I’m really attracted to shy, inexperienced men.

As a 21 year old woman I know most men my age would be loathe to admit inexperience to a girl, so I always felt a bit deviant for this but there’s nothing more attractive to me.

Knowing a guy would trust me to properly take care of him, teach him, and treat him well, especially with something as intimate as relationships…

I’m really down bad for that.

So for all those less experienced men out there, it is not a bad thing or unattractive at all 🙂

Netizens’ comments

• someone asked me recently how to deal with his insecurities being with a more experienced woman because he was worried about performance and doing things right.
  i told him not to worry because the hottest thing is to just be a good listener and communicate and respond to what the woman likes/needs/is turned on by.
  an inexperienced man open to learning and listening to what the woman wants is so much hotter than an experienced man set in his ways that might not be as open to listening.
• There is really nothing wrong with that. People have their own unique taste.
• This is the woman ive been searching for
• RIP to your inbox.
• RIP dms

Around 8:30AM today i woke up to my boyfriend punching me really hard two or three times, closed fist. i just laid there for a minute before i sat up to face him, when i did, he immediently opened his eyes, i left for the bathroom and while i was gone he left to get us coffee. I haven’t said anything.

I say alleged sleep because he hit me hard, hard enough to wake him up too i’d assume, especially considering how fast he woke up from just me looking at him. i was laying close to him so i feel like he would’ve had to bend his arm to hit me square on my head like that.

He also has done this before, it was after we watched a greys anatomy episode where a guy from the army chokes his gf in his sleep due to ptsd. When it happened the first time he told me it was because of ptsd.

I told him that ptsd only works like that if you have a history of violence or abuse which he does not. His suspected undiagnosed ptsd would stem from us finding his dad last year died. He has a lotttt of other issues even before then, a lot of things that make my friends say run, but i want to hear more opinions on this, i have to go to work now but if this post sees any interest i’ll update with the type of things he’s done in the past.

He has history with angry actions even before his dad passed. He does the thing where when he’s driving and he gets mad at me he’ll stop the car rly fast or freak out and it scares me.

I’d also like to add the scariest road rage i’ve seen. One time not long after his dad died he thought i was giving him a look and lunged at me as if he was gonna hit me, but stopped. He DOES (or used to a lot) attack himself a lot in my presence, he’s bloodied himself up in front of me, sometimes- but not always- when the anger is from me.

I’ve had to jump in a few times to stop him from like, rapid fire punching his head. He is in therapy, that was an ultimatum i made over a year ago, but he just finally started a few months ago, and he has skipped most of his sessions.

He is not diagnosed ptsd. I’m very close with his family and his siblings and violence is not something they ever mentioned either of their parents doing to any of them or anyone.

I’ve been raising someone else’s child as my own & recently found out he’s not mine.

So I had a gf who got pregnant and since I was with her, I assumed it was mine. Fast forward the baby is 14 months old and I found out yesterday that I’m not the father. She confessed it & honestly it has really affected me, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat & whenever I think of it I feel like hot oil is poured on my heart.

I feel so used since she knew from the beginning & kept it quiet. I don’t have a stable job yet but I did everything for her & the baby. I just feel betrayed because why would she do me like that, she’s 22 I’m 23. My heart hurts so much & I can’t talk to anyone because I’m disappointed the baby isn’t mine.

She was sobbing saying the BD doesn’t do anything for the child but they still talk,she doesn’t want me to leave & she’s coming over today so that we can talk it out but personally I don’t want the Baby daddy drama so I’m not sticking around but it burns and hurts, I just hope others out there don’t go through this because it’s hell.

I think she just wanted someone who would support her financially and I was the weak link, I love them both but I’m hurt she cheated,got pregnant & didn’t even trust me enough to tell me. Any advice???

Do you consider not giving an allowance to parents as unfilial?

I just wanted to ask for some opinions after an encounter with some friends.

I’m 32F, married with 1 kid (3yo). I recently met up with some friends (we used to be very close in uni). However, due to conflicting schedules, covid, etc, we haven’t met for almost 6 yrs.

Suddenly the topic of how much of our income we give to our parents as “allowance” came up, and when I said I don’t give them any, my friends got all shocked and gave me the judging look.

We discussed this when we first started out our careers and not again until now. Back then, I was only earning 3k/mth, so finances were tight and my parents specifically said they didn’t want anything, so my friends kinda understood that.

