Anyways I’ve made near 300 dollars now and I’m very proud and I’m gonna save up. A few days ago my step dad found out how much money I earned and he’s a very joking around person so he said “are you going to share with us?” To which I said no.

Now a few hours ago I came downstairs and my step dad had told me that my response to his joke caught him off guard because her expected me to say yes.

I was confused so I told him that I was really just only wanting to use the money on myself so I won’t feel bad for buying things he then called me selfish because I wouldn’t like to share at least 20/30 dollars with my mom and I was confused because why would she need that from me?

I said I would give her a minimum of 5 dollars because I never expected to have to share with my mom. He said that we work as a team in the house and that he would like it if I shared it.

He went on a rant about how they work so hard and on top of that they had to pick me up from work (he sounded like I was the reason for all their problems which made me upset) We honestly are not poor we live in a nice house have 3 pets and we haven’t struggled with money for a while.

He seemed disappointed I wouldn’t want to share money (I honestly thought he was gonna cry at one point) so I felt bad for saying I didn’t wanna share money so am I wrong?

As soon as my new neighbours moved, the 4yo started running thru their apartment, stomping, jumping off furniture, & ultimately shaking my home. I have been trying to ignore it (unsuccessfully, I have a sensory disorder & it’s truly driving me crazy as I feel it inside my body each time these loud bangs happen), hoping that she will outgrow it.

They have a 1yo learning to walk who I worry will start following suit. I am overwhelmed by the excessive & nearly constant pounding, literally, no less than 3 hours every day between 7 am and 9 pm, sometimes earlier, sometimes later.

Now, I fully understand that some noises will happen. We live on a busy road, with cars, dogs, sirens, etc. so I am by no means expecting silence but this shaking of my home that I feel inside my body, has been going on for 6+ months daily w/ no end in sight. I can’t take it anymore.

I have not yet talked to them. I tried a few times when they moved in but got ignored… I eventually got the condo management involved on that & heard them make snide remarks on their way up the stairs the day the sign got put up to be mindful of noises.

This though? This effects me. I don’t know if that’s just the price you pay for living on the 1st floor (though I have lived under kids before w/ parents like myself who didn’t allow them to run around while living upstairs) or if this is excessive enough that it’s logical to ask for it to be stopped?

Like I said, I’m not expecting silence but this is too much, too often. Experiencing sensory overload along w/ PTSD has become extremely difficult as I cannot even be at home w/out feeling severely increasing anxiety. Not to mention I’m pregnant & don’t want my newborn startled awake by it once LO arrives.

I don’t want to be considered a Karen by saying something if I should just leave it be, that said I cannot enjoy my home when this is literally happening hours daily.

It’s affecting my mental health. I wish it wasn’t but don’t know how to fix it when I can’t just move to another room as she runs loops thru the entire apartment. I cannot get away from it w/out physically leaving my home.

I don’t want to cause drama with the neighbours, just desperately want this to end. We want to move but don’t know how long it will take to find a new place as we’ve been looking even before they moved in. I don’t want to continue to suffer in silence in the meantime.

Lucy is very introverted, but I’d talk to her at parties because I’m more comfortable around women. Paul was intimidating as a sarcastic IT guy but we got along fine too.

2 years ago I discovered bodybuilding and went from being overweight to being very fit. At a party, Paul being into lifting had a MILLION questions about it that I was happy to answer.

After, I started getting uninvited. Paul asked Carol and I if we’d help paint his house. When I agreed he retracted just for me bc they could only feed so many. I said that was fine but to let me know, I was in competition prep so I couldn’t eat their food anyway, which was ignored.

I was invited to Carol’s party and tried making small talk – Paul was aloof/Lucy inscrutable. They left shortly after.

Paul FB msged me – the bodybuilding conversation had triggered Lucy’s body insecurities; she wanted him to have nothing to do with me. He loves her but couldn’t dissuade her. He felt bad being rude to me when I’d done nothing. I expressed empathy for her anxiety/insecurities as I know those well still. I felt bad but was also mildly insulted – I’m happily married.

I was invited to an event with Carol,others, and Paul. No Lucy. I took pictures and Paul asked me not to post them. He admitted he knew I was coming but hadn’t told Lucy. I had already FB restricted Lucy – as a former overwt girl I felt VERY weird/sad that I’d made her insecure and that someone who suddenly disliked me could watch my personal life.

Since then he has occ texted me asking how my sport is going. He helped me build my PC with my husband/I home when my friend who was going to bailed. I consider him a not close friend. I’m certain he doesn’t tell Lucy anything. It makes me feel uncomfortable but he’s a friend, I see him twice a year, it’s their business? AITA?

Now, the amount he asked for was $12.5M and I’m wondering whether I should give it to him or not. Even though he has promised to pay me back under 5 years, I’m still stuck in a dilemma.

I’m worried that I might never see the money again as this is a very big loan.

He has even told me the kind of business he wants to start, and also showed me a business plan which requires this massive loan. I admit that the business is hot right now and the plan is solid, but that kind of loan amount is bugging me.

His mom has started to pressure me to give him that money, and even called me a bad father for not wanting to help out our son.

Should I say no to the loan.