Got photo of my body taken by uncle on mrt

Just still kinda shaken up honestly posting here just because I’m full of regret and blaming myself.

I know he was taking pictures of me because I’ve been glancing at him for a while now in the mrt and he had his phone angled at me and everything, would pretend to fiddle with it if he caught me looking at him.

Stared at him for a good minute after he pointed his phone at me upright for a really long time and when he noticed he panicked and his phone slipped a bit to tilt downwards, saw he was on the camera app, could tell because I could clearly see the white circle to take pics and the moving surroundings through the camera screen.

I didn’t know what to do because I didn’t want to cause a scene. I’m paranoid of going viral and stuff and there are many instances of like people blaming the girl for what she was wearing or whatever esp in like comments.

You know, the usual “if she dress liddat she should expect to be taken photo of” or wtv. I shouldn’t even be trying to justify myself but I’m just naturally more endowed I guess and sometimes my tops don’t fit me properly.

I dunno man I hate myself so much just alighted at next stop and tried to forget this happened. Really didn’t know what to do, 50 year old man probably has pics of my body in his phone now

Netizens’ comments

There’s nothing to regret or blame.

If this old cheekopeh took some photo, it’s not the end of the world. He will probably share to his WhatsApp etc but in the end, you broke no laws so you don’t need to panic or be afraid

Next steps is up to you. If this has pissed you off enough, make a police report and force the issue. If you don’t want to, either because it’s a hassle or because ps to explain to the police, that’s fine too. In some cases like this you can’t change the outcome, you can only change your response to the situation.

I(m22) am the co-owner of a business with my father. My dad first started it about 2 years ago and I later joined him a year ago and started managing it for him. My brother who we will call “J”(22) worked in the business for abit but only really started working in the business at the beginning of this year.

I have a full time job, married w/children.. My wife stays at home with the kids.

We seem to be living paycheck to paycheck, especially this past month. Most recently, i’ve had a vehicle break down and had to spend $500 to get it fixed, and now we’re left with $69 in our account and i have to stretch that out over the next 10 days until i get paid again.

I and my wife would really like for her to stay at home with the kids, but we’re wondering if there is any sort of “side hustle” she could do from home to help out?

Or anything that has helped you manage your money better?

We have a good family, we’re happy together.. it just seems like our only stress is money. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you in advance!

Netizens’ comments

The very first thing you need to do is create a budget and track your spending. If you don’t know where the money you’re bringing home now is going, chances are you won’t know where extra money is going either.

Track every dollar for a few months and figure out how you can trim the fat and stay within your means. Your wife can take a WFH gig or ‘side hustle’, but you have to set your house in order, my friend.

In the here and now, maybe consider trying to sell a few high dollar items you may have that you can live without? Just my tuppence.

My boyfriend and I have been together for around two years. I’m nineteen and he’s twenty-one. My S drive is almost nothing, it always has been. I think he views it as this problem that I have that he can magically fix with S.

I tried to have S as and when I can, but most of the time either my mental or physical health gets in the way.

My (35M) gf (35F) tells her coworkers that we are cousins

My gf and I have been together for 6 years. She keeps hinting at wanting to get married and talking about what her wedding will be like someday.

So I’ve decided to take the hint. I bought an engagement ring a week ago and am planning to pop the question sometime soon.

Well, over the weekend she had a work function. This was the first time she’s invited me along. I’m not super outgoing, but I was kind of looking forward to meeting all these coworkers she talks about so much.

For some reason, every time we talked to someone, she introduced me as her “cousin”. I thought it was a joke at first, but she kept at the whole day.

When we were driving home I asked her what that was all about, and she said she “didn’t want people to have the wrong impression”.

When I asked what that meant, she said she didn’t want to talk about it anymore, and I shouldn’t be so upset. She then switched the conversation to her favorite TV show.

Why would she introduce me as her cousin? Should I insist on her telling me why she did that before I propose?

