I have been at my current job for almost 4 year. We were having our third child last year, and my wife would need a c-section so I had to take time off. Although there is a long paternity leave for the father I decided to take half of it. My employer told me to consider only taking a quarter, but I told them I could not.

My wife is the breadwinner. I’m a househusband doing online business for past years so earnings is up and down. So I do housework and cook (I happen to be a pretty ok cook) and take care of a wife after a long day of work. But her mother was very unhappy coz she subscribed to gender norms so in the end I also stay out of her family gatherings. I also stay away from her family coz her sisters quite money face and think I’m useless as a househusband.

My wife has an ex whom she left for me. The ex was not as rich as me till I decided to become home husband coz after marriage I decided to build a business and my wife was supportive of my ambition. But yeah recent times are bad.

my wife’s mother and family seem to love this ex from day 1, coz this ex always driving nice cars and buy all of them dinner always.

Last week, her ex jio my wife for birthday celebration just both of them, they always do it for years but I never bother for many years coz she is a responsible wife and I trust her. But this time he invited my wife’s mother too and according to my wife they had a good time. I had never on good terms with her mother since I decided to quit a regular job. it felt like my wife also enjoyed it.

I can’t a but feel weird. But I also think it’s because my income drop. I don’t have dignity tbh and I regret everything I made about my career. What should I do to make myself better? Please be honest and shoot me if you want.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m just puzzled that your wife goes for her birthday meals with her ex every year. What’s the reason that you allow this to happen? Do they have children together? If they don’t, then I think this is a huge red flag of them keeping the bridge between the 2 of them open JUST IN CASE… It’s happening under your nose and you’re letting it happen. Also why did you quit your full time job? You could’ve done your business part time for a few years first and wait for it to be fully successful before quitting

• 1. It’s odd to allow your wife to meet her ex every single year without anything happen.2. You trust your wife but do you trust her ex ?3. It’s doesn’t make any sense for a past relationship to continue till today4. I am pretty sure they might have something more that u didn’t noticed.

• 1. Your wife is the bridge to the relationship between her mom and you. So she can be the key to how her family views you. Is she doing enough to change their perception? (I dont think she should let her mom join the birthday celebration, it is odd. and even let her ex to conveniently meet every year. Why. You. Let. Her?)2. I think you should not stay away from her family 100%, and should also do your part to build relationship with her family even in smaller efforts. It could be hard but your wife can help, if she wants to help.3. Even if you make less money you can also buy things for her family. No need to be too expensive. And even cook for her family occasionally. Just do what you can do.4. When you dine out with your wife, invite her mom along too (3 people). And sometimes, invite her sister (3 people). And sometimes, invite everyone. Not forgetting just yourself and the wife, like a monthly date.5. There is nothing wrong being a house husband if that works well for the two, especially you also do your own business. The in laws may look down on you, but you dont look down on yourself, which you may start feeling so. However, if a business is not working or things have changed, it is time to re-strategise the whole thing.6. Remember, she chose you. (Pika~) Show to her that she didnt choose wrongly.

I saw many people bashing me for not even having 1k savings lol. Do you know how does it feels like to be broke AF for your entire life? Living paycheck to paycheck is not desirable, but there is no other choice for some people lol

Being the sole breadwinner of my family since 10 years ago (when I was just 18!) I am not able to complete my studies, I do not have a high paying job (I earn just 3k+ a month and yes I’ve been trying to upgrade myself to get a higher paying job, I started out with just 1.2k job so tell me how far have I come? Lol) and I have a family of 4 to take care of!

What type of commitments I have you say? I have to pay my parent’s medical bill, my siblings’ study loan + my own study loan that I took up to upgrade myself.

I do not own anything branded, oh in fact the most “branded”thing I have in possession is my 2nd hand iphone 11. Is that trying to “live a luxurious life” to you?

All of you don’t understand that as you’re not the one living in poverty for 28 years. You don’t have to feed and provide for your family since 18 years old, when you’re basically forced out of school to earn money for the family lol.

As for my bf’s side I won’t comment much, but he is in a pretty tough position as well. We are both living paycheck to paycheck while living a FRUGAL lifestyle.

Why do I have thoughts to break up with him? Sorry I probably wasn’t clear enough in my previous post. I’m being selfish, yes. But I feel it’s for our own good. I’m only dragging him down with my commitments, and he is probably also dragging me down with his commitments. We have talked about our finances multiple times, we both agreed that we need to get a higher paying job and lessen our commitments, and marriage and bto is definitely not in the picture for the next 5 years. But why am I so conflicted now? Because I’m worried for my future! For his future!

