My boyfriend (28m) got blackout drunk and rubbed another girls leg in front of me (28F)

We’ve known each other for 4 years, been together a little over 1 and recently moved in together. We were hanging with some friends, drinking, grabbed dinner, went to someones house and played drinking games sitting in a circle.

We were all pretty drunk, but my boyfriend was wasted like I’ve never seen before. In the middle of a game, I see him rubbing the leg of the girl on the other side of him.

She looked at me like wtf? No one else there seemed to notice. I made my boyfriend move and then I called us a taxi home.

The next day he didnt remember anything. When I told him he was super ashamed and remorseful, promised it would never happen again.

We hung out with everyone again the next day and it was totally normal.

This happened a few days ago and I’ve felt a shift in our relationship. I feel really distant from him, just going through the motions.

Since he doesn’t remember anything it’s hard to work through why this happened. Besides this there havent been any red flags.

I guess my question is how do we get past this? I do love him but I cant stop thinking about- what if i wasn’t there? Can i ever trust him to go out alone?

Would like to get some advices.

I recently joined an MNC and this is not my first job (I have 5 years of working experience already but in SME).

I knew I was lowballed for this position, but I accepted the job anyways as it is an MNC and I’ve always wanted to get into MNC.

After working for a week, I realised how horrible my direct superior is. She is always in a bad mood, always threatening us with “I will kill you if you don’t do this properly blablabla”. I feel she is being very childish and not professional. She is always scolding and being extremely rude to people (her own team and other department people) till the point where another dept’s manager complained about her to our director saying that she is very rude and demanding. Yet she has the nerve to come tell us (her team) that the manager complained about her but she can’t do anything about it as the director already knows her attitude and she’s proud of it lol.

She’s always nitpicking on me even though I’m new, and she expects me to know everything. She’s reluctant to teach and she blames me for every mistake, big or small. The best part is I’m not the one who did it! It was my predecessor! How would I know what that person did? She expects me to solve the issue when I know nothing, and wouldn’t help me nor explain the situation to me.

I’m extremely stressed here, I’ve been losing a lot of hair and have started to binge eat (I used to have bulimia). Im dragging myself to work everyday and I’m telling myself to bear with it and learn as much as I can here. work for at least a year here before I quit and look for another job. The industry that I’m in is too small, there’s not many mnc that I can go into.. I’m also afraid that my reputation will be ruined if I leave so soon.

Any advices on how I can deal with such a self centred and egoistic superior? I can’t tell the HR or the director as everyone knows her temper (she received many complaints already and her team turnover rate is super super high) but somehow they are not doing anything as she is capable. She is also very good at sucking up to the right people lol.

I’m almost at my wits end.. I want to leave so badly but I’m holding it out for a better career..

I’m afraid of my own child

My (45m) son (11) has been one of the best things that ever happened to me—until the past year. He has always struggled with his temper, and up til now my wife and I have been able to find a way to help him keep it under control.

Not anymore.

He refuses to follow directions or obey simple instructions (e.g. “Please put on your shoes; we need to get ready to go”). He is verbally and emotionally mean, insulting us calling us and his brother (10) names.

He swears at us, often in truly shocking ways (“You’re a f—— idiot, motherf——”). He says incredibly hurtful/scary things things (“You’re the worst father in the world,” “I wish I could cut off your head and burn your body”).

He is violent toward us, kicking, hitting, throwing things at us; my wife has several bruises from blows. He expresses enjoyment whilst doing these things; he chuckles when he’s violent, and smiles whilst insulting us—it’s truly disturbing.

He used to just do this at home. Now he’ll do it in public, in front of others, and he doesn’t seem to care if others know about it.

If he doesn’t get his way, he won’t let it go, and will degenerate into the sort of verbal, emotional, and physical assault I described above. He has told us that he likes to makes us unhappy and that he wants to embarrass us in public. I think my son, whom I love deeply and intensely is a sociopath.

We took him to a therapist, for a bit, but nothing changed. When we asked about it he said he lied to the therapist about his behavior so the therapist wouldn’t know what he really does.

Now he has an appointment with a doctor specializing in mental health this coming Wednesday, and another with a pediatric psychiatrist at the end of the week. But I just don’t have any hope. My little boy has become a monster. [I literally just had to step away from writing this because he was threatening to hit his mother and brother with a toy].

He’s terrifying. This is a nightmare. I love him so much, and I just can’t help him.