This year, I’m celebrating my 30th birthday. It’s gonna be the first time since birth I’m not celebrating this moment with the brave lady who raised me, along with my grandfather. My grandmother died after years and years of suffering. It’s a relief, but damn it hurts.

A few hours before her death, the last day I saw her – I slept a few hours to recover from this terrible night as she asked mercy.

In this dream, I saw her dead, laying on the bed, her husband held her and cried. I immediately sent a message to my companion to tell him about this disturbing picture I’ve seen a few times since the idea of losing her caused me huge anxiety issues.

Then, right after this nightmare, I learnt about her – she passed away as I was peacefully sleeping in my bed. It’s been a month she’s gone now and, I know it’s strange but I totally stopped dreaming about her.

This morning, I just woke up in my family’s house. I heard the distinct voice saying hi. It was nice and sweet. I responded “yes ?” as my grandfather who sleeps in his room next to mine answered “yeah?”

I asked him if he was calling me and said no. I used to work in a funeral home for years as a counselor, I know grief may lead to hallucinations.

Have you ever had a dream about your loved ones who eventually died, moments ago ? Do you think it’s pure coincidence, a simple sign of empathy since I felt extremely worried about her ?

Do you think I – myself – talked while I was asleep ? I know a lot of my friends confirmed I’m a sleeptalker. Anyway, that’s not the most thrilling experience I witnessed but I’m curious about these two moments : first the dream, secondly, the call.

I respect your belief, I’m open-minded. Feel free to share. Take care.

ma’am, for the third time, I don’t work here…

I was inside an Adidas outlet store just shopping for shoes. I don’t work for Adidas, let alone at the store I was shopping at. I was there in joggers (not Adidas), a sweatshirt, and Nike sneakers. A woman came up to me with a box of shoes as I was trying to shop and asked me if they had it in a specific size. I said “oh I’m sorry I don’t work here,” to which she responded “oh I’m sorry you just look so athletic.”

I thought it was funny and kind of just brushed it off. Maybe because I work retail I made some sort of eye contact with her that she mistook for me wondering if she needed help? Anyway, I just kept shopping. I went into another aisle and she approached me yet again with the box of shoes, and asked if the store had it in another size. I said “ma’am, I don’t work here.” She laughed and apologized again and walked away.

I cant even make this up… she approached me a third time just minutes later and said “I cant find anyone to help me. I just want to know if these shoes are available in another size.” I was a little annoyed and told her I would like some space and that she should find an associate. She just kept standing there looking at me and I ended up walking up to the cashier and asking them to find someone so I could shop in peace.

Truly I’m not sure why she was so fixated on me helping her but I haven’t been back to that Adidas since.

update: there’s a few of people saying that she was hitting on me… I was a 19-20 y/o girl and this was an older woman, probably in her late 40s. I think she was commenting on my outfit being athletic rather than me, based on the context. While that would be flattering I just don’t think that was the case! By calling me athletic I think she was explaining her logic in approaching me.

I’m really freaking out rn… last night one of my colleagues was flirting with me…

he’s a decent-looking guy. But I have a very loving bf. My coworkers all know about him. Where I work most of the employees are young, I am frequently flirted with by the boys there, which are all around my age.

But one of them.. let’s call him “Josh” flirts with me more than others. Most times I ignore him, or I’ll just act like I didn’t understand that he was flirting. And he usually stops after a bit.

But last night he texted me, and he wanted to be fwb. And I refused, but I really thought about it, which is making me feel extremely guilty. I would never cheat on my bf, he’s an amazing guy and deserves better than that.

But the fact that I had to think about it before saying no makes me feel like I did something wrong. My boyfriend and I have to do long distances because we are thousands of kilometres away from each other. We haven’t seen each other in 2 months.

It is really hard not being able to go on dates or even be able to touch him. My love language is physical touch, and I feel like without my love language being fulfilled it’s messing with our relationship. Am I the wrong for almost cheating on my bf with my colleague?

I don’t know what to do with 60k in my savings account.

I’m 24 and have a lot of money sitting around. (I’ve always been low income and this is a lot for me) I don’t know how to invest it or where to do it.

But my goal is to buy a home within 4 years & finish my masters degree with no student loans. I’m halfway done with my degree & I currently have no debt/loans and I live rent free with my family.

I don’t know if I should put this in a high yield savings account? Or If anyone has a better idea I’d like to hear it.

Netizens’ comments

1. Both of your goals are short term and might require all or most of that $60k. So protect it. Don’t invest it. “High yield” savings accounts have been criminally slow to adjust to current interest rates.
   Eventually, spend your savings on a master’s degree and/or a down payment. Once those goals are achieved or are 100% accounted for, start saving for longer term goals like retirement. If you have earned income, divert at least some of it to retirement savings now.
2. Keep $5,000 in savings as an emergency fund, and put $55,000 in an index fund. An index fund just has a tiny piece of 500 or 1000 or 2000 different stocks so it just goes up with the stock market (which has always been a good long-term investment) and you don’t have to worry about picking individual stocks and companies. And you can sell it at any time.
3. As others mentioned, keep your powder dry. You will likely want to use some of this cash in the next three years for student loan, debt repayment, car loan repayment, etc.