Netizens’ comments

• Hope you kept the receipt for that ring. She’s most likely got someone at work that she likes.
• Tell her that since you two are now cousins in her eyes you will be returning the ring as you dont think it is right to marry your own cousin
• The only thing I can think of is her coworkers already met her BF and it wasn’t you.

For context: I (22M) have 2 siblings (22F and 23F) and I am the youngest (the youngest twin). But we are all adults now.

I have a friend whom i know for approximately 20 years. He was 16 years old when i met him at my workplace. Time really files, now we are both in our late 30s.

I remember he left school after completing primary school studies and started work early as a delivery assistant. However, he stopped working at ard 22 years old after he got married. He has stopped working since till now.

Almost 14 years of being unemployed. He has 3 kids and a wife and rely on the income coming from his and his mil hdb that they rented out (he is living and/ or bunking his family (wife and 3 kids ) together with his mil and mother in a 4 room hdb owned by his mum.

Although this is a good option to have more income but i supposed there would be lots of conflicts since his wife, kids , mother and mil live together…

I did advise him to get a job since he is fir and healthy so that he can earn a decent earning to better support the family, etc.

These advices were raised several times over the past 2 decades but he kept saying he was disintegrated from the society and doesnt wana work. He said he is happy with how life is and relies on government subsidies in household expenses and kids educational fees etc.

I was terribly upset upon hearing this time after time. I meant firstly, if he works, he can get more income with cpf to somehow retire better eventually.

Secondly, the government subsidies & taxpayers money are supposed to help those really in need and not for those who are well and fit to be employed and choose not to work.

What are your thoughts? Is my friend lazy or is he really feeling inferior and lack confidence in re-entering the workforce?

Netizens’ comments

• I think you really too free. If he can quit at 22, the age where most have the most energy AND THEN unemployed for 14 years, he must have hated working and lazy af. And what makes you think his family need his contribution? His wife’s family may be richer than you think. You are terribly upset? He’s ur son or wat. Raised this to him several times over past decade? Don’t kpo la, work on yourself better.
• His life. His business. His burden. This is Not your circus and Not your monkey. So Why stress yourself? Your life not enough stress to waste your own time in peoples life? Very problem free? Your friend is grown! He knows what he is doing!

Is it really too much to refuse to date guys who still live at home with their parents?

I get that it’s normal here for people to live at home well into their adult life, but it’s just not for me.

I get so many excuses like:

“Housing is expensive and no one can afford to buy a home / waiting to BTO” Okay? People can rent. I rent. Nearly all of my friends rent. It’s doable. I’m not saying people have to buy a house.

“It’s normal for guys to live at home so you just have to accept it” Why do I need to accept it? I don’t. I can just do what I’m doing now and refuse to date guys who still live at home.

“Why don’t you just go to a hotel room then?” Because I don’t want to feel like a call girl or that I’m sneaking around behind their parent’s back.

“My parents are fine with me bringing girls over” Good for them, but I’m not going to do anything when their parents are RIGHT THERE IN THE SAME HOUSE. It’s wildly uncomfortable.

It’s a sign of independence. My experiences of dating guys who still live at home isn’t good. I’ve had guys try to sneak me into a completely dark house because it’s 2am and of course their parents are asleep. Guys who had to update their parents on their whereabouts, report when they leave, if they’re going to get back late. Guys who still let their parents/maid feed them, do their laundry, do their dishes, do all the house chores. Guys who tried to change a date location because their parents didn’t think it was a good idea.

Ever since I’ve started only dating guys who’ve moved out, I don’t run into issues like that anymore.

There’s not quite any replacement for living alone. I want to date a guy that’s used to living alone and handling all the things that come with it. Someone who’s completely cut the apron strings.

I don’t think that’s a high standard at all, so I’m tired of getting so much flak for it

My sister is 28. She has had a large dating history and oftentimes breaks up with these great men because she believes she can find better.

A lot of it is due to the fault of our parents for spoiling her and telling her how special she is. She is beautiful, but by no means is she the supermodel she sees herself as.