can’t afford to give her money monthly on top of that.

but here’s the take, she got angry. and say that i shouldn’t think of giving her money as a burden and should give her money for blessings.

i tried explaining to her and hope she will understand but the worst of it all is she can even complain when i give her $200 and say it’s too little. i’m really struggling here i barely have enough savings. how do i make her understand? she’s also going thru a divorce and still refuse to look for a job she can do. instead she wants to still stay at home and do nothing and expect us to give her money. am i wrong here?

18 Y.O DAUGHTER MAKES $12K A MONTH, MOTHER SAYS SHE SHOULD GIVE IT ALL TO HER

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So I (18F) started a successful e-commerce (dropshipping) business when I was around late 16/early 17.

It was rough in the beginning but now I’m averaging at bound $12K a month from it. I still plan on going to uni etc but i’m currently on a gap year.

I recently told my parents about it and since I’ve grown up poor and my mum struggled with keeping a job while my dad works abroad I thought i could help pitch in for maybe some rent/utility bills?

I didn’t tell them beforehand because they’re quite old-fashioned/traditional and heavily believe in just having a regular job and working hard from there, I was scared to tell them because of their reaction to me starting a business and making lots from it at a young age.

I think i was kinda scared they were going to think what I was doing was wrong.

The installment of our new place is about $4.9k a month and told my parents that I was willing to pay $4k and they pay the rest and everything else. (food, phones, and the remaining 0.9k). I’m not just doing it for them or me but also trying to do it for my siblings and make sure they have a decent place to call home.

I didn’t really want to pay more in bills as the amount i make from my business can fluctuate and to make sure we can have a place to stay each month i wanted to just pay 4k.

However, my parents were super mad at this and told me I was selfish, disrespectful etc and that all the money I should send to them as I wouldn’t be able to handle it properly. my mum now wants to stop working and so does my dad and i’m scared that they’ll be completely reliant on me.

i still tried to explain to them that i’m still their kid and they shouldn’t be too reliant on me for paying everything. and what would d happen if I suddenly stopped the business or if it didn’t last 5+ yrs? They want me to spend egregious amount on shopping, food, luxuries etc but I still want to invest and keep some to travel during my gap year 8 as able to get into uni and i deferred my offer, 

im quite scared of my parents but i understand where they are coming from. we dont really have alot so i think this amount is kinda crazy to them. i want to get them nice things and help pay rent in a nice area but i don’t think i can afford all of this. i know i should be thankful for my parents for all the yrs they’ve put in but idk it feels weird them wanting to take money from me. 

SCHOOL PRINCIPAL CHEATING ON HUSBAND, EVERYONE GOSSIPING BUT HUSBAND DON’T KNOW

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acquaintance obviously cheating on the husband. Husband is completely clueless. What should I do?

I have an acquaintance who’s a principal of an education institution. She’s married but her recent social media posts have been all about her and another guy.

Her posts are full of intimate behaviours with the guy like hugs, kisses and hickeys on the guy’s neck left by her.

There’s even signs of her staying overnight at the guy’s place. There is not a single photo of her and her husband to be found on her social media.

Her family members and friends saw all of the posts. They were gossiping among themselves but no one said a thing to the husband.

As far as I know, her husband has no social media accounts and they are still very lovey-dovey in front of their family and friends last week.

What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

  1. Principal yet can be so open on social media… the account is not hacked right? If not then just leave them be. Seems like they are mature enough to handle this.
  2. Your post says she’s your acquaintance only. Please take your cue from this. She’s not even a close friend of yours. And you do not know the couple at all. So you really have no business getting involved in any of it.
    The bigger questions are:
    (1) why are you stalking her social media to see what type of posts she puts up?
    (2) are you secretly interested in her or the husband, whichever gender you are.
  3. Since she’s only an acquaintance, don’t have to worry yourself over this. It’s their marriage affairs to begin with, you’re in no position to step in the picture.
  4. Mind your own business. Maybe they have an open marriage, and the husband is okay with it? Don’t make assumptions & judge other people’s business.

34 Y.O BREAKS INTO MULTIPLE HOMES IN GEYLANG TO STEAL, HOUSEBREAKING SPREE

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The Police have arrested a 34-year-old man for his suspected involvement in two cases of housebreaking and theft.

On 15 September 2022 at about 7.10am, the Police were alerted to a break in at one residence along Sims Avenue.

Cash amounting to $1,150 and three handphones were purportedly stolen. 

Later at about 5.10pm, the Police also received a report that another residence along Lorong 17 Geylang was broken into. One laptop and camera with a total value amounting to $1800 were purportedly stolen from the second residence.

Through ground enquiries and with the aid of images from Police cameras and CCTVs, officers from Bedok Police Division established the identity of the man and arrested him on 20 September 2022. A total of 12 handphones, one laptop and one camera were recovered from man. The man is believed to be involved in other property-related offences.

