Met this guy at a pool party and I can’t stop thinking about him. why did he not get my contact when I can feel he is kinda attracted to me as well?

So a few wks ago I went to this pool party with my guy friend(and a bunch of his friends) So I ended up knowing and talking to one of his friend (lets called him X) throughout the night.

He said he don’t usually go to these parties and he was there because he was persuaded by his friends. It was super nice talking to him and we danced a few rounds. X would hold my hand/waist while walking me back to our table (guide me through the crowd) and we chatted throughout, small talks etc. I also can tell that he tried to initiate talks w me, not sure is it he just wanna make sure I dont feel left out -bc I didn’t know anyone there (except that guy friend but he was busy engaging w other peeps).

Then we had some food (chicken wings) but I chewed on something hard so I wanna spit them out but couldnt find tissue/napkin. So X said I can js spit on his plate and he then cover up the spitout with his used tissue. (like so nice of him to do that ??) he also got water for me to sober up.

So we cab to another bar (with the rest) and in the cab we were talking n I told him he can rest on my shoulder if he’s tired and he did.

Then when the day ended he offered to call cab for me and sent me off.. but my qns is why did he not ask for my contact, I even hinted at him.

Is he not attracted to me? or he felt intimidated bc I’m his friend’s friend? I was confused.

Should I initiate and follow his social media (idw to look desperate) or nah bc if he wanted to know me he would’ve asked for contact?

so he’s just being nice the whole time?

Happily married with 1 kid at 2 years old.

However, things has sort of change after the birth of our child. First year was still fine. Into the 2nd year, I’ve developed eczema affecting about 10-20% of my body. I’ve heard stories of how hormones could affect the body after giving birth.

But my husband just keep telling me to stop using this excuse.

2nd year after, I realized my husband is not into any bedroom stories anymore. During our dating younger days, it can get so passionate for consecutive days. Today, I think it’s probably 3 months since we done the deed. I am quite a needy person, to the extend that I have to relief myself in the bathroom while hubby is outside watching his Netflix.

Don’t doubt me, I’ve tried ways to get him turned on. Sexy lingerie, taking initiative with BJ and stripping. You can name anything. All to return with, “I’m very tired”. Anyway, both of us are working. Also, we don’t go to bed the same time and by the time he head to sleep, i am already in my deep sleep.

He is still a good father where he would plan all the family outing and bringing the kid to many places. I can be quite confident that there is no chance of mistress. He is mostly at home. WFH like 3/4 days per week. He spend his free time watching Netflix. Even if I were to go home at any weird timing, he is alone at home. House is also equip with camera to check any visitors.

Only one incident recently, he probably accidentally blunt out, “look at your body, which man will be turned on?” This really lead me to be very depressed. I did not ask for eczema at the first place. And till date, there is no full cure for eczema.

He does claim that he wants to have another child.

What should be the healthy times for married couples per month?

If S life is unhealthy for a couple, should we stay in marriage even other aspects are still happy?

I am really confused. What should I do?

Recently while I was helping my parents doing housekeeping I found some documents that revealing that I’m not my parent’s child.

The bizarre thing is that my big brother is my real father.

I always find it strange that my my age gap seemed to be so wide. My brother (father) is actually 17yrs older than me and my sister is 13yrs older. I ask my “parents” before and they said that since my siblings are old enough to take care of themselves they just wanted another child to care for. I always buy that idea and didn’t suspect, until recently.

My siblings cared for me since young we had good relationship. But I was somewhat upset now knowing that my brother(father) loved me as a sister more than as a parent. He didn’t show additional concern for me as a child and acted really like a brother.

When I was young I have vague memories of this “sister” who often play with me. I remembered her as my brother’s friend. I wonder if she is my mom….

I’m already in my 20s, my sister and brother are already in their 40s. I cannot believe this was kept from me for so long..

I’m very confused now and wondered should I continue to be oblivious to the whole thing or sound it off. I was hoping it is all a misunderstand and my mind is just playing tricks. I suddenly felt so lost and not sure what to do and who to trust now.