Fast forward now, my monthly is about 11k, and I can more than provide for my parents. However, they still refuse to accept any money I give and threaten to throw back any money I give. The only thing they ask for is that I pay it forward to my kid the next time, as they did to me.

At their age (my dad is 75 and mum 70), both are still working and are very frugal. I visit them almost every week to eat and let them play with my kid.

So when I told this to my friends (I’m kinda open about finances), they got all shocked and said I should be more filial and find ways to pass allowance to my parents. They claimed that even though they earn just about half of my salary or slightly more, they still have to pass 10% as allowance cause of filial piety and I should minimally do that so because I’m earning significantly more than them.

Honestly, for so long, I know my parents and its an open and shut case. But since my filial piety is now in question, I’m posting here for some thoughts and opinions.

Wife goes crazy when she’s pissed off

My wife can do crazy stuff when she is pissed off. She can throw furniture, punch, kick me, throw a Xmas tree down the house, throw my HP, throw food on the floor, etc etc etc. Block my HP, block IG and FB, remain u contactable until she is happy. It’s always my fault when there is a quarrel, she tends to jump to conclusions without finding out more details. She will be angry over the slightest issue, very low tolerance for me. I have to be careful with my words, anything against her thoughts may trigger her. One of the reasons is she feels more superior as I am a divorcee with a son.

However, I appreciate her for accepting me as a divorcee with a son. We can be very happy and have alot of fun when she is calm and normal.

There are too many incidents to bring up that I feel is very unreasonable and scary.

Latest incident:

She asked me to dabao lunch for her at 2.30pm. I told her I will be back 3-4pm ok? She is ok and I bought her fav roasted chicken dumpstick.

When I was home at 3.40pm, she was angry that she had to wait more than an hour and shd have told her to get grab. There are many times she expects me to think of many scenarios and possibilities from 1 sentence. I must admit I am not sensitive. I rushed back as fast as I could but my effort was not appreciated and I got another scolding as usual. There are many times she wakes up late, have bread and have late lunch so as to skip dinner. She was ok for me to dabao lunch so I did. In the end, she was so pissed she threw the rice on the floor, everything was scattered. I caused this issue, I was responsible so I had to clean up the oily mess. I feel this has gone too far. There are worst incidents.

Shd I continue to endure all these ? We have agreed to see a counselor, I already went for my session. It has been 2 months and she is still taking it as low priority to see the counselor.

I even went for a family violence counseling to learn how to not trigger her. She refuses to go as she feels that I am the reason for her behavior. As long as I don’t trigger her, she won’t react this way.

Shd I just be patient and wait for her to visit the counselor and then wait for the couple session?

Or I am being stubborn trying the impossible? My objective is just to have a better communication and hopefully some respect.

I broke up a few months ago and have started using dating app since. I met someone who is so right and compatible with me.

A bit of background: my ex was the one who broke things off and he told me he needs space before he can consider us again.

Things are growing more serious with me and the new guy I met on the app. We promise to be honest to each other. Lately, I feel like reaching out to my ex again.

I havent reach out to my ex yet because that would be breaching the trust of this new guy. I dont know what to do. I feel so conflicted.

Here are what netizens think:

• U want to reach out to your ex for what? He doesn’t want you as much as you wanted him. What do you think has changed for him to suddenly want you?  Babe don’t be silly lah, your ex may have already move on and you still pinning over him. Why give him so much power in this rs? Even if you patch back, you think you will be happy being the one begging for this rs back?

• Probably have some resolved issues and you want closure? You have someone great in front of you and you want to risk losing him? Think clearly before you reach out. If I were you, I’d move on happily.

• You just need to know who you like most and love most then go for it never looking back or regret. Love is not commodity that can have main and backup. If you decided one and it didn’t workout, you have to depend on fate to bring you to someone else.

• Don’t dive right into a new r/s when your heart is still hurting.Sometimes things get clearer when u write it down, its hard for your brain to think when your heart is interjecting.Spend some time with the most important person, yourself.Hope u get clarity soon!

• 1) u want to reach out to the ex for what? What’s ur intention and will it go somewhere for it to end again? He alr don’t want u. Telling u he needs space before he considers y’all again is just plain words for he doesn’t want to be with u.
  2) is it worth giving the new rs turmoil over reaching out to ur ex? U need closure or smth? Closure is overrated btw and u might regret causing that turmoil to ur new rs
  3) if u do reach out, just know that u have to be honest. The truth comes out one day. Are u ready for the ramifications?