Hello there! desperately seeking some wiser and 3rd party opinion on what im facing. thankful and appreciative to hear any advice you guys may have for me to make better of this situation!

for context, I am a fresh uni graduate and have been at my first FT job for about 3 months.

Although short, I have been experiencing issues where I get overcome with worry and anxiety whenever I am not at my laptop.

It has gotten to a point where I get nauseous whenever I open my laptop, expecting to find messages of me having messed up or missing out on something important. .

I’m not sure if this is normal but I find myself working from 830am to 730pm on weekdays and even working morning to night on weekends to deliver time-sensitive work by Monday morning.

I work in PR which deals with media and as media is on the ball 24/7 daily, which I guess means I am also expected to deliver despite it being a weekend.

I have spent a lot less time with my parents and with my friends, which makes me feel so alienated and alone in facing these issues.

Whenever i’m in the office, I see others working till 630pm or later, but aren’t tired or burnt out like i am. I’ve approached seniors in the office and they tell me that things are really tough at the start but get better over time.

Though I believe them, Im also not sure how much more I can take working 11 hours a day 7 days a week. Perhaps this is frequent for fresh graduates to experience as I am very new to the job and take much longer to do everyday tasks, but how do others manage to cope with this lifestyle without getting burnt out? Is it true I just need to toughen out?

I would honestly hate to quit because I rely on my salary to pay back a large school loan. Also genuinely afraid no other jobs will be out there due to the climate. Any advice is really welcomed, thank you guys again so much!

Is 16 year age gap too big? I’m 36 and he is 52

Curious anyone else’s experience with an age gap relationship. What did you find challenging (if anything) and what was easy? I’d love any and all input!

My biggest issue is: His female friends his age refuse to meet me bc they think I am too young for him and are jaded.

I’ve been kind and always ask about them still and take an interest but the same isn’t true the other way. This has been frustrating for me bc I don’t see what the big deal is.

The best things: He’s mature, has his life together (as do I-I’m not a gold digger at all as I have my own houses – one I rent one I live in, full time career and am established).

we have similar taste in many things (music, food, health/fitness- walking daily etc.), both quirky with being tidy (always have a clean home, both hate clutter, keep up with self cleanliness etc.)

we enjoy each other’s company and don’t really notice the age gap or any limitations for us at this point in our lives. But I’d love to hear from others

Netizens’ comments

From how you’ve described the relationship, no, the age gap isn’t an issue. But, what seems to be an issue is his female friends’ approval due to the age gap. I can tell you that their disapproval has nothing to do with their concern for him but probably more to do with you being a younger woman and them being jealous. Make no mistake about it, their conversations about you when he’s not around probably go like: “Why can’t he date someone closer to his own age?” and “He’s just dating her for the sex”.

I wouldn’t force a relationship with them and would more than likely just keep his friendship with them just between him and them.

Our gahmen always tell us about tradeoffs. U gain something, must sacrifice other things. Cannot have everything. Tradeoff also apply to family. Like how my wife gave me a beautiful baby girl. But gained 8kg because of pregnancy. How i know? She measures her weight every 2 days and tell me. I always suan her. Pregnant that time told you don’t eat so much, now see so hard to lose.

But at least gained 8kg not so bad la. I always assure her she still my beloved. At least she didn’t lose her hair. She always ownself scare ownself, scared she will lose all her hair during pregnancy. I thought she would really become like Gollum from LOTR.

But hor, got 2 things really quite ugly I don’t dare to tell her. One is the patch on her face. I think its called melasma. Doctor said it should go away after a few months. *should*. If still there how? No more flawless skin ley.

Then the other one is the stretch marks on her tummy. The creams like useless one. Beauty marks my foot. Doctor say it would get better over time. Dunno if he bluffing or what.

When become a new father, I also find myself become a liar. Always have to tell her she’s still as pretty as last time. The stretch marks not obvious one ( yeah right). Honestly la, how can before and after pregnancy be the same? Husband life not easy ley.

We’ve been together for quite a while and she recently moved into my place. We got into a very nasty fight this morning, but we worked it out and decided to apologize to each other in the afternoon.

However, she was still feeling a bit salty for the entire evening. I went to bed early, because I had to wake up early while she stayed up late to watch TV.

At some point she came to sleep with me. I heard her walking in and woke up, but pretended to be asleep because I was just planning to go back to sleep, not thinking much of it.

Then it happened. I felt the nastiest slap ever on my face. It literally came out of nowhere and I couldn’t even process what happened.

