I don’t understand why some MRT commuters (especially aunties) are so inconsiderate and selfish. this has happened a few times to me and i have seen it happen to other people.

sometimes you are just leaning against the glass beside the door and minding your own business.

a random aunty will appear and lean very near to you, trying to displace you from the glass so that they can stand there.

there are variations to this tactic. some will lean against the metal pole with their back touching your arm, some will even squeeze beside you, shoulder to shoulder.

eventually, you buay tahan this close proximity and move away from the glass, then they will shamelessly and happily occupy the space they have been coveting.

it is really ridiculous, if they are indeed in need of some place to rest, they should just ask the people sitting on the reserve seat to give up their seat.

i also wonder if these aunties have a specific type of people that they choose to bully. so far i have only seen it happen to younger guys and girls that will usually just move away and let them stand. couldn’t these old people just open their mouth and say can you let me lean because i am tired etc instead of physically pushing people until they get what they want.

Here are what netizens think:

• Most likely those aunties are generally more or less losers in life, kinda unhappy with themselves and with the world, often lonely & sort of depressed. So such selfish & bullying behaviour is common with them.Sometimes I just feel a bit pity for them and try to accommodate wherever possible. Sometimes the way they talk is kinda rude, but what to do!

• Being uncouth bottom-feeders themselves, they already have nothing to lose. That’s why they thrive on these small “victories” against another person.You, on the other hand…Anyway, a nugget of wisdom I’ve picked up from somewhere: a smart person knows how to get out of trouble, a wise one knows how to avoid it.Do pick and choose your battles. It makes for a quieter and enjoyable ride for all.

• My RBF sends a strong message not to come near 1m of my proximity especially during the last two years. Yup I don’t tolerate people who invade my personal space. Have told people off in public before ie the ones who are constantly at my back in queues.

• Not just in MRT, they feel self entitled everywhere. Including cutting your queue in supermarkets etc. I hope they can just ask politely.

My husband is so lazy!?

It’s unfortunate that we took turns to have Covid.

My husband gotten Covid a week back and I took care of him, buying food back, cooking and housework so he can rest well. On his 6th day, I tested positive too.

It’s truely very torturous as I have pain all over, especially in my joints. I am so tired that I just sleep all day.

I told him I need him to help me get food during the first 2 days at least and it was pretty fortunate that he is still on MC. And also he has to do some streaming of f clothes else he doesn’t have clothes to wear to work on Monday.

But he just ask me to call food delivery instead while he sit there and play games all day. So for 2 straight days, we ordered in.

For the past 2 days, he don’t do the steaming of clothes, Sunday then last minute wake me up to ask me how to do this that. Then keep complaining difficult to use …bleh So I told him, he can choose not yo do it, but then he must wear wrinkled shirts to work lo.

In the end he also do it but grumble grumble grumble.

He still dare grumble ah!? Water no more already he also won’t boil! Last time ask him buy electric kettle (knowing how lazy he is), he say don’t want, normal kettle cheaper, can cook more… Etc, now ask him cook once, he cannot…

Great woman (39F) I’ve (31M) been dating for 3 months just told me she has a kid. It’s a dealbreaker for me but I don’t know how to end things without hurting her.

I started dating a woman about 3 months ago. We met on a dating app and immediately hit it off. We got along great and seemed to be a good match for each other.

We have fun and have been spending a lot of time together the past few months. Everything seemed great and I definitely saw something long term with her.

But the last time we met up, she casually brought up in a conversation that she has a 4 year old son. She had never mentioned him previously so I was pretty stunned about it.

I didn’t make it seem like a big deal but it is definitely a dealbreaker for me. I would have not dated her if I knew about this from the start.

I definitely want a child of my own in the near future and want to have a family. But I have no desire what so ever to be involved in the life of a child that isn’t mine.

So for me, there is no way to continue this relationship. But I’m just not sure how to end things properly .

The last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings and make it seem like she is the problem. I no way want to hurt her or make her feel bad about anything. I’m just not sure how to go about it. How do you guys recommend I end things amicably without hurting her feelings?