So my husband is 29 and I’m 23. He’s from China and I’m a local Singaporean so let me know if you think this is cultural. We have a 6mo/F baby who’s amazing. Generally calm, quiet, doesn’t cry too much, etc.

Hey everyone, so basically my ex-spouse and I split up last year. Together for about 5 years. We have a child together and have been great with co-parenting, however, my family remains oddly close with her.

They were close before, which I understand, but because they continue it hurts me deeply. I’ve reached out multiple times to communicate how this makes me feel but they usually just say what I want to hear, then continue to be close with my ex anyways.

For context, the ways they are inappropriately too close: – inviting them over for dinner, inviting them over to go swimming, having a family group chat that does not include me (there was one previously that ex was removed from, but after another was made behind my back) that has a profile picture of all of us hugging, which hurts me & my current partner to see.

While they say its to maintain peace for their grandchild, they could do this in ways that don’t hurt me.

They barely ever invite me over anymore and if they wanted that time with their grandchild, they could have tried to reach out to me instead of my ex as its 50/50 custody and they’re MY parents.

They also haven’t put in much effort into getting to know my current partner. I tried last night to reach out one last time before I remove myself from this emotional pain & mental strain and was met with one of my parents laughing at me while I had tears rolling down my face, not hearing me out and blowing it out of proportion.

I never said they had to completely cut my ex out of their lives, thats unrealistic since we have a child. I just wanted healthier boundaries that don’t cause me to feel so depressed. I was told that I am losing my mind, and now I feel completely helpless & like I’m crazy even though I think any normal person would feel this way- and to top off that feeling, now I don’t even have a family beside my child and my partner.

Until they can see my side of things, I can’t be around them any longer for my own mental health. I need to know, am I crazy?

Please, I need an outsider’s perspective.

A man shared a story about how he became homeless after the separation of his parents and he blames his mother for his broken childhood.

He stated that the divorce was caused by her mother’s gambling habits.

Here is the story:

Im 25 this year and I stayed with my father at the same home since I was a child. However, when I was in primary school my mother moved out and soon they divorce.

The mother paid a very minor share in the flat we stay in but she did not ask my father to sell it.

So fast forward to 2 years ago, my mother is in need of money and forced my father to either sell the house or pay her sure of the HDB.

My mother needed the money as she has a problem with gambling, this was what triggered the divorce in the first place.

So my mother ran out of money and now my father is forced to sell it. His selling the home means that I will be homeless and he intends to move to Vietnam as he already has a home and family there.

After dragging here and there, my father finally sold the house and I am out renting a flat. How often do you hear about Singaporeans that need to rent their own property?

So I am basically homeless and have been shifting here and there finding rental rooms to stay.

Although I am not very poor and I am able to afford to pay the property rent I wished none of this had happened.

Whenever a couple gets into a fight and breakup up, next comes the splitting of property and finally, the children suffer.

My mother told me, she never had the intention of selling the home. My mother said she waited I was old enough to feed myself before selling it.

I told her “What difference does it make? Because of your dirty habits I grew up in a broken home and now I’m homeless”.

Even after getting her share of the sold property, she splurge all the money at MBS and now she has the cheek to come ask me for money.

When I took on my first job, I met a difficult colleague. She talks over me, never acknowledge my name, was mean to me when she gets a chance.

I was new to the job so when I had questions she would call me stupid and be mean and not tell me the answer.

I stayed for another 2 years before leaving because as much as I try to ignore her attitude towards me and try to improve, I find as long as she’s around she will not stop treating me like a stupid newbie.

She was seniority conscious and I was the last staff the company hired even after 2 years so she kept treating me like a noob. As more staff left, she was throwing more work at me even though we hold the same position. I couldn’t take it and left too.

Fast forward 8 years later. I went to a new company and did fairly well. We survived covid and I also survived retrenchment and got promoted after (even though the pay increase wasn’t much, I am happy where I am)

We had a recruitment exercise recently with me being part of the team in charge and guess who came to interview? She looked shocked the moment she entered the interview room and saw me sitting in the center out of 3 interviewers.

She greeted me by my name and called me Miss. Wow. To think last time she called me ‘oei’ for 2 years even though I had been wearing a name tag.

I didn’t show any sign of recognizing her and started the interview. She did her best to try to impress us. When it was over I guess she knew she’s not going to get the job. She messaged me after and tried to be friends and talked as though we have catching up to do. I just said it was nice to see her and left the rest unanswered.

She wasn’t a good fit for the job and we didn’t call her back for another round of interview. I wonder if she had any regret of being mean to me in the past.

Karma vibes is strong here. One thing I learnt from her: Don’t be mean to anyone. You never know if you need this person’s kindness and grace in the future. I don’t care if she changed or not and I’m not interested to find out.