my bf broke up with me because I had to think about choosing him or my pet

Me and my bf have been together for 3 years. I knew he wanted to travel and that was something I wanted as well.

However I guess I didn’t realize until now that I wouldn’t be able to take my pet with me. So I’d either have to rehome her or keep her and end our relationship but because I even had to think about it he broke up with me.

I don’t think that’s a decision anyone could make in the moment. I’ve had her for 7 years. I can’t just get rid of her so easily and I think it’s unrealistic to expect that from someone. All I wanted was some time to think things over.

I understand his point about how me not picking him right away made it seem like I don’t care about him. That wasn’t my intention at all.

It’s just a lot to think about all at once and I needed a moment to think. I’m absolutely devastated. I feel so lost

I’ve been dating my bf for a year, a few months into the relationship he told me there was a girl obsessed with him for a few years. She was an ex classmate who had a crush on him. Initially he tried to give it a go with her, but it didn’t work out so he ended it. He told me they weren’t bf/gf but he got to 2nd base with her. He told me she didn’t move on since. He told me he rejected her not because of her size. He just didn’t feel any chemistry.

The girl has a pretty face and has no lack of suitors so I believe she must have a pleasant personality. Just that when it comes to my bf, all logic went out the window for her.

She often comes to my bf and tries to make small talk, ask about homework, and often get ignored by my bf. He was rude to her whenever I noticed and I didn’t understand why until later.

Months later, the girl found out about me. He just wanted me to be aware and told me to ignore her and her friends who always stare at me. He also warned her to leave me alone. We are all in the same course.

I trust my bf has nothing with her now. I also believe my bf had wronged her. I caught her glaring at me a few times and I was able to ignore it. He said she will avoid places we hang out because she couldn’t bare to see us together.

Once while I was chatting and laughing with my friends, I looked across the canteen and accidentally had eye contact with her. I looked away and continued to talk to my friends. I totally forgot about her after that. When I left the canteen I thought I caught a glimpse of her glaring at me with angry, red teary eyes, I didn’t think much of it.

A while later I got a call from my bf. My bf said she accused me of laughing and gossiping about her. He already told her off. But he wanted to know if I did laugh at her. I was unhappy he actually believe I would have the time for petty drama. I’m also starting to feel tired and annoyed by this girl’s obsession with him and constant hatred for me. Even her friends glare at me. It’s ridiculous. We have many mutual friends and I get the sense things are awkward because almost everyone knows she’s obsessed with my bf.

When he asked me again if I did laugh at her, I told him off. I also said if he didn’t really like her, he shouldn’t have had the chance to see her topless. Because he gave her a chance, it also resulted in this situation now. It’s not the first time she try to accuse me of doing or saying anything about her. I really feel like telling her off for good but at the same time I also kinda pity her.

Actually from the way my bf describe her, I would never dare to tell her off in case she hurt herself.

What can I do?

An insurance agent shared how she manages to get more clients that her peers because she has a huge chest and targets simps who try to get her attention by buying insurance from her.

Here is her story

“First of all, this is my personal experiences as an insurance agent and it doesn’t serve as a guide to anyone wanting to join the insurance industry.

I have always been aware that I am blessed in the chest department, I am a 36D cup size and use it as my weapons.

I am always being stared at when I walk in the street, even before I became an insurance agent and just working as a waitress.

So I used it to my advantage and lure the men in by wearing low-cut blouses before I devour them.

Sometimes, I even meet my clients without wearing a bra and wearing a white blouse so that they can see my girls peeking at them.

I met this client at a roadshow once and I could see his little brother slowly rising under the table and he was trying to hide it, as I bent over and pretended to explain a savings plan to him.

I ended up selling 3 insurance plans to him that very same day.

On average, I make about 5 figures a month by selling insurance plans to simps, because these men are so easily to manipulate.

All I have to do is get touchy with them and laugh at everything they say, then while explaining the insurance plans, i like to lean forward on the table with my elbows really close to each other.

And if I really want to go for the kill, I meet them somewhere really cold with strong aircon, wearing a white blouse and go bra-less.

To be honest, I never really imagined myself being an insurance agent but the money is so good and I get to buy expensive stuff for myself and go on expensive holidays.

A while ago, I reconnected with my first gf whom I dated in uni, A. The problem is that we are married to someone else and we have kids.

I am married to the woman I cheated with when I was dating her in uni. She is married to a man, who is fairly successful. Our relationship when we were younger was doomed. It was toxic, hurting and addictive.

A was beautiful and insecure. A little psycho and exciting. I broke up with her as it got too much.

I have been keeping tracks on her on Facebook and Instagram.

She got married and lived a typical Singaporean family life- busy with kids, husband and work. I am surprised that she could lead this sort of ‘boring’ life. Despite the years and child births, she became more beautiful in my eyes. Maybe she looks more confident. I intentionally got in touch with her and one thing led to another. I look forward to seeing her all the time. Everytime we meet, it is just hot. Just like we were younger, but better. It is not just the S but everything about her is intoxicating. Her smile, her laughter, her voice.

I realised that I love her after all these years and changed circumstances. She told me that she will never leave her husband. She said what we have now are just infatuation and a mistake. She said she did all these with me to get revenge on my wife and that she does not love me at all. She says to just let go before the kids get hurt. I am getting mixed signals from her words and body language.

Yes, I will let you go, A. You always did things your way.

