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DAUGHTER KICKS A FUSS AFTER MOTHER BUYS MORE EXPENSIVE GIFT FOR SIBLING

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My daughter (14) wrote a giant list for her birthday, but at the top was something called a Dyson Airwrap. She’s quite into tiktokers and youtube and had a bunch of things related to that listed. I was tempted to get what she asked for, but when I saw the price tag I backed off. I feel like that sort of price for what boils down to a hair dryer isn’t a sutiable thing for a girl her age. Instead I purchased some of the more minor things on her list, got her what looked to be a nice hairdryer so she wouldn’t have to use the family one, and some hair rollers.

When she opened her gift, she was immediately sullen and went silent. She didn’t bother to thank me or her Mother, then eventually went off to her room and didn’t come out for a while. Later that week an argument broke out over her behaviour and she went off at everyone over what she considered a grand injustice.

Last year as a reward for doing well on his exams I purchased my son, Aaron (16), a lego set he had been coveting for quite a while. He has had a lifelong obsession with lego and had been struggling with depression and anxiety a lot over the entire year. Aaron not only complete his exams, but doing so well, inspired me to get him something I knew he had been eyeing all year long. The set WAS expensive (I’ll admit it cost more than the hairdryer my daughter desired), but it really perked him up and I felt like he needed it.

My daughter feels that it’s a crime that I got Aaron something like that “unprompted”, while not going above and beyond for her own birthday. I think that she is being incredibly immature and the situations just aren’t the same, but she still is going around acting like a kicked dog and drumming up sympathy with extended family who she felt the need to text about her plight.

How do I settle this?

WEEKLY DENGUE CASES EXPECTED TO HIT MORE THAN 2K CASES, WORRYING

The National Environment Agency (NEA) conducted about 305,000 inspections across Singapore, as well as about 2,300 checks at construction sites.

About 9,000 mosquito breeding habitats were discovered by the agency, according to NEA on 3 June.

As a result, 59 stop-work orders have been issued to construction sites for repeated mosquito breeding offences this year, thus far.

Cases expected to hit new peak

The number of weekly dengue cases in Singapore is also expected to hit a new peak and surpass the highest weekly figure of 1,787 in 2020.

The year 2020 saw a total of 35,315 cases of dengue for the whole year.

More than 12,000 cases of dengue have already been reported this year, which is more than the 5,258 cases recorded in 2021.

Just last week, 1,569 cases were reported, with NEA adding that the weekly figure could be seen exceeding 2,000 because June is the start of the traditional peak dengue season.

This is a concern for us

Desmond Tan, the minister of state for sustainability and environment, said during a media event at a construction site on 3 June, that this is a concern and that the authorities want to enhance and step up their measures to deal with dengue.

He added that NEA has also been stepping up their inspections, along with working with the community and grassroots organisations to exercise more control and prevention measures.

he further added that the inspections have uncovered mosquito breeding in about 60% of household units, 24% in common areas and 5% in construction sites.

Companies that were issued stop-work orders (SWO) are only allowed to carry out corrective actions and review the effectiveness of sanitation and vector control programmes at the sites and the SWO will only be lifted when the measures have been completed and NEA has given their approval.

Repeat offenders

Besides the 59 worksites that were issued SWOs, 6 contractors have been issued repeated SWOs at the same worksite because of poor upkeeping.

One of the more “egregious cases” with multiple mosquito breeding habitats was a construction site at Woodlands Avenue 9, which is a dengue cluster.

9 mosquito breeding sites with more than a few hundred mosquito larvae were found in sanitation facilities, like toilet bowls and etc, during an April inspection.

As of Thursday (2 June), there were more than 405 active dengue clusters, which is an increase form the 196 clusters at the end of April.

72 Y.O MAN MOLESTED MENTALLY DISABLED WOMAN, JAILED 15 MONTHS

A 72-year-old man pleaded guilty to one charge of molestation and was sentenced to 15 months imprisonment on 3 June, as well as an additional 3 months of jail because he cannot be caned due to his age.

He had molested a 28-year-old woman who was mentally disabled on 17 September 2019.

The identity of the man and the victim, as well as his relationship with the victim and where the crime took place, cannot be revealed due to a court order to protect the identity of the victim.

Background

The victim was a 28-year-old woman who suffers from mild to moderate intellectual disability, as well as an autism spectrum disorder.

She was also assessed to be unable to demonstrate the capacity to consent to explicit acts and is incapable of protecting herself due to her mental disability, and is a vulnerable adult.

Recap

The elderly man saw the victim on the morning of 17 September 2019, at the void deck of her estate and spoke to her, finding out that she would be returning home at about 4pm later that day.

He left his home later that afternoon and waited at a lift lobby near the victim’s flat, and molested her as she was returning home at about 4.15pm.