The man will be charged in court on 22 September 2022 with housebreaking and theft under Section 451 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence carries an imprisonment term of up to 10 years and a fine.

The Police would like to advise all property owners to adopt the following crime prevention measures:

  • Secure all doors, windows and other openings with good quality grilles and padlocks when leaving your premises unattended, even for a short while;
  • Refrain from keeping large sums of cash in any premises; and
  • Install a burglar alarm, motion sensor light and/or CCTVs, to cover the access points into your premises. Ensure that they are tested periodically and are in good working condition.

FIANCE PAYS FOR WEDDING, DOWRY, GIFTS, HDB ALL BY HIMSELF – RUNNING OUT OF MONEY

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Hi just wondering if I am stingy or is my other half requesting more? all of the wedding expenses come from my pocket as in law and parents are not helping out.

For housing paying 4x more for down payment. Wedding photos 5xxx, Downry 5xxx and gifts jewellery 5 pieces about 5xxx onwards , Honeymoon yet to happen..

The rest of the cost to split such as reno and small banquet reception.. so i kinda request for the banquet (a small banquet) about 5xxx to not be 50/50 as im struggling to keep up with payments due to lack of funds.

I know she is being nice to offer 50/50. But I just feel Ive fork out a bit more overall.

And I dont want to disappoint my other half, as according to tradition in her pov its the male to fork out and carry the cost.

Should i pay all of it or nego about it?

Netizens’ comments

  • In a marriage, shouldn’t you be able to communicate with your spouse about everything? And when you’re experiencing hardships, shouldn’t they help you out? Why not sit her down for a heart to heart about your situation?
  • You’re spending too much on so many unnecessary items. Truly ask yourself, is it really worth all the money and effort? I hope you’re not one of those who are doing it because of “tradition” but you sound like you are…
  • Offer to pay for everything. Once you are married, your debts will become her debts. Your money will also become her money.
  • Oh man how old is she?It’s 2022, not 60s. Men to pay all is such a old school thinking. Unless you are filthy rich lor. I don’t see why guy has to pay everything while he’s struggling himself and sound like you already are.
  • need to always remember a wedding is just a celebration, not the marriage itself. So if it has to be simple then so be it cause don’t start married life with debts. As you two, as a couple, would be stressed.

S’PORE SCIENTISTS DEVELOPED TEST KIT THAT DETECTS COVID IMMUNITY IN JUST 10 MINS

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A team of scientists from Singapore have developed a test kit that is able to detect a person’s immunity to Covid-19 in just 10 minutes.

The test kit will help indicate whether a person needs to get their vaccine booster jab quickly with just a simple blood sample.

The remarkable test kit was developed by Nanyang Technological University (NTU) and Singapore-MIT Alliance for Research and Technology (SMART) which is MIT’s research enterprise in Singapore.

it works by detecting the SARS-COV-2 antibodies in blood samples, also detects variants like Delta and Omicron, and helps to tell whether a person needs to get a booster shot based on the level of antibodies in their body.

Snippets from SMART’s press release

this rapid point-of-care test kit is a serology test that measures antibodies made by the patient. It requires a drop of blood and takes just 10 minutes to show results, as compared to the 24 to 72 hours required for conventional laboratory testing.

The test kit detects the levels of neutralising antibodies against SARS-COV-2, the virus causing COVID-19, and its variants such as Delta and Omicron, and can be easily adapted for new variants of concern and other diseases in the future.

Using a paper-based assay that is coated with chemicals that bind to antibodies in the blood sample, the test kit is low-cost, fast and has up to 93 per cent accuracy. It paves the way for personalised vaccination strategies, where people are only given vaccinations and booster shots when necessary, depending on their variance in antibody levels and immune response.

Having an accurate and rapid serology test can enable governments and healthcare organisations to effectively manage limited vaccine resources, and address vaccine hesitancy, particularly concerning multiple booster doses.

a clinical study by the joint research team has shown that the protection offered by currently available vaccines steadily declines over three months, with varying degrees of decline across individuals. The study showed that after three months of a booster shot, the neutralising antibody (NAb) response against wildtype and Delta still remained high at medians of 91.8 per cent, while medians against Beta and Gamma had dropped to 82.7 and for Omicron, a large drop to 70.7 per cent, down from 92.9 per cent.

The emergence of novel variants with much higher transmissibility than the wild-type virus – such as Delta and Omicron – has exacerbated the issue of using mRNA vaccines developed based on the wildtype virus to boost immunity, especially when some current vaccines are showing reduced protection against these novel variants of concern (VoC).

With a drop of finger prick blood, the test kit can evaluate an individual’s neutralising antibody level against a specific COVID-19 variant within 10 minutes, making this an efficient, low-cost, and easy-to-use tool that will enable large-scale testing and can be widely deployed anywhere as part of a personalised vaccination strategy.