I might be better off being alone so I don’t drag someone down into this shithole I’m in.

A netizen shared how he had been eating Mala the whole day for his three meals, and it resulted in an less than pleasant experience in the toilet.

Here is his story

“Recently I have been really addicted to eating Mala, and last night I think I ate too much and now even when I pee, it burns.

I ate Mala in the morning for breakfast, ordering Mala xiang guo via Grabfood, before heading out in the afternoon to eat Mala hotpot with my friends at Haidilao.

Then at night i went home and ate the DIY Mala hotpot, you know the self heating one that you can buy from the supermarket?

I went to bed with my stomach burning from all the mala that I ate, and even halfway through the day when i went to pangsai, my poop was reddish and it felt like lava coming out.

I thought nothing of it and went to bed, then this morning I woke up and went to the toilet and peed, and my urine was burning, like the pee itself was probably spicy.

I am damn scared now because i think all the Mala soup that I drank throughout the day has converted into urine, with the spiciness still inside.

I don’t even dare to go to the toilet now to pee because it hurts so much, and no, it is not a urinary tract infection or STD, I can confirm.

I have to pee right now but I am holding it in because I don’t want to go through the burning pee again, I really don’t know what to do…

Should I go to the hospital or something? I am in turmoil right now… Help”

I am the author of “MAN FELL FOR SIAM BU “MOTHER SICK STORY” MADE OUT WITH HER IN PUBLIC“. I honestly did not expect the post to blow up as I’m afraid that my story would come across as your typical story about SG men getting con by Thai women.

However, like many have predicted, there is indeed more to the story as Moon’s dubious behavior marks the start of unraveling her true identity.

Her repeated plea for cash sparked my curiosity about her family. When probed further, she would brush me off and assured me that they are doing fine thanks to me. She would often use suggestive language as a form of diversion. Succumbed to lust, I fell into her trap leaving my suspicion lingering.

The truth is that the S was so good that it left a strong impression on me. The crescent moon tattooed on her left arm turns me on every time we meet. We made love in various places ranging from high-end hotels like MBS to public areas like changing rooms. As soon as we set foot on our destination, we began undressing and demonstrating our affection for each other. Before we knew it, we were lying next to each other panting and exhausted. Every session ends with her whispering something to my ears to get me aroused for our next meetup. Words cannot describe how amazing the experience was.

However, good times do not last forever, and Moon was no exception. She started replying less, using busy as an excuse to avoid my calls. It eventually came to a point where I got completely ignored, driving me anxious.

I headed back to the Thai disco in search of an answer. After speaking with the manager, I came to discover that she is on a short-term visa. It was added that her recent attempt to extend her stay was denied and she is unlikely to return anytime soon. I was devastated.

Just when I thought I had lost all hope of seeing Moon again, the manager suggested trying my luck with Facebook. As they were mutual friends, he shared her FB profile with me and I began browsing through her posts.

Her public gallery revealed multiple photos of a young chap in his everyday life. What drew my attention was a tattoo that was identical to Moon on the exact same spot. It had me thinking that perhaps this person is a close contact of hers, possibly her sibling, child or even husband.

I took my questions to the manager for clarification. I got a rude shock. The person in the photo was, in fact, Moon before her gender reassignment. She used to be a male back then.

Embarrassed and frustrated, I cooped up in my room for several weeks refusing to see anyone. I questioned my sanity on whether our exchange was an outright lie from the beginning. Was all of this a scheme to con my money? I guess I will never know as she remained unreachable till today. Neither do I intend to investigate further as it will only adds to the disappointment. Things ended unanimously between us leaving a bitter taste in my mouth.

Apologize if my encounter did not turn out to be as dramatic as what many perceived to be. The intention is not to seek advice but to share about my past. I was originally hesitant to continue but was encouraged by the community. The overwhelming response is what drives confessors like me to continue posting. I hope u guys had fun listening to my story and I’ll catch everyone in my next confession. Till next time.

Part 1 of story:

My friends are calling me a ignorant person for refusing to go to a friend’s birthday party after they canceled our plans

This is a pretty conflicting situation and I don’t know what to think. I have been friends for years with that person but they do have a habit of canceling plans and often giving fake excuses.

Well it was their birthday this week so I offered to take them out for lunch. Everything was going very well, they seemed excited for it and I was too. I try not to be pessimistic but with their history of canceling stuff, it can be hard to not think about the chances of them canceling last minute.