4 months ago, my professors bought $130 worth of merch (shirts, bags, water bottles, ect) from me.

When i asked for the payment they told me they were reselling it and then they would pay me. The next week i was told they needed $150 worth of merch more.

When asked for the money they asked me for time. Before that, i saw on their social media that they claimed to be sold out and would announce restock, in that week they asked me to do three more shirts. Take into account that they were selling the merch under the name of the academy.

Because of my health i had to stop training temporarily, but that didn’t stop them from asking me for more. my parents began to get mad at me that i wasn’t pushing them enough with the money. i’m naturally a shy person, so it’s really hard. they asked me to call him at random times of the day, to sound angry and to even spread the rumor of the debt to the rest of the students, but i refused.

i was eventually paid the first $130, while they still owed me $200. When my parents found out that they hadn’t paid full they were furious, we got into a yelling argument where they threatened with going to the academy and making a scene in front of the class.

Next i got $60. Again, my parents are furious so i started to be more insistent with my professor and could tell he was getting annoyed, (take into account that i’m still sick). Last week he asked me for another shirt and i lied to him that i didn’t have the money to make more. Yesterday i went to the distributor to buy materials with my mom, and, the employee (a friend of mine) told us that my professor had bought 200k worth of machines, materials and merch.

we were livid, not only did he not pay me back, but he had basically cut the deal and stole my idea. My parents again yelled at me saying this was my fault for not pushing hard enough about the money. A few days later i found out they had texted the parents of some students and told them about the debt, making many people upset that they had overcharged them and lied about making it themselves.

Also, both of them started writing and sharing indirect posts on Facebook about the issue. I confronted them and said that it was childish and immature to fight on social media and gossip with the other parents, they called me a coward and unable to run my business and said that they were only defending me and trying to protect me, and they would make a scene in front of the class. I was left in tears, but at the end of the day they’re doing it for my own good and defending me.

Am i at fault for getting mad and yelling back?

she doesn’t have a shop tho, so the selling, trying on and everything else happens in our house. a few years ago, i was diagnosed with social anxiety and social phobia, apart from some other conditions. thankfully it did improve significantly, but i still can’t deal with people coming to my house (let alone people i don’t know, that go to my bathroom and wander around my house). i go to school from 7:30 AM to 5:00 PM, and sometimes im not home until at least 8 PM, so, naturally, when i arrive im really tired and i only want to sit on the couch and watch netflix in my pajamas, but i can’t do it ’cause there’s always someone there. to make things worse, my sister only allows people to come over from 5 PM onwards, and some come as late as 11 PM.

i’ve tried to talk to my sister about this, and everytime i bring up the fact that it is simply damaging to my mental health, she laughs at me. last time this happened, i broke down crying telling her that i had a panic attack last time someone came over, and she, again, laughed at me.

Im tired of this, im tired of people coming to my home and im tired of my sister not realizing that what she’s doing is really bad for me. my mom agrees with her tho, but my dad IS against her, even though he doesn’t say anything. the only thing that can actually calm me down is drawing, but im a digital artist, and i use our family’s computer, and my sister uses the table where the computer is to put all of the clothing, so i really have no space (even if there were, i would run to my room every time someone came over). as i said in the beginning, this isn’t my sister’s main source of income. in fact, her job as a journalist is very well paid (her words), and if you really think about it, she doesn’t really need to sell clothes.

i do admit im sometimes harsh with the things i say to her about her businesses, and i do feel bad about it, but i have to constantly remind myself that im doing it purely because my mental health is deteriorating, and i really don’t want to go back to where i used to be. i’ve told her multiple times that i wished she would just stop selling clothes, and i’ve even though about just throwing all of the clothing. thankfully im not involved in any of the selling and/or dealing with the costumers, but that does make me feel like im overreacting at times. i really don’t know what to do anymore.

So, am I wrong to hope that her online business will fail?

Just before I announced that I would need to take this leave, I had been made a Project Manager in duty, not in the title.

When I returned, I could feel that something was off.

We had the best year that it has had in quite some time. Due to our industry, we had no impact due to the pandemic, other than royally padding bids. Talk around the office was big bonuses raises.

At my year-end performance review, I was told that I had not been able to fully reintegrate after my leave, so my bonus and raise would be withheld, and we would reassess at my mid-year review.

I was pissed, as all of my projects had better margins than what was projected, but whatever, a bit of a delay was not the end of the world.

It is illegal for my employer to directly punish me for taking the protected leave, so this felt like a way for them to get around that.

This year, the number of projects that I managed increased significantly, but the company on the whole struggled a bit. I was given some formal training as a manager via online courses that the company paid for.

At my mid-year review, my promotion was made official, however, I was told that the company was not in a position to be giving me a raise at this time, they were offering me a bonus equal to one week of my pay. I told them that with my increased responsibilities, and the results of my projects, I think that I have earned a 5% bump in pay. Denied.

I went home, hopped on Indeed, and applied for a position overseas. Had a couple of interviews that week and received an offer for about 20% more than I am making here (in a place with a much lower cost of living), with a 15k signing bonus.

I handed in my 2 weeks less than a month after my promotion and my boss is livid, saying that I leveraged my promotion to get this job, and that it is completely improper after the training that they paid for.

I told him that I did not think that my efforts had been appreciated and that you were unwilling to work with me on it.

I think that my actions were completely justified, but a couple of my coworkers also think what I did was pretty shady/unethical, so I wanted to see what y’all think.