Husband is a miser and I don’t feel loved. I hope my husband read this.

We are married for 9years and have a beautiful son. We are both earning above 10k and have a comfortable life and all are good except that my husband is a miser, and towards me.

He stays with me and he only gives me $300 a month and that is barely enough to cover his share for electricity and parking while I pay for everything in the house(think repairs/replacements of Aircon/lightbulbs).

I pay for ALL supermarket runs and we go on Dutch for all meals (he would even get a few dollars from my for my plate of rice). His love language is spending quality time and he does great at that and I really appreciate. However, my love language is gifts and I rarely get anything from him.

He buys me like 2-3 tshirts(less than $100 a year) and it’s caused he wanted those for himself and a birthday present a year (which I have to buy him back one with almost the same amount of money. It also means I am just paying for my own present in advance).

He keep saying he needs to save money for house and mind you, it is for his own share and he’s not paying for everything. He only wants what he wants and I am expected to accomdate and pay for my share of it as well. He has no problem splurging on himself (think 2kplus suits, tops/pants) and only sees a problem when I asked for a gift and gets angry when I said he is stingy.

Actually, all I wanted is to feel love. I wanted to also be able to show that my husband dote and spoils me. I am only expecting presents on special occasions like birthday and Christmas and not having the need to ‘repay’ him with another item of the same amount. Is this asking for too much? I didn’t even get a ‘push’ present from him and yet I am spending a lot of money due to giving birth.

I am so sick of ‘begging’ him for gifts to make myself feel better. Talking to him doesn’t work as I’ve tried many times and he always have excuses.

Yes I can afford those things myself but I just want to feel that I have a husband who is willing to spoil me once in a while when I’ve been paying for everything in the house, all the supermarket runs, all my share of the meals.

It is getting so bad that I am so tired of this relationship where I have to accommodate and pay my share for all his wants and yet I don’t get a present when I asked for it once or twice a year. Whenever I bring up this topic to him, he will get upset and keep saying he doesn’t have money as he needs to save for his share of the house and the next moment, I can see him buying nice things for himself.

To him I can well afford it myself and why do I need to ask from him but he doesn’t understand that I can only feel love and spoiled by him when I received those things from him once or twice a year.

A netiizen shared her frustrations with “young people these days” being too obsessed with their phones without minding their surroundings.

She shared two anecdotes of unsavoury incidents that she had seen and experienced while in the MRT and the stations.

Here is what she said

Young people these days are just too entitled and obsessed with their phones while being a complete jerk towards others.

First encounter with this dude who was standing in the middle of the escalator while glued to his phone.

When the escalator reached the top, he just stood at the top of the escalator while still glued to his phone, completely oblivious to anyone around him and blocking anyone from landing.

There was only 1 second before landing and I had no choice but to physically shove him out of the way. Worst still, he wasn’t apologetic in anyway and glared at me as though it was my problem.

On hindsight, wished I had pushed him so hard that his phone dropped. Would I be liable for damage to his phone if it really dropped ? It was his fault totally anyway.

Next encounter was another dude who was walking slowly into the train while texting on his phone as the doors were about to close, completely oblivious to the people behind him rushing in to board.

The girl behind him got kiapped by the door because of it. And he completely wasn’t even aware of what he had caused.

A man that my mom rejected in back school messaged me on Facebook today, saying he’s been waiting for me to be 18…

18f here. I don’t really know where to start but, today I got a Facebook message from someone named “David” asking me if I was available to chat.

Now normally I don’t even answer random requests but I saw he had a few mutual friends with me (one being my mom) I figured if she knew him then maybe he’s not a creeper.

I reply, saying yes and asked why he was messaging me. He then says that he’s about my moms age (she’s 42) and that about their last year in school he asked her out and she sadly rejected him because she only wanted to date tall men.

I say that’s pretty unfortunate, but maybe he’s confused cause I don’t have anything to do with that. He said he’s been waiting for me to turn 18 and would’ve messaged sooner after my birthday but he’s been in jail. Yikes…

He then sends a long paragraph explaining that he has vowed ever since that day that he would marry one of her daughters and since my twin sister seemed uninterested in men, and that my older sister was far too old for him, he decided to go after me.

Meaning he’s stalked all of our profiles…..

He said my body didn’t even look like I had a kid and that he’s glad I’m so petite unlike my mother. Added that he’d gladly accept my son in our new life. I stopped him right there and said I was in a relationship and was definitely not interested in someone who was as old as my mom!

He said he had money and a house and was far better in bed than the “man child” of a boyfriend I had. That this was his chance to prove to my mom that she messed up. I stopped replying, sent the screenshots to my mom and she was mortified. We’ve both blocked him and had a good laugh.

Moral of the story, don’t keep in touch or add your rejected school friends on Facebook or else they may try to date your kids when they’re 18 :,)

Is a single income of 100k per year enough for a family of 4-5 to live in Singapore?

I am turning 33 this year and my wife is 1 year younger and in early pregnancy with our 1st child. We have discussed and she has plans to quit the workforce and be a full time stay home mum when the child is born.

In the last 2 of her jobs, she was unlucky to be in toxic workplaces and it has pretty stressed her out. We had also agreed that it is good she would take care and be fully present for our kids during their growing up years and it will allow me to concentrate on my career also.

We have plans to have 2-3 kids eventually. She currently earns about 60+k per year and we won’t have this income anymore in a few months’ time.

For myself, I earn slightly above 100k per year but I foresee that the future increases in the next few years won’t be substantial as I am nearing the ceiling of the market rate for my type of job. Unless I go into management or totally change industries, which is really not my preference.

Our home is currently a 5 room resale flat with monthly payment of 2.5k per month for the home and reno loan paid with CPF and cash.

We have no plans to change houses for a long time as the place is big enough even with 3 kids.

Insurance about 500+ per month for the both of us and I believe it will go up as more kids come along.

Other than these, we have no other major fixed expenses. We also have no other passive or investment income as we are not experts in investments and most of our savings have went into the house and wedding and our remaining funds need to be saved for the future kid’s expenses.

I might get a used car for transport if we have 2 or more kids, but it is still early days.

I would like to ask for any advice esp for folks with a young family and who have done it on a single income, is my income of 100k alone enough to support a family of 4-5 people in Singapore?

I worked as a software developer for a company that provided 5500 dollars for training.

The only stipulation is you have to stay at the company for six months after your last training or else your last paychecks are deducted to cover the amount you used. So in my case – I used 4500 dollars by April.

Since I left before November, I won’t get paid for all of August. I signed a contract so there is no way out of this. I used so much of my budget because I loved the type of software I was developing and had every intention of staying at the company indefinitely.