Bicycle rentals abundant….again…

The amount of public bikes sitting to be rented around bus stops is crazy again.

Not only bus stops but they are still just dumped wherever the rider wants apparently.

I was walking on the green corridor and saw several….just sitting in the middle of nowhere. One was dumped in the bushes. It’s going to rot into trash.

I counted the amount at one of my local bus stops. 38. Why is this a thing.

Wasn’t this already tried? Didn’t it kind of fail and all the bikes ended up in a landfill in China? They were definitely a mess here. Many of the bikes were trashed and not functional.

Other countries have adopted the approach of having docking stalls. You remove from one place and have to dock it into the next set the end of your journey for it to be complete.

We’re just spinning our wheels here.

Netizens’ comments

• Until the Singapore public learns how to be more gracious and civic minded, this idea will never ever work
• And yet, here they are. It’s been 5 years and they are still here, and these companies (SGBike & Anywheel) aren’t going bust like their first generation counterparts (ofo, oBike, Mobike). The idea works, maybe not very well currently, but it does work. They are here to stay.
• Just a few days ago I thought I saw someone sharing how you can print or take a picture of the QR code or sth so you could get around the system and park the bikes anywhere.

Are parents blessing needed for couples to get married?

I have been with my partner for close to 2 years but he has only met and interacted with my family less than 5 times.

When my sister was dating her bf, now husband, he was around at our house way more times than I can remember, hanging out with my family on numerous occasions, baking together with my mum and sister, staying over to go to church the next day with my family, and my mum also attended an investment seminar only with him.

My mum still refers to my partner as my friend and on one occasion when my partner was standing beside me, my mum looked directly at me and said ”we are having steamboat dinner tonight, invite your friend to join us”. Why couldn’t she ask him when he was standing beside me?

She didn’t even speak to my partner to try to get to know him better during one of the recent family meals we had together.

Initially, when I first started dating him, she was opposed to the idea of me dating him because he doesn’t have a degree and our future wouldn’t be financially stable, however according to my sister, my mum is now neutral to the idea of me dating him, but during one of her recent talks with me, she asked me to really consider whether I see a future with him because we might not be financially stable. I feel like my relationship with my mum has become more strained after I got together with my partner, maybe because she thinks I am going against her.

My family is also a very conservative religious household, so when I had an ectopic pregnancy early this year, I couldn’t tell them and went through this together with my partner, without the support or comfort from my family.

It was a roller coaster of emotions when I tested positive. My first thought was to keep it but I knew my family would react very negatively to the news (because of the whole pre-marital S) and even though my partner didn’t want to keep it because of financial reasons, he was there with me for a few appointments, then I felt sad and maybe a little relieved when the doctor told us that the pregnancy wasn’t viable because now I wouldn’t be torn between the decision of keeping and having to tell my family. It felt like a decision was made for me.

My partner and I have briefly discussed getting married, and we want to ROM only because we don’t intend to waste money on wedding banquets but I know my mum would be against that idea because my sister had a really extravagant banquet for her wedding (pre covid) and my mum was so excited for it that she even pressured me to buy a dress especially for that occasion and got pissed with me for wearing another dress that she didnt approve of because of the color.

We also don’t intend to have a church wedding like my siblings had for theirs and when I told my sister, she frowned so hard that her eyebrows almost fused together, and my mum might react that way too. I feel like somehow there will a huge probability that my family would react negatively if my partner and I were to get married, but I dont want to end this relationship with my partner because I love him and I can envision a simple frugal future with him.

It feels like my family will never be ready to accept my partner as part of the family, and I don’t know what to do about it.

omg pls help does anyone know why smrt rejected my simply go debit card?

Tried to take a bus to part time job the reader said “use another card” when I clearly have $40 in my card and i dont owe any fees… my card is also not blocked or anything I just bought smth with it yesterday..

Now I have to spend $24 taking grab to a pt job that pays $48 🥲🫠

Pls help

Edit: $40 in my bank account! I’ve been using simply go with this card for years im not sure why it just didnt work today. And I have no cash on me

Netizens’ comments

• Has yr debit card expired?
• Did you take a ride recently and the transaction has not gone through yet? I had similar experiences a couple of months ago when my card kept getting declined because the previous transactions had not been processed. I haven’t experienced it recently though.
• sometimes there’s a “hold” on your money, which can’t be touched. eg if you make a reservation that requires a deposit, the restaurant might put a “hold” on $X, till they either charge you or cancel the hold.
• I have no idea what kind of error that is, but if your phone is an android phone with nfc, may I suggest to add some cards in your phone to simplygo as well, as a backup in case something like this happens again, or if you lose your card/forget to bring it out
• Put your card on the topup machine and see what it says. You may need to switch it from some nets mode to debit card mode.
• ensure you tap only 1 card, if you tap your wallet the reader may read other cards.

