My boyfriend is attending the funeral of the girl he cheated on me with..

I have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs. He is (M) 31y/o and I am (F) 30y/o. When we first got together, I had found out he was sneaking around with his ex.

It was new and I didn’t feel we were all that serious so I forgave him.. however as the relationship progressed, she would still pop up randomly, she would buy him random gifts to get his attention. Show up to his place at random. Would call him and try to “hang out”. . .

To my dismay I found out he saw her a couple months ago, went to her place, and of course “nothing happened”, but I’ll never know.. soon after he finally told her that it wasn’t appropriate she keep trying to speak to him.

About a month later… she died.

Initially I was very understanding and felt heart broken for him, idk why but I guess because it’s sad when anyone passes, no matter what harm they have done.

Then a week after receiving the news, I find a heart she wrote on the passenger side of his windshield. He said it was odd because even when he saw her last she wasn’t near his car.

Which tells me two things, he saw her even more recent than what I thought and two, she went out of her way to write that on the side that I sit on, knowing I’ll see it.. after that I lost a lot of empathy.

Yesterday he attended her funeral, I was a bit upset but didn’t say anything until later that night.

He then told me that if I feel any type of way that I should join him for her funeral. Given the circumstances, I clearly feel it is inappropriate and am not attending but I’m still upset.

I wouldn’t dare tell him to not attend, I actually think it would be good for him. However I am conflicted and am curious how I should handle this moving forward.

One time when me (28F) and My boyfriend (28M) was playing with a homemade Ouija board (I know, stupid) in our home we are currently living in, I asked if there were any demons with us and we heard 3 seconds later 3 knocks somewhere in the house.

And another time when we were about to go to bed, my bf was in the bathroom and I was sitting on the edge of our bed, suddenly I felt like it was vibrating under my feet, so I jumped up in the bed and my heart raced. I dont know why I got so scared.

Another time, when me and my bf was in my mothers house, we were alone, and we heard footsteps and someone flushing the toilet upstairs. Can they do that by themselves?

One time when my mother was home alone in her house (her husband was on a work trip) she heard someone walking outside her entrance, then it was quite for about 4 seconds, and then she heard someone really tried to open the door, the doorhandle went up and down so hard that she thought it was gonna break. It was at night this happened.

Netizen’s comments

People sometimes don’t think about what to do before and after play paranormal games. I mean Ouija supposed to have a “protocol” but i could not take the risk. Some people always said that play Ouija could open spiritual gates… If I am in a House with weird feeling or paranormal activity i should try pray but that’s just my personal opinion.

I recently became really insecure about my looks due to some physical changes that have made me feel a lot uglier. Suddenly a coworker twice my age wanted “to try something” and put his hands around my waist. I first thought he was making a joke because I couldn’t imagine how he could even think there was an attraction on my side.

But he was serious. This always seems to happen. Whenever I feel bad about myself creepy guys come up to me, either talking stuff that would make anyone uncomfortable or getting touchy-feely. However, whenever I’ve felt good about myself, it’s was mostly genuinely nice guys who approach me.

Did anyone else notice the same? Is it because they think insecure women are an easy target? Or that “ugly” women would take them because they wouldn’t have a chance with anyone else?

(To make it clear: I’m not talking about the looks of the guys. I’m not complaining about getting approached by “ugly” guys. I’m complaining about guys that don’t respect boundaries.)

Here are what netizens think:

Alot of guys they no confident, they see pretty girl they diam diam

ya loh, I know what you mean. Then the girl who is not so confident becomes a tool for the guy to jeer on.

Get a life, what can you do about it?

So background story is this. I work in a small SME with only a handful of people in the office.

There is this guy who I won’t say I hate him, but he likes to crack jokes in the office, often at my expense.

Like making fun of my name and saying hurtful stuff. I know he is just playing around but tbh, I don’t really like it.

Now here is where the problem comes. I told another trusted friend about this and he told the guy to stop bothering me.

Couldn’t keep his mouth shut somehow.

Now the guy who I said makes jokes at me messaged me and apologized and said he will only talk to me for work matters from now on.

Sounds abit childish to me, like the primary school kind of I don’t friend you that kind of thing.

So my question is this, would you tolerate getting laughed at and keep the peace or would you tell him off and make the whole office stale and stagnant? Thanks

Netizens’ comments

• Wait, but the guy who cracked jokes about you apologized and stop Liao right?
  Then technically you don’t need to worry alr Ma because now:
  • you don’t have to tell him off
  • that guy said he won’t bother you alr
  • Your trusted friend probably told him in a nice way that actually you feel hurt
    so now win win, you have a good friend who defends you, and a colleague who understands your boundaries. From now you’ll have a non toxic workplace alr no? 😀
• “Couldn’t keep his mouth shut somehow”
  If this is the thanks one gets in standing up for you, I think I’d rather be your enemy

So I have never dealt with my vagina smelling like fish until I got with my boyfriend.

Before him, I only had BV only twice but that was from sleeping with these two random guys and without a condom.

Besides them when I got with my boyfriend for the first 3-4 months of having S we never did it with a condom and my vagina smelled fine and tasted fine as well.

But ever since last month it started to REEEK! I thought maybe I had BV but I didn’t have any of the symptoms I did when I usually had BV. And when the smell would start going away as soon as we would have S the smell would start to come back again (and yes I made sure to wash after S).

So I’m not sure what’s going on? Like he is circumcised as well, but idk if it’s just bacteria from his penis or what but from the 21 years of my life I never had an issue with this and I had a bf before him and we would go raw from time to time and never did I get that fish smell. And no I have not changed my diet or anything crazy it’s the same as before.

I’m literally doing nothing different so it’s like I’m wondering why is it that after we have S and I wash do I get that fish smell?? I’ve only dealt with this with my current bf so it’s just really frustrating to me. The only thing I can possibly think of is maybe after a long day at work and we fuck it’s causing it but it’s the same as before 3-4 months ago so idk.

Here are what netizens think:

• If you’re sensitive to that it can definitely cause BV and thus the smell. You should probably be treated for BV right now. 

• your hygience health habits need some work

• This is known as the chao chee bye

A man who tried to find girls during his trip to Thailand, Pattaya tried using dating apps but all he got were “ladies”.

He could not accept the fact that they are men as his desperation is surpass his logic.

Here is the story:

I was in Pattaya with my friends last weekend and one of them has always had trouble finding a girlfriend.

Previously, he was addicted to pubs and discos with hostesses and always used the easy way out by attracting the wrong girl with money.

So during the trip, we played the jet ski while he relaxes on the beach.

When we came back to shore, he said that he was able to contact multiple girls on Facebook dating and Tinder claiming that they are interested in him and that one of them will be joining us for the drinking session tonight.

He showed us the photo and we immediately knew that they were not girls but men. One of them looks over 180cm tall.

We tried to be a good friend and tell him that the girls he is talking to are not actually girls but he refused to believe us and thinks that they are interested in him.

I told him: “Firstly, there are like a gorilla, secondly, you think you, Andy Lau, ah. Many girls come to you ah”

He refused to listen to us and insist that they are women as he had “heard their voice messages”. It kind of sounds like a man pretending to sing opera while talking.

So we when for a drink and one of the ladyboys did turn up. She looks like she just shaved as there were small studs coming out from her top lip.

It was so obvious and my friend was happy and showing off to us that he found a girl.

The happiness was short-lived until she started to talk, she sounded more man than man more than me.

He tried to be polite and said he was drunk and went back to the hotel secretly.

Well, since the person he jio is already here we drank together.

When we got back to the hotel, he was hugging his pillows and his eyes were in tears.

For context, he is in his 30s.