To frustrating singles,

Why does life feel so unfair to me sometimes.. it’s getting frustrating that sometimes u just wanna be loved yet u can’t because the society now is kinda messed up.

Everyone’s ideal dream is to get in a relationship and then after get married right? But yet it seems almost impossible, throwing away other factors such as incompatible blah blah.

But why do girls divert their attentions to messed up bois and expect things to go well? Like are single, finding for marriage kinda guy expected to clean up your “ex situation”.

U can’t even get over the trauma and learn to love yourself why bother going to find guys to break their heart just because he is nice and he deserve better when he is already there for u, willingly to commit but u on the other hand just runs away (doesn’t the cycle repeats?)

And is it me or like finding a actual relationship is hard in this society?

It’s so frustrating to the point where I felt that maybe I’ll just die single coz nobody appreciates u despite the amount of effort u put in

Netizens’ comments

• go thailand vietnam philippines find lo. Got a lot of women there willing to settle down w you

• Being single is also good! Learn to love yourself first. Anyway the more fixated you are looking for the right guy, the harder it is to get him. Focus on yourself and the rest will flow nicely, whether single or attached.

A netizen shared how the small size of his manhood is ruining his life and affecting his mental health, and is causing him to lose the motivation to look for a woman.

Here is what he said

I’m a 24 year old male with a 2″ erect manhood, this has had a detrimental effect on my mental health.

I have no motivation to look for a woman that will eventually cheat on me like the last one did. It’s made me never want to try again, also I know I’ll never be able to give a girl a wild night.

I feel like my life has no meaning, some of you may read this and think it’s silly, but it’s hurting my mental state to a point where I don’t know how to live my life anymore.

Netizens’ comments

• There are 2 components to good intercourse for most women. Intimacy and “coming”. Neither requires your manhood at all. Research how to use your hands and mouth and you can leave a woman satisfied. I think a lot of people have trust issues after they are cheated on, its something you need to work to move forward, not the end of dating for you
• You have more than 2″….You have hands and a mouth. Invest in toys and things. Women LOVE these things! When you care about someone they are enough. You work with what you have and creativity.

To local women, I’d really like to know how in today’s culture, women are disadvantaged in SG? Cause to me, it seems that being a girl is more advantageous in SG than being a guy. Let’s list a few examples ya.

NS – the BIG one. For all the talk about gender equality by feminists, this is an area that most local women would be happy not being equal in. Meanwhile, guys have to sacrifice 2 years of their prime and the opportunity cost is immense with regards to potential income earned, career progression, relationships, etc. I completely disagree with what Ng Eng Hen said recently in Parliament about compulsory enlistment for women.

Dating – Once again, women talk about equal rights but a lot of them (I didn’t say ‘all’) would happily let the guy pay for all their dates (even if they are earning a similar amount or higher), plan everything for vday and anniversary, be the one to propose, etc while not putting in as much effort. I mean think abt it, if not for the women who want a picture perfect vday celebration of a rose bouquet and candle-lit dinner, most men wouldn’t even care to rmb 14 Feb.

Counter argument to this is that perhaps women need to put in more effort after marriage, especially when children come into the picture. But even then, it’s no denying that women aren’t exactly helping themselves because a lot of local women still adhere to traditional views of gender.

Workplace – the gender pay gap is bull pls.. Justifiably, if you’re the same level as a male colleague doing the same job but getting paid a bit lesser, pls note my 1st point abt local guys having to sacrifice 2 years of their life to NS, whether willingly or otherwise…

And for those who say that not enough females are represented in STEM jobs, erm… maybe do consider that perhaps in the 1st place not as many women are entering these fields compared to men?

A trend I notice at the workplace is how for the sake of diversity, a woman is selected for a managerial position even though there is a more qualified man for the role. I won’t have an issue with this if both the man and woman are similarly qualified, but if the man happens to be more qualified, shouldn’t merit/expertise for the job take priority compared to trying to score diversity points in your annual report?

You may call me bitter (and yes I do admit partly that I’m bitter abt this) but at the end of the day, some of the stuff I say do have grains of truth in them. Some of you may like to bring up how the majority of sexual assault and domestic violence cases are women, but I’d argue that these are not exactly things happening at a systematic level compared to the stuff I’ve mentioned.