The test reveals the individual’s level of neutralising antibodies, which can then inform a person when a booster should be taken, and how cautious they should be about potential transmission before it is taken.

It can be administered by a layperson without medical training and does not require any specialised laboratory equipment, paving the way for large-scale testing of vulnerable subsets of the population such as the elderly.

Images source: NTU via SMART.mit.edu

S’PORE COMPANY HIRING PERSONAL ASSISTANT TO PLAN WHEN CEO SLEEPS & EATS

A Singapore based company posted a job ad on LinkedIn looking to hire a personal assistant for their CEO, with some of the tasks that the prospective PA is responsible for including “making sure the CEO sleeps before a certain time”, “arranging daily exercise” and “arranging 3 meals”.

The listing stated that the PA should ideally have “no family” or “no personal” commitments, as they will be traveling with the CEO all the time.

The listing went viral on Twitter, with netizens asking if the company was looking to hire a PA or a nanny.

Here is the job description by the company

About the job

Reporting directly to a CEO/Founder, the Personal Assistant provides executive support in a one-on-one, highly trusted relationship. The Personal Assistant serves as the primary point of contact for internal and external constituencies on all matters pertaining to the CEO and all team members. The Personal Assistant must be able to work under pressure at times to handle a wide variety of matters with utmost discretion and be able to travel with the CEO all the time.

Job Description:

  • Completes a broad variety of professional administrative tasks for the CEO including.
  • Managing an ever-changing calendar of meetings and appointments. Book all travel plans, itineraries, and agendas for the CEO
  • Handle all visa applications for the CEO
  • Make sure the CEO’s meetings are timely booked, and then properly reminded up to 3 times, accordingly to SOP
  • Handle a wide variety of other things in the business such as admin, HR, finance, and business development-related tasks

Also complete a wide range of the CEO’s personal tasks every day, including completing a tickbox every day to make sure ALL of the following tasks below are done for the CEO:

  • Arranging 3 meals with specific dietary requirements everyday
  • Arranging daily exercise
  • Make sure vitamins and supplements are taken daily
  • Make sure fruits and nuts are taken daily
  • Remind CEO to do pending tasks and oversee them completed
  • CEO’s personal belongings are organized and readily packable for travel at a moment’s notice
  • Ensure the CEO sleeps before a certain time
  • Ensure the CEO completes other daily tasks as needed(meditation, etc)
  • Laundry is arranged to be done once every 2 weeks

Requirements:

  • Able to travel all of the time with CEO, as frequently as 1 new country or city each month and having no permanent place of residence.
  • Due to frequent nomad-like traveling, it is preferred for this candidate to have no family or personal commitments
  • Able to handle Ad-hoc and maid-like tasks as needed.
  • 2 years of PA experience

Why work with us?

  • Be a part of a company building the future of the digital economy enabled by blockchain technology
  • Competitive salary paid in any currency or cryptocurrency of your choosing (including our tokens/equity so you can capitalize on the exponential growth of our startup with the possibility to achieve financial freedom).
  • Fast-paced, challenging, faced with different issues every day – Life never gets boring in a start-up environment.
  • Work with an international company & team.
  • Great career development opportunities in a fast-growing company.
  • Work remotely anywhere in the world with flexible working hours & casual work attire.

DRUNK PRC MAN STABBED GIRLFRIEND 29 TIMES IN JURONG EAST, JAILED 12 YEARS

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On 16 February 2021 at about 11.55 pm, the Police received a call for assistance along Jurong East Street 32.

Upon arrival, officers found the woman with multiple stab wounds lying motionless at the void deck of Block 308 Jurong East Street 32.

According to Today, 37-year-old China national Zheng Xianfeng dated the victim for a year before breaking up.

The man got intoxicated and stabbed his ex-GF (34-years-old Tham Mee Yoke) 29 times.

The woman was unconscious when conveyed to Ng Teng Fong General Hospital, where she was subsequently pronounced dead at about 1.30 am on 17 February 2021.

Psychiatric reports indicated that Zheng suffers from major depressive disorder and alcoholism.

The man was eventually sentenced to 12 years in jail, reported Today.

The offence of murder, punishable under Section 302(1) of the Penal Code, carries the death penalty. Police investigations are ongoing.

Background:

The two met in 2018 as flatmates and got together as a couple in 2020.

The couple constantly suspected each other of cheating and the relationship quickly turned sour.

According to CNA, Back in 2020, Zheng once took a knife and stabbed his own thigh after Tham told him that the relationship is over, Zheng followed by using the knife to cut Tham resulting a 15cm cut.

On a separate occasion, Zheng attacked her again after she witness Tham contacting another man on her phone.

On the day of the murder, Zheng was drinking beer when he received a message from Tham telling him not to harass her anymore.

Zheng left his home with a 26.5cm knife and waited near the victim’s home before committing the murder.