Here is something that I observed across a population of male and female regarding height.

It seems that taller people tend to look much older their actual age. During my BMT days, all the sergeants and officers (6 feet and above) generally look like uncles even though they are at most 2 years older than me. On the other hand, those of average height or shorter look more like their actual age, if not younger. I had initially thought that the stress from command school made them look more “cao lao”, but no, even for the shorter commanders, they look pretty young instead.

As for ladies, when I was using the dating app few years back, I was shocked when I saw girls (170cm+) who claimed that they were in their mid 20s, but they look very much similar to 40+ age aunties with children, feature wise. Could that be the reason why they had to use dating apps, because their age is likely to be misunderstood?

People often claimed that it is good to look as tall as possible. Owing to these observations, I feel that being short or average has its perks too. For example, I have a 30 yrs old friend who is around 165cm but he looks legit young. In fact, there was once he told the barber that he is a lower secondary school kid and the barber actually believed him, giving him a cheaper haircut.

Heck, even when he goes clubbing, he is able to attract the early 20 XMMs by tellling them he is in his early twenties. Being much taller, I had a harder time attracting XMMs since I look more like a married uncle trying to commit adultery.

Also, there are some claims (journals??) that shorter people have a longer life expectancy. Is that the reason why we are not seeing many elderly uncles who are 180cm plus? Most of these old men today are 170cm plus or below. Of course there are exceptions but they are mostly outliers who have access to better quality of life.

Now I really worry because I am freaking tall…. ladies tend to think that I am married when I am not and I am only 30 years old but look 40ish to other people. How now??

I (21 f) am the oldest of three, I’m also the only daughter.

My parents started “teaching” me house chores at around age 9, which was basically giving me a broom and telling me to sweep without telling me how, or to do the dishes, without teaching me.

Ever since then, I’ve been doing the majority of the household chores. I thought they’d start teaching my brothers too once they became like 9-10 but nope, just me, because I had the audacity to be born without a weaner in the middle east, my bad.

House chores are not the main problem, it’s the time I have to spend on them, especially cooking. My brothers (19m) and (11m) simply eat, sleep, play video games, and hang out with their friends when they don’t have school.

I even have to actively clean after them or my dad will start a fight over me being lazy and the house being a mess.

I feel like I got scammed today by a medical clinic and felt rather down after thinking about it.

So basically two weeks ago, I went to stitch up a small wound on my knee which cost me around 2000 dollars.

Then today, I went back to the same clinic and removed the stitches which cost more than 100 dollars.

Additionally, the doctor gave me a bandage to cover the wound which cost 50 dollars. He also gave botox injection in the wound which he said was supposed to heal faster but wasnt mentioned earlier?

Just wanted to understand who have a similar experience where just stitching and unstitching a wound can cost up to a few thousand dollars?

And why does the bandage cost 50 dollars when it is just wrapping it on the wound?

Did I really got scammed or is medical bills really so expensive now?

Editor’s note: The stitches made of what? Gold ah?

Life of a Sales Person in Tech

Here is what life generally looks like:

I work Monday to Friday, and spend anywhere between 4-16 hours a day working depending on the week.

Work generally requires me to travel 2-3 days each week, but sometimes longer for upto 2 weeks. I always try to be back in Singapore for the weekend to spend with family & friends.

While travelling, I’m only put up at 5 Star Hotels (Marriott or IHG), and fly Economy or Premium Economy. When outside of Asia its always Biz Class flights.

Monday – Exercise in the morning, Work from Home/ Office, Spend time with kids and wife.

Tuesday – Catch early morning flight, Biz meetings all day. Check into Hotel for the night. Sometimes I have my local GF join me, else hire an expensive escort for company. Occasionay I may meet someone interesting in the bar, or lounge of the hotel and we spend the night together.

Wednesday – same as Tuesday.

Thursday – Exercise if no company the previous night, Work from hotel until afternoon. Catch an afternoon \evening flight back to Singapore.

Friday – Exercise in the morning, Work from home and Lunch with wife. Return to respective work places. Spend evening with family.

Saturdays may be spent going out with the family, and evenings with friends.

Sunday is exclusively with the family.

Can’t complain about my life. I make decent money (around 200k salary with almost 2x-3x in commissions).

All our holidays are fully paid for with FF miles and hotel reward points earned due to work travel.

I’m in my early 30s and have been living this lifestyle for the past 4-5 years. So glad the pandemic has eased out, and travel is back again!

My partner’s family lives in the US and we’re going to see them soon (few weeks).

37M autistic, full-time employment, not making “good money” living with my parents.

Last year, just after I (25M) graduated from Uni, I was approached by my friend who was a financial advisor. You all can guess where this is going so long story short, I bought an ILP (AIA Pro Achiever)

I heard bad things about ILPs before, but he told me this was different because it has 100% premiums invested.

He recommended it to me because I told him I had no intentions to ever learn how to invest, so he said this was a good “middle ground” option

Back then, me having 0 knowledge on finance (my bad) being overly trusting and gullible (also my bad) decided to buy it. Monthly premium of $300 around ~7% of my current salary.

How badly have I messed up? I admit that this was attractive to me mainly because I had no intentions to learn anything about stocks or investments.

But recently I have been hearing things from my other friends about roboadvisors and how it’s similarly low effort and yet modest returns. I found this sub while doing research into it, and I’ve realized how bad a decision I made.

Should I terminate the plan? Or wait out the remaining 12 years and surrender after that. (No surrender charge after 13 years)

More context about my financial situation (if it’s relevant)

Currently I have around $25K in savings (in SC jumpstart) as an emergency fund.

Single, living with parents (rent too expensive, no friends to split with).

Job is stable, in essential services (pharma industry), so no immediate financial concerns, my next big purchase will be when its time to buy my HDB.

I know I must sound really dumb (also lazy) as a working adult and it’s my own fault for not taking steps in educating myself about personal finance. So I would greatly appreciate any and all advice.

I (30M) am studying in UK overseas for a year. Nearing the end of my study, my friend Rita (31 F) asks me when I will leave the city so she can visit me along with her other friend.

Soon my girlfriend (36F) jumps on board so she can come to help me pack and share the baggage allowance on the way back. We made some arrangements so that we all leave the city on the same day.

I told Rita that I will be in the thick of my final dissertation and that I might be opting for something else I planned instead of her plan, but we can always separate and go where each wants to go. I mentioned this several times because even though we are friends for a long time, we are totally different people.

Rita is more outgoing and likes cool stuff, modern design, arts & craft, fashion, dancing, clubbing, shopping, etc, a proper-it girl. While I’m more of an introvert and like to see something with history, tradition, and classical arts and frankly much more boring to her taste.

I also dread shopping besides online one. I mentioned all this so she can make plans with her other friend instead. A couple of months before the date, Rita’s friend bailed on her and now it’s just me, Rita, and my gf.

I feel guilty for changing Jobs while the staff goes on a business trip

Some Context: Working for my friend’s mother’s small business for 6-7 years now.

I currently work there as a graphic designer, but they also gave me other responsibilities such as: Helping out at their warehouse lifting boxes. Unloading containers (not as much since covid). Taking orders on the phone and in-store. Taking dropshipping orders. Handling dropshipping returns. Helping with installation jobs. So basically I’m doing a bit of everything.