A few years ago, alot of girls hiam me because they say I am quiet, introverted and boring person just because I think about what I will say carefully.

Now I am earning 200K per annum, those girls say I am introspective and thoughtful when I speak. Money talks.

Here are what netizens think:

• Earning $200k per annum now and you still care about how those girls think? Anyway there are girls who don’t hiam money but looks… There’s no end to it. Someone will like you for who you are.

• That, and you elevate humble bragging.

• You work as a pimp ? 200k per annum is alot leh. Ben Leong also dont earn that much

• No need to objectify girls liddat to boost your ego

• When poor, ppl wont tolerate ur nonsenses. When u have money, ppl just tolerate it better. Just like how people can tolerate toxic bosses for the salary

• Those are not true friends..True friends will say the same thing regardless of your wealth

• Its ok. $20 or $200k or even more, you have to open your eyes to see whose worth your time. Regardless, there will always be comments and you wont be able to please everyone.

• Well even with the money, your insecurity and emotional scars still show. Otherwise why take the time to write such a post and demean women? If the attitude of the women around suddenly changed, maybe you are making the wrong type of friends. Or birds of the same festhers flock together as this itself is a very superificial post

I’m embarrassed to say this but I got scammed on Carousell.

Long story short, I was selling an item and instead of receiving money, money was taken from me. I cannot believe I fell for it.

Immediately, I called the bank to froze my account and made a police report about it. So does anyone knows what happens after this? FML

For context, I fell for the carousell buyer protection scam and the money is now pending.

Here’s what happened.

1. ⁠Buyer showed interested in buying my item and wanted it to be deliver to him via delivery
2. ⁠Initially, I declined until he suggested sending it to him via grab from which I agreed as long he is willing to pay the shipping fees
3. ⁠He requested for my e-mail which I foolishly gave him
4. ⁠I asked for his address only to receive a reply that he had already paid via Carousell buyer protection and that I should check my e-mail
5. ⁠I checked my e-mail which the e-mail somehow managed to passed through spam. I clicked on the link to receive the money and because I haven’t link my carousell to my card, so stupid me put my card details in it.
6. ⁠Afterwards, I checked to see whether the money is in only to realised a portion of my money was gone.
7. ⁠Immediately, I called DBS to froze my account and afterwards made a police report.

I’m with my girlfriend for 3 years. She’s been bugging me to marry her and its really starting to stress me out. I didn’t tell her I actually have a 6 figure savings accumulated from my deceased father’s will on top of my own assets and let her think I’m a pauper. She even gave me money once when she thought my family finances was tight but I rejected it. A part of me decided she is the one after she did that.

My mother told me to never flaunt our wealth so as not to attract the wrong people so I guess I start to feel funny about money since young. We mostly go to hawkers and only visit restaurants when there is a special occasion like birthdays or Christmas. Our dates are usually very low costs. I like that when the weather permits, we have the habit of alighting earlier from the train or bus and spend more time walking together and talking to reach our destination.

I lied to her that we can’t afford a flat yet and she showed hand me her savings and say she can and kept asking me not to waste her time in a joking way. Her family is pretty well to do. Her dad even gifted her a car when she got promoted but she sold it as she’s not confident driving.

The problem I have with my gf may be insignificant to some couples. I don’t really have any major red flags or issues about her. Even if she’s not my gf, I would think of her as a great person to have around. I know other men will find her very eligible given her looks, personality and family background. My mother loves her and already considers her a daughter in law. But I have a but. I’m not ready. We are in our late 20s.

How do you become ready? I’m so in love with her but I just couldn’t make myself get down on one knee and ask for her hand in marriage.

I (29f) gave birth two weeks ago. I had a relatively easy pregnancy and was really looking forward to being a mother.

But now that the baby is actually here I am wondering if I am actually cut out for this. I am stuck in an endless sleepless cycle of feeding, cleaning and praying my baby sleeps.

When people jokingly told me gear up for the fourth trimester, I never thought it would be this difficult.

Its not like the responsibility ends at sometime during the day and I can start next day again. It’s like being stuck in a job I hate,I am not allowed to quit, and there is no end in sight.

I love my kid and hate myself for this thoughts but I need to say this somewhere.

while I understand how incredibly ungrateful I sound, I need to get this off my chest.Sharing this with family is not an option.

