I pay for everything in the house but it’s not enough for my mum

Recently I found out my mum has been going around telling people I gave her very little allowances and refused to let her retired. I used to give her monthly allowance 600 which 200 goes to my dad and 400 goes to her. Pub bills, Groceries, anything you name it I am the one paying for it. That include bringing her for nice restaurants dining and travelling. 

I got a brother who does not work for past 4 years and a sister who married off.

If my sister came home, I’m expected to “entertain” her kids or sometimes bring the kids out and eat all expenses on me. My mum will tell me your sister they are not doing so well plus having 2 kids so money not enough to use, I need to spend on them.

My brother who does not work did not take money from me but I paid every single things at home. He just idle at home doing some housework or watch YouTube, Netflix eg

Since, my mum express her wish to retired so I tell her just retired, and I start giving her 1.6k per month and she still feel her money not enough she now saying she don’t want retired till I give her more.

She goes around telling my relative and friends I’m very spendthrift.

I’m single 41 this year, I earning 12k per month. Investment and saving I put aside portion of money, and I don’t spend on top end branded clothing/bag. I love good food I spent quite a fair bit on good restaurants with my family and friends and holiday.

My mum tell my relative, her brother last time use to work and pass her most of his salary to save which is why he can afford not to work. I rolled my eye because he never paid a single cent to the family which is why can pass her lots of money to save. I even paid for his mobile after he graduated and his holiday expenses when we goes on family trip.

I can’t be giving her all my own money for saving in the event if anything happen to her my brother and sister will want the money to be spilt among them. I’m single I still need own money for old age.

Because of this family I been giving in a lot my ex bf cannot take it we always argue till we broke off 8 years ago and I also single thereafter.

I always wonder I’m doing too little or too much for my family. Till I deserve my mum going behind my back telling tales and my auntie will come tell me.

A netizen shared how her brother took a loan from their elderly mother, promising to return her the money but later ran away with the money, which is her mother’s life savings.

Here is what she said

My brother took a loan of about $20k from my mother, and although to some people it isn’t much, it is her entire life savings.

He came to her saying that he ran into some troubles in Thailand and needed help urgently, and when my mother asked him what troubles was he facing, he just told her that it was complicated and that even if he explained, she wouldn’t understand.

My mother loved and trusted him, as all mothers do, and readily gave him all the money that she had saved up over the years, her life savings, AS A LOAN.

Do you know what the definition of a loan is? A loan is “a thing that is borrowed, especially a sum of money that is expected to be paid back with interest.”

He then took the money and told her that he was grateful to her for her help, and that he will return her the money once he settled his problems in Thailand.

Half a year passed and we haven’t heard anything from him, we can’t reach him via messages, calls or social media because he has blocked all of us.

I don’t even care about the loan amount that he scammed his own mother, I can reimburse our mum but it’s the way he used and lied to her for his own monetary gain.

Really feel sorry for my mother for giving birth to such a useless son.

Happy ending massage but not giving consent for it to happen

I’m really confused don’t know what to do, my girlfriend (20) hates me. So I was highly intoxicated one afternoon and me and my mate went to get a massage from around the corner.

I stated to my friends that I did not want a happy ending or anything extra. We went in I paid full price for the massage and no extras.

I vaguely remember it happening and she told me to roll over and starting jerking me off, I didn’t know what to do I just froze and it ended.

I told my girlfriend as soon as she saw me. And now she broke up with me saying I cheated and now she hates me.

She said I could’ve said no or stopped it. I just froze and didn’t know what to do and I wasn’t in a conscious state mentally. What do I do? Do I give her time? I’m so confused. I need help

Tried talking to her and she just kept yelling at me nonstop, I tried explaining my point of view of what happened. She didn’t even listen to me once, I tried but I got yelled at.

What’s up with the expat vibe here?

Context I’m an Asian (Indian) American visiting Singapore.

Was at a party yesterday and I’ve gotta say some of the expats here are next level confident (arrogant)?

This one Australian dude in finance was just surrounded by people (mostly locals) listening to him as if everything he said was super interesting and he was really just talking about himself and how awesome he is the whole time.

Another British expat told me how insanely easy it is for him to get laid here and pulled up his tinder… entirely unprompted.

Sorry but seems like a super weird vibe here with the expats?

I’m sure not all of them are like that but man this was such a weird experience.

Idk never felt this way in California at house parties before.

The American expats here seemed chill for the most part – maybe it’s just sampling bias idk. It does seem there are significantly fewer Americans here though (of which a lot of Asian Americans interestingly).