My date told me that she doesn’t like being picked up in my old car and wishes to be picked up in a fancy car. Something tell me this a red flag about her.

I have been taking to this girl for a couple of months now and we tend to go out for dinner on Fridays.

I normally pick her up in my car and I drop her off after the dinner. She is well mannered and a great person by my impressions.

However, few days ago she came to know that my family has a Porche, which is my dad’s. My car on the other hand is a Toyota, but I love my car to bits.

We were meant to go out this Friday too but after I told her that I wasn’t able to use my dad’s car, she told me that she may not be able to come.

She barely responds like she used to and something tells me she is a materialistic person that I probably should avoid.

Just trying to pour my thoughts here that I have been thinking for the last few days. Not sure what I am gonna do…

i used to work in a Chinese bank a few years ago, before switching over to insurance, and didn’t have a stable income to contribute financially to the household (I am married with a son).

I ended up having to depend on my wife’s $2.2k/month salary.

I’m facing a myriad of problems at work, being relatively new to the insurance industry, finding potential prospects is very tiring, and still trying to arrange meetings.

My wife has been nagging and nagging at me instead of showing me a hint of support and telling me that I’m being selfish.

She says that she barely has enough money for herself and that selling insurance “no future”, asking what if I have no commission forever?

She told me to get a part time job first as I look for a proper job.

I spoke to one of my ex schoolmates from poly who is also one of my insurance prospects, and she told me that every job is the same at the beginning, it is always rough at the start.

I have meetings and trainings almost every other day which is draining mentally, but my wife just keeps scolding me instead of being supporting because “I’m throwing our son” to her.

Insurance really no future meh, I don’t know, but I can’t give up now.

I’ve been dating my bf for 7 years. He has a severe drinking problem and his justification of which is he has insomnia and can’t sleep. I suggested taking Melatonin and seeking other source of help i.e. talking to a therapist but he had refused to do the same.

He kept reiterating that those “help” wouldn’t help him as he didn’t want to rely on pills, the contrary is, he relies on alcohol daily (he starts drinking from the night till he is tired and/or the next morning) to help him sleep. In a result of this, our intimacy level has dropped drastically over time and I might have to come a realization that maybe I don’t love him that much anymore.

He is still a wonderful boyfriend, extremely sweet and helps me whenever I need assistance, be it financially or emotionally, treats me good or even better than any of his exes. I love him but this drinking issue needs to go, notwithstanding the issue of his parents doesn’t like me. I’m not close with my parents but my dad told me that if his drinking doesnt go, there will be a bigger issue in the future.

I need suggestion to help with his drinking issue. Please help.

Here are what netizens think:

• Did his drinking problem happen recently? Or throughout the 7 years of dating? Have you told him about what you wrote here to him? Make sure he is not addicted or depressed.So, talk and talk and talk. Tell him all your concerns. If with every blood, sweat and tears he still doesnt stop, it’s not your fault. You tried your best. Only when he, himself realize it’s a problem, he will stop. Otherwise, there’s nothing you can do. It’s a complicated situation here.

• He has a very serious addiction problem. Do NOT consider a future with him unless he’s willingly & actively taking steps to address this addiction.Drink because of insomnia? That’s an excuse. There are many many solutions for insomnia- including getting meds from a doctor.I’d actually advise you to dump him. But u say that aside from the drinking issue, he’s actually very good to you. So okay maybe can give chance.Time to issue him an ultimatum- either he seeks professional help with his drinking problem or you leave him. It’s that simple.Tell him you do not want to end up marrying a 酒鬼. Because it’s “just” drinking now. But in future he could become addicted to something else? Gambling? Going to prostitutes? Drugs? What next?Addicts will always be addicted to *SOMETHING*. Because the source of that addiction is a deep void within themselves or some kind of pain or trauma they’re trying to escape from.Hope this helps.

• Listen to your father. No matter how much you love him or he help you in time of needs, you are going to have BIG issues in the future with his drinking addiction.Surely you can find a man better than him. He could have lost interest in you otherwise he should give up drinking. Do not waste your time, thevlonger you linger on the more painful it will be as time goes on. GL

• It’s an addiction problem. He needs therapy and help because this will only get worse.You can only do so much for him by bringing your concerns to him. Ultimately, he has to realize the problem himself and want to seek help.