Here are what netizens think:

• She has grown up and be more matured over the years, probably because of the lesson you taught her back then.How about you? Still made the same mistake of cheating? And this time is even worse bec you are married and have kids.What if your wife finds out? And your ex doesn’t leave her husband. You will lose the family and your wife. Nothing left for you.Come to your senses…cut tie with your ex, no matter how good sex or feeling can be. Go to your wife and be nice to her even more. Grow up and be more mature too. Playing cheating is childish and irresponsible. Be a good role model for your children. Take care

• Other people’s wife look hotter over the years because they were loved and well taken care of by their husbands. Please shower your wife with more love and attention. You are clearly thinking with the head in your nether region.

• This story sounds similar to a tamil movie titled 96. But of course, you couldn’t respect both women and cheated both times unlike the hero in the movie. So your movie title should change to 69

• “The problem is that we are married to someone else…”Dude the problem is NOT the marriage but the fact you can’t keep your pants on

A girl recently shared a story on social media after her boyfriend took her credit card to order beer online and refuses to work.

She shared her frustration online and seeks advice to solve her problem.

Here is the story:

I have a boyfriend who is not working and he is just drinking beer at home. The worse part of it he keeps using my credit card to order from online supermarkets.

Here is the thing, I can’t just kick him out and moved on. I am pregnant and currently working as an admin at an office so my salary is not that high.

I have a credit card to earn cash back and I have been paying my credit card bills back on time as I am very clear about what I spend every month. I was shocked when I realised I had more to pay as he ordered a beer with my credit card and ordered beer snacks.

He did it twice already, while I was sleeping he used my credit card to order 24 cans of beer.

I confronted him and he said it that it was only once, the second time he did it again as he saved my credit card information somewhere.

I told him to go to work but he keeps insisting that he can’t find a good job with a high salary. I told him to face the reality that if he is not experienced enough to command a high salary.

He brushes it off every single time.

I’m already 3 months pregnant and the regular visits to the doctor are just adding up to the bills.

Just last night, I caught him ordering beer online on his computer with my credit card rather than looking at some jobs website.

I am very lost right now and I do not want to be a single mother and I really need some advice.

Fiance’s family thinks I’m smelly because of my waitress work

Hello. Just will like to get something off my chest. I need some advice.

I am a lowly educated school dropout girl. My highest education was only secondary 2. I stopped schooling at age 14 as I have no parents for support. It’s very tiring to school and work at the same time. I am an orphan. I am 40 years old this year.

Recently I got engaged to my loving fiance in May. Our wedding will be this year end in October. The day before, I left work and headed for his house straight as it’s his brother’s wedding day. I bathed at my workplace before I went. I am working as a waitress/dishwasher. Just yesterday after the wedding, I overheard my fiance’s sister mentioning to the other family members that i am a very smelly person. She said I smelled like a pot of oil, and a lot of sauces. She said she could smell my sweat of oil from very far away. To my horror, the whole family agreed with her that I smelled.

Tonight they ask me to resign from my work as they won’t be able to take the smell if I moved in with them after I marry ( my fiance and I are waiting for our BTO to finish building). They mentioned that I smelled normal when I am not working and they want me to maintain that.

I felt very hurt deep inside and I cried though out the night. It was the first time I experienced family warmth since I knew them 5 years ago, I really want them to accept me. I can’t enter into classy jobs like administrator or engineers, those so called 8-5 or 9-6 jobs as I am lowly educated. I am also deaf in one ear.

My fiance consoled me by saying that why not I quit? He can support me by giving me money weekly. He’s a well to do man and highly educated. He mentioned he didn’t like pple insulting me. He mentioned to tolerate insults for a job, it’s not worth it.

If I resign, I won’t have enough money to save for the wedding, and I am not the type whom wish to be a full time housewife after the wedding and rely on a man everytime. I don’t like the thought of letting my fiance paid for everything, even though he doesn’t mind. He works very hard for his money.

What should I do? It’s not the first time I was being told I am smelly. I was being told to by friends and even strangers. I can’t wear perfume as I am allergic to sweet scents.

Here are what netizens think:

• I consider this post very well written for someone for who did not complete sec school education. The background, situation (problem), dilemma and feelings descriptions are well conveyed and showed the clarity of thought. I had come across degree or master holders who wrote worse.I’m not responding to this post to give advice to your issues specifically.Instead I want to comment that your writing is good. Hope this can at least make your day/weekend.

• It’s great to hear that your fiance is so loving.Can i suggest for you to upgrade yourself? There’s skills future credits. School dropout is not an excuse. Even if you don’t want to go back to school, there are free courses online.There are also alternatives that don’t require credentials if I’m not wrong? Factory work? Retail?Fighting!

• Besides F&B industry, is there any other vocation/industry will you be interested in?If F&B is your passion, then we just need to find a solution to the aroma issue (plenty of advise given above). Ppl can talk all they want and at this age we are already very tired of other ppl BS. Ultimately, ask yourself does the smell bothers you. If it does, then do something abt it.Given your good command of English in this post, I believe you are suitable for many other roles. And being audibly challenged in one ear doesn’t make you less capable of being successful in life. Maybe wearing a hearing aid might help?Don’t quit your job bcos of what ppl say or think. Also don’t let your upbringing/environment/circumstances hinder you from being your best.Step Up and Step Out if the position you are in is not what your heart’s desire.Sit down with your fiance and discuss what is it that you really want to do. Then do up a plan and start moving towards it. It maybe uncomfortable at first but I am sure you will overcome. A lot of towkays also not very highly educated and they are also very successful.