My reaction was stupid – I said “wtf babe was there a bug on me or something?” (Yes it’s stupid I know, but I just answered by instinct”). She said yeah there was a bug and went to sleep.

I confronted her next day about it. I told her I was wide awake and that I was cautious enough to know there was no damn bug.

I asked her why she hit me. She got nervous and told me it was a “prank” and that I shouldn’t take it serious.

She later apologized, but not like she means it, more like when your mother makes you apologize for something dumb and you do it by default, you get it right…

This is a deal breaker, isn’t it? I’ve lost complete trust of her.

So i’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and he comes from money.

I’ve never wanted it to seem weird and I’ve never asked him for anything but he is extremely generous, as our his parents. I love his mom. I did not grow up in a warm family and we just bonded right away. She’s relatively young and definitely the fun type of parent who wants to be friends with their kid.

They invited us to one of their vacation houses and after a few days he went with his dad to visit a family friend. They were going to be gone two nights so I ended up hanging out/sleeping in his mom’s bed. Worst experience of my life, she rolled over the entire night, ended up on top of me, tried to wrap herself around me.

So his dad has another child who is significantly older than my boyfriend and the wife and daughter hate each other, like she wasn’t allowed at the wedding and it’s very recent that they can even be in the same house.

We wanted to play a prank, so the second night I hung out in his mom’s bed again and when she fell asleep the stepdaughter switched places with me, so she woke up cuddling the person she hates the most in the world.

She thinks her stepdaughter is “ugly and gross” in a very immature refuses to touch her way.

I still maintain it was funny, but his mom was reasonably pissed. Today his mom took me shopping and told me she was going to buy me a Louis Vuitton bag.

For those of you who don’t know they are usually a couple thousand and I’ve always wanted one, though she doesn’t know how badly.

We went to the store and we only got to the door before she told me she was kidding. I tried to laugh it off because I pranked her first but I was pretty devastated. When we got home I cried in my room and my boyfriend got very upset.

He said his family isn’t obligated to buy me anything and it’s just a bag. I get that, but it’s not like I asked her for it and I was just disappointed. I think he worries about girls using him for his money but I feel like I should be able to cry in front of him.

How I always get my seat in train

I notice this method makes guys give up their seat. If I am in tights I normally stand close in front of the guy so that he feels uncomfortable and moves off.

If I am in dress, I move close enough to let my dress flow over his knees and it is enough for the guy to normally get off his seat.

Netizens’ comments

• Even if you sit on my lap, I also won’t give up the seat. Or perhaps you didn’t wash properly and the smell chased them away..
• I bet u are also that type of mrt commuter who will stand annoyingly close to a person so that the person will feel uncomfortable enough to move and give up their standing spot for u? Why u need to sit so badly? Never hear of first come first serve meh, unless you’re an elderly then have to give up seat? Wait elderly don’t wear tights and dress.
• If you are chio, some men won’t move away one
• I will usually use my backpack to bump people like you to indicate you are too close
• I think it is not because of what you wear, it is because you smell. Especially at the nose level of the seated guy.
• I usually “accidentally” step on toes or my leg will “twitch” when I feel a cloth too close to my knees 

I hope my MIL gives me some family time

I am not saying my MIL is a bad person, but I hope she can give some family time for me to be with my son.

I am 43, my wife is 36, definitely we know how to take care of our own 5 years old son. But just yesterday, for example, I know I cannot but to smile and welcome her to our house again, when she has already had the weekdays to take care of my son.

My wife and I take turns to give her a sum of money monthly to babysit for us in her house when we go to work.

But during weekends, before I can plan any activity to bring my son out, my wife would tell me that her mother is coming to our house.

Not that I do not welcome her, but whenever she comes over, it is like a soft army style of stand by the house. She would pick all the flaws she can find in the house.

For example, she told me that there are ants in the potato chips yesterday, which I don’t find any, she just threw them away and said she would buy some for me when she comes again.

She knows her own daughter seldom help with housework, so I have to make sure the house is clean and tidy before she comes.

She would buy all sort of food for us to eat, for fear we didn’t eat enough on a Sunday. I want my son to use a spoon to learn to eat by himself, but then my MIL would always feed him.

I dare not oppose whatever my MIL does, as I know my wife would be sandwiched between me and her mother if we quarrel.

Can someone advise me on how to build a better relation with my MIL without having to give in anything on my part? Thank you.