Editor’s note: Standby, insurance agents gonna be coming for you in 3… 2… 1…

Have you ever estimated the financial impact of your assault? Is anyone else furious at how big the number is?

I know that the trauma to my body and brain should be what I am most angry about, but the lost earnings potential is what makes me the most furious.

Can i sue my agent company ? Salary from August hasn’t been paid to me as per contracted.

Looking for honest and helpful opinions here. Thanks in advance!

I was hired by an agency to work for another company, but this agency hasn’t told me why my salary hasn’t been paid to me for this particular month yet,

previously the payment was on time or either by contracted said period.

For example, if you submit timesheet by end of the month, your salary will be paid by the 7th of the next month.

I have contacted my agent but he hasn’t replied me why the salary was on hold… What should i do now ? Contact again ? Im really frustrated.

Thanks for any advise!

Netizens’ comments

1. u got money to sue? yes go ahead. no see next step
2. do you want your money back slow or fast? If slow, report to MOM. if fast, see next step.
3. go back to your place of work and sit you a– down until they pay you. say you come back next day until you get paid.

My ex-friend who ran off with my ex-husband sent me a birthday gift
The short version of the backstory: two years ago, my (now ex) husband told me he was leaving me for a woman I considered one of my best friends who had also decided to leave her husband. He told me two days after my birthday. They made this decision together after they had developed a romantic relationship over the prior few months. After all the legal stuff was sorted, I told my ex husband I didn’t want to hear from him unless it was for something legal/logistical (we don’t have kids). I returned the gifts my friend gave me for that birthday. My husband asked if he could occasionally send me gifts from my amazon wishlist and I told him emphatically no. I moved across the country to return to my hometown and spend time with my mom and help her with my step-father who is in the late stages of Alzheimer’s and kidney disease.

Essentially, for the past two years, I’ve been “no contact” with them and have worked on moving on with my life.

My birthday was this week. I got a gift from Amazon last night of a set of drill replacement batteries that I’ve had on my wishlist as my current set is on it’s last legs and really needs replacing. There was no name on the tag. I went to the gift page Amazon sends you and clicked the “send a thank you” link to see if a name would populate, and sure enough, they’re from this ex-friend who is still with my ex-husband. I know from mutual acquaintances that she struggles with a lot of guilt and that is likely where this is coming from.

But I am so livid. I’m glad she can’t sleep and takes sleep medication because she’s so guilt-laden. She should be. What the hell? Don’t try to be like “see? I still care about you, I want to give you things to make you feel better or say I’m sorry”. Nope. You don’t give a shit about my feelings. You sent me this thing, which I now have to decide what the hell to do with, to make yourself feel better and nothing else. You know I don’t want contact with you. You know this would only dredge up negative emotions from me and be painful for me. There’s no respect or consideration for me at all – JUST LIKE THERE WASNT TWO GODDAMNED YEARS AGO.

I’m so very VERY angry right now and just needed to throw it out to the intern

I slept with my girlfriend’s sister 5 years ago

Me and my gf now trying to bto and get married soon after 3 years of dating. I knew my gf got a younger sister but I have never met her or seen her pic as my gf is a very private person even on social media. Last week, my gf brought me to meet her family for the very first time to discuss about our marriage. That was when I first met her sister and realised she was the one I ghosted when I was 18 yo after we slept tgt. I ghosted her because she lied about her age on tinder. I won’t disclose her sister’s age but it was a one time thing and I felt horrible after knowing the truth.

I pretended that I didn’t recognised the sister during the dinner and kept calm so that my gf won’t suspect anything. Everything went well until later that night I received a text msg from her sister, asking if I rmb what happened 5 years ago and asked why I ghosted her. She also said that she couldn’t stop thinking about me and felt very hurt after I ghosted her.

I just told her that I was only looking for hookups on tinder during that time and got hurt because she lied about her age. I also told her to keep this a secret from my gf and just let it go as it was 5 years ago where we were still young and not know better. She agreed that we should let it go. This conversation happened earlier this year, so it has been awhile.

But recently, my gf has been asking me about my past hookups/rls. This make me panic a lot because I told her before about my past, so I don’t know why she is asking it now. I suspect her sister told her smtg because my gf keep asking me what exactly did I do 5 years ago when I was in my dating app phase. Do I come clean to her and tell her about her sister as I only had one hookup during that phase and ntg more? Or do I just say I had one hookup and not tell her it’s her sister? What should I do? Pls send help.