A CCTV that belonged to one of the victim’s neighbours caught the man in the act and alerted the victim’s older brother, who then made a police report at about 9am on 18 September, the next day.

The elderly man was arrested later that day.

DAUGHTER REFUSED TO TALK TO DYING MOTHER BECAUSE OF A DISPUTE

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This is going to be a bit on the long side, so I apologize ahead of time. Im 42, my mother is 64 has always been manipulative, and mentally abusive toward me. This unfortunately extended to my daughter/

About 12 years ago, she yet again found herself fairly much homeless (after she got cheated by some guy). My husband and I took her in and had her stay with us. My daughter (known as A) was 3 or 4 at the time. The ground rules for her were, this is our house and we will raise our daughter as we see fit.

My husband and I are atheists. My mother is a Christian. We told her we’d support her in going to the church of her choosing and even help her find one where she felt at home. However, we told her that she could not take our daughter to church or teach her that Christianity was the only way. We wanted to introduce our daughter to religion as this is what some people believe and this is what her dad and I believe. We wanted her to make up her own mind about this.

The rules were followed fairly well for the most part for a little bit. Until we went to get our taxes done one afternoon. We came back to a very upset kid. I took her for a drive to Mcdonald’s and asked what happened. A said that my mother had told her that we were going to go to hell because we don’t believe in god and that if she didn’t pray now that God would let her go to hell too. She then proceeded to teach my daughter to pray.

This is where I drew the line. I could take my mother trying to manipulate me all the live long day. I could take her abuse and it didn’t matter because she’s my mother and that’s just what I did for my whole life. When she did this to an impressionable child, my baby, that is where I drew the line.

I promptly kicked her out of my house and told her I would never talk to her again.

Just recently, I heard through my brother (who I have also not spoken to because he took her side and said I was the unfillial) messaged me through Facebook and said she wasn’t doing well and was expected to not make it for much longer. She apparently has congestive heart failure or something. Then last night I got a message from her on Facebook.

This is her redacted message:

I still truly love & miss you and A! Please, please, please allow me in your lives again? I realize how much I must have hurt you, can you find it in your heart to forgive me before I die? My new phone number is XXX-XXX-XXXX. Will you be as kind to call me?? I truly want you guys in my life!!!

I want to ignore but my brother and mothers side of the family is telling me I am an A-hole.

What should I do?

M’SIA HEALTH MINISTER – CHICKEN EXPORT BAN “NOT AN EASY DECISION”

Khairy Jamaluddin, the health minister of Malaysia, said on 2 June that the export ban on chickens was “not an easy decision” for Malaysia, according to Bernama.

Speaking to the media, Khairy said that Malaysia values its bilateral relations with Singapore, and that he is hoping the ban is just a temporary measure until the supply and price situation in Malaysia stabilizes.

He added that Malaysia is in a very difficult situation due to supply chain issues brought on by feed and climate change issues, which resulted in a shortage in supply and high prices in Malaysia.

He added that Malaysia is well aware that they have a responsibility as exporters to their neighbours, including Singapore.

Working to resume exports

Khairy further added that the Malaysian authorities are working together very closely with poultry producers to increase output and that once these are achieved, they are hopeful that poultry exports can resume.

The Malaysian government said in a statement on 1 June that the export ban includes live poultry, whole carcasses, chilled and frozen meats, as well as chicken-based products such as nuggets, patties and sausages.

Met S’pore ministers

Khairy was in Singapore and met with Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong on Thursday to review each other’s Covid strategies, as well as discuss developments in the healthcare sector.

They also touched on areas where both countries can strengthen their (our) bilateral cooperation, as well as work together so our economies can recover quickly.

He also met up with ministers such as Heng Swee Keat, Josephine Teo, Ong Ye Kung, Vivian Balakrishnan and Lawrence Wong while he was in Singapore.

GUY GOES DAYS WITHOUT TEXTING GF OR CELEBRATING V’DAY, ANNIVERSARIES

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Hi guys, please help an insecure girl out

Is it normal for a guy to go for days without texting their partner and not celebrating valentine’s day nor anniversaries (not even mentioning it through text)?

For context, I’ve been with my partner for a year and this is my first relationship. Being a total noob, I tried my best to show my appreciation for him with either notes or small gifts but I’m met with kinda lukewarm responses.

The fact that we have to keep our relationship low-profile due to circumstances doesn’t really help my insecurity too.

I’ve tried telling him that I need more reassurance and security but I don’t think this is something that he will/can change for me.

However, when we do go out, I feel so happy and secure. I’ve tried reasoning it out by myself, thinking about how maybe he’s just busy, not a romantic person or just has bad memory…but it doesn’t make me feel any better.

It’s scary to think about the future when the initial feelings fizzle out too. What can I do to solve this problem?