Netizens’ comments

• After the 6-8 week mark that’s when it gets better. Then when they’re older and doing their own thing and you can hang out and go out places with them it’s the best. Def lean on family and friends to give you a break every now and then. Don’t be a martyr.
• I think I cried for 3 weeks straight after my child was born. It was overwhelming thinking I was responsible for this little one’s life for the rest of my life. My baby is 22 now and I’d do it all over again. It’s normal, and it gets better as you get more comfortable with being a mom. Big hugs!
• I just want to say that what you’re feeling is 100% normal. Please accept any help you’re offered and don’t be shy about asking for more.

I am a foreigner and I am staying in a rented room for about 2 years, and now out of nowhere, the owner wants to rent it out to his friend and wants me to vacate the room.

He has given me a month period according to the contract to vacate. The problem is that I have sent most of my salary back home, and do not have the cash to pay a deposit for a new room.

I am looking into the options of getting a short-term loan from the bank (trying at different banks), and hopefully, I will be able to get some money to pay the deposit to move into a new room.

If that fails, are there any other ways to rent out a room or anything I can do to help my own situation? I am kind of desperate and anxious about what would happen.

If you have any suggestions, please share it with me. I work in the IT sector as a Presales Manager, if that helps.

Netizens’ comments

• Do you have a credit card? Else most realistic is just to send money back to pay deposit. You should always have 3-6 months worth of salary available immediately for this kind of situation.
• Could you get back the deposit from the current landlord and then use (most) of it for the next one?
• hostel, like checkbout youtube vid on cheapest hostel in Singapore

I am roughly in the midpoint of my 1 year contract role and I don’t know why but I find myself no longer wanting to put in effort in my job and wanted to coast around.

In the meantime, I am job hunting for something that is better than my current role, preferably something that pays more and have more benefits than my measly contract position.

Compared to my previous position as a trainee in the same company and department, I have lesser benefits now and took a slight pay cut in my current contract role. Somehow I don’t know why but I think I am too fixated with salary and other benefits that I think I would be happier with more salary and benefits.

I can’t think of anything else that would made me more happy than more salary and benefits. Currently, I am required to help out in my previous team when I was a trainee when they are having manpower issues and also do my routine work in my current role and I am wondering is it worth to do so much work when my pay is not so much?

Work-wise, I made a lot of mistakes at work recently and as much I felt bad and sorry for my colleagues for doing extra work because of my mistakes, but I can’t even pinpoint the reason why I just don’t feel the motivation to carry out my routine tasks, much less even to come for work.

I wanted to check in with my boss and share with her what I feel, but I don’t know what should I be sharing with her.

With a couple of colleagues leaving, it got me very worried that my workload would increase sharply and I am wondering if I am capable of handling the routine workload.

I am wondering if this is a sign of me feeling burnout. I told myself that it’s only just a few months of work in my current role and burnout should not come so soon. But comparing my previous role and current role, the job scope is vastly different and I somehow prefer my previous role because things are much more straight forward and I had lesser things to worry about. Perhaps I should not have accepted my current role though. But thoughts of leaving before my contract ends would raise red flags to future employers about my current role and this is something that I worry about.

Just to want to hear opinions if it is ok to work for money and benefits only? I am quite sick of splitting myself into two just to help my previous team and current team for work.

Received another scam call from MOH. Sharing my experiences to prevent people from falling into scams. which I think alot of people (and not just the elderly) would be susceptible to.

The scary thing is… There was no +65 for this call. (Yes, I hang up on +65s now.).

My premise is that I’ve been doing daily calls with my hospital for reporting related to my personal health condition.

The scammer who called spoke in Chinese (red flag 1), informing that he’s calling from MOH and that they received one of my emergency documents.

Then they tried confirming my identity. Firstly with my name. (They got the name but not the surname right. (red flag 2) This could be public information since as humans, we share our data every day.) And then confirming my phone number (which obviously they have on hand given that they were the ones who called the number).

This creates a sense of legitimacy that they are calling from a governmental organization. (Please note that when organisations try to confirm your identity, more than just publicly available information is used for confirmation.)

This scam feeds on human desires to know what emergency document of mine was sent to the ministry as they fish for information or more.

I wasn’t ready to share or confirm more information so I hung up.

The number calling in is 94******. (There was no +65 on the caller id.)

Is this a scam or did I hang up on a legitimate call?

Netizens’ comments

• If the caller cannot speak English it’s confirm scam bro. MOH or a hospital would never hire someone who can’t speak English to work in a call centre
• Staff from Govt organisation or companies don’t call from their personal mobile phones about official matters. You might want to highlight this issue to your health service provider since there might be a breach of security on their end or staff may have sold your personal data. But most likely someone hacked into your email account and got the details from there or from your text messages. You are probably the softer target and your phone security might have been compromised, especially if you are an Android user.
• MOH knows more about me than myself. No need to call and confirm