Thanks for listening to my semi-rant too

S’PORE DISTRIBUTOR STRIKES DEAL WITH THAI SUPPLIER, IMPORT 10X MORE CHICKENS

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The food distributor in Singapore has managed to strike a deal with a supplier in Thailand to import 10 times more chicken, according to Shin Min Daily News.

This comes in the wake of Malaysia’s ban on chicken exports, which came into effect on 1 June, with some being concerned about the supply of chicken in Singapore, because one-third of Singapore’s chicken supplies come from Malaysia.

A local food distributor, CS Tay, is the only distributor authorised to sell chilled chicken from Thailand, as reported by SMDN/

Marc Tay, the executive director of the company, said that he managed to strike a deal that will allow him to import 10 times more chickens at any time, an increase of up to 75,000 packs of chilled chicken parts weekly.

Chilled chickens taste just like fresh chickens and have not gone through any freezing processes.

Tay told the Chinese paper that CS Tay has been supplying chilled Thai chicken from S-Pure to Singapore since last July.

He added that their products are known for their high-quality chickens and is apparently popular in Hong Kong and Thailand.

The import of chilled poultry into Singapore from Thailand was only allowed in November 2020, allowing Tay to start his imports.

His company was initially only importing 8,000 packs of chilled chicken parts a week, and after negotiations with the supplier, he can not import 75,000 packs a week, almost 10 times more.

The chickens are currently stored in Isetan and some Cold Storage outlets, and will be made available at all Cold Storage and Giant supermarkets, as well as at some NTUC outlets as the ban kicks into effect.

M’SIA – THOSE WHO BREACH CHICKEN EXPORT BAN WILL BE JAILED, FINED

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Malaysia’s ban on chicken exports will be enforced by on 1 June, according to the Agriculture and Food Industries Ministry (Mafi).

Mafi said in a statement released on 1 June that the ban will be enforced by the Malaysian Quarantine and Inspection Services Department (Maqis), as reported by Bernama.

Mafi also added that all permit approvals to export chicken from 1 June has been cancelled, including permits to export live chicken, round chicken carcasses, chicken-based food products and etcetera.

New permits for these products will also stop being issued.

Enforcement officers from Maqis have also been stationed at exit gates to prevent any attempt to export the chickens.

Those who breach the ban can be jailed up to 6 years or fined up to RM100,000. Repeat offenders face a jail term of up to 7 years and a fine of up to RM150,000.

NORWAY WOMAN TELLS SG FRIEND HER BUTT IS TOO BIG TO BORROW HER DRESS

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I am originally from Norway but moved to SG when I was 20. In Norway its normal to get a “bunad” for your confirmation. The bunad is Norway’s national clothing piece, and made out of whool amongst other things.

Due to the material and the time it takes to make one (1 year ish), they are very expensive. Now, my friend is an school teacher and asked if she could borrow mine for a culture day they were having. When I told her no, she got very upset and said it was only for one day and not even that big of a deal.

My bunad is one of the most expensive ones in Norway, mine cost 6000$. With the traditional silver and shoes, the dress and outfit adds up to around 8000$. I told her there’s no way I’m risking getting food or paint stains on it, and I don’t want it to get widened out either.

She isn’t big or overweight at all, but she is a few sizes bigger than me. She got offended, saying I’m a fatphobic B and a fake friend. So I told her to make her butt smaller before getting it from me.

She hasn’t talked to me since but she has told our mutual friends about it, and they’re all calling me an asshole. So, am I wrong that I want to protect my property?

WOMAN TOLD BY HUSBAND TO “COVER UP” WHEN SHE’S AROUND STEPSON

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I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, his son was 3 when I met him. He’s grown up around me, and he now lives with us full-time because his mother mistreats him.

Last night: I’m a 35 year old, overweight woman. I wear high-waisted long bike shorts and sports bras to bed, and it was our two year old’s bedtime when I was getting out of the shower.

Since I usually head to bed after the baby goes down, I came out in my sleepwear to pick the baby up and put him to bed.

My stepson and husband were chilling and my stepson, 13, asked if I was gonna do yoga. I’m literally more covered than if I wear a swimsuit, but my husband said this morning that I need to cover up around our son if he’s making comments.

I kind of bristled at the idea for a couple of reasons, one: I’m his stepmom, but I can’t wear the same clothes around him that I wear around the other kids and my husband in the house?

Two: it feels a bit like victim blaming when women are always told to cover up their bodies to “reduce distraction/temptation” for young men.

I do understand where he’s coming from. Our kid is 13 and hormonal, but I feel like if you make it inappropriate then that’s the real issue.

I don’t know, I’m probably overthinking this.

Netizen’s comments

The way you describe your outfit, it’s hardly inappropriate. The comment from your stepson wasn’t inappropriate either. I’d say your husband needs to get his mind out of the gutter.