Hi I would like to ask is it normal for students to outsource their reports to people online and pay a fee to get it done?

Because recently one of my groupmates told me he outsourced most of his reports as he was too lazy to do them and rather work part-time and use that money to pay for the service, he also said he wants to try to buy an online exam service too if we have exams online again.

Should I discourage him or mind my own business?

Here are what netizens think:

• He is your groupmate right? Meaning there’s a high chance that any grp projects parts that he submitted might had been bought. So if and when your lecturer found out, u knew and didn’t report it, it’s good luck to your grades too.

• Report him. One less job seeker to compete with you when you graduate

• He is smart. Study so hard also useless, NUS cert at the end of the day will still lose to rubbish uni…

• Depending on what you want to achieve. If you want to see how competent you are with thw subject matter, go thru the usual way. If found out to be 1 of the 11, maybe just some delay in your career path. 

• This person is a future boss, you might be working for him one day. Don’t mess it up

• That’s y we do see some graduates went to the company but work very badly. As they are not capable too that particular job.

• Is it normal? Yes and no. There has always been people offering and buying such services. Is it ethical? No.It speaks volumes about your group mate’s integrity. Don’t do business with him in the future.Bring it up with your professor quietly.

I am with a girl since last year end and recently I have noticed a few challenges in our relationship. To be clear, she is a very admirable and diligent girl and I love her very much.

But after a recent quarrel I have started to realise many differences between us. First off, I feel as if she pushed too much of her ideals onto me both emotionally and physically. Yes, she is an over-achiever among our peers. But does that justify her being inconsiderate and asked me to and I quote ‘why can’t you be better’? Note that I have always had a trauma and stress from my family side already as my siblings are all top tier human beings.

After the get better incident I have found my hatred for her grow from the inside and every time we have quarrels it just grows even more. And also, she cries every time something not in her favour happens. A few days ago she said something that got onto my head and I became moody and she started crying. As if she expects everything to be solved by having tears. I’m sorry I can’t fulfil your wish of dating a kdrama oppa who licks your knees every time a tear of yours drop. Nowadays I feel defeated, some times annoyed even every time she cries. Just because she cries SO OFTEN. LITERALLY.

Plus it is very unlikely we will be in the same country in our future and all sources of mine says ldr doesn’t work.

What should I do. Should I still hang on the little thread of hope? Or should I just follow along my conscience that tells me that I should stop wasting time?

My wedding is in two months, but I think I’m done.

Fiancé has been weird lately. Planned to get into the shower with me tonight, didn’t because I was “too fast”. I was in there for 15 minutes. When he got into the shower, I had to come back into the bathroom to get moisturizer. Usually he turns on a podcast and jumps right in, but this time he was standing in front of the mirror with his phone.

Things haven’t been perfect, lots of wedding planning stress and garbage, but we were (I thought) both extremely excited to tie the knot after ten years together. We have a decent life, great connection, and genuine love for each other, or so I thought.

Got curious. Found out he’s been snap chatting his female co worker because she snapped him at 2am tonight. His Snapchat notifications specifically are turned off completely. He has zero text messages from her. The Snapchat message said “Aw, okie. Sweet dreams 💜 thanks for talking to me. Got another win!” (Talking about video games).

I’ve omitted the cutesy pet name she called him because it makes me physically sick. I screenshotted the message, and she replies lightning quick: “you still up Mr?”

I reply and play it cool and pretend I’m him. Nothing super juicy, but lots of lols and some hearts… she’s playing video games and wants ice cream, but has to go get some… He sees this woman all day at work. But apparently it’s common for them to talk in the middle of the night.

Also found a deleted naughty photo of himself in his recently deleted that I certainly didn’t receive, who knows where that ended up. I don’t think he has the balls to send that to anyone, but who knows.

Haven’t slept. Have thrown up several times. Terrified that even if i address this with him, he will just be better at covering his tracks next time. I have given him ten years of my life. I’m 25. Thank god we don’t have children. Just a house, two dogs, and ten years worth of memories…what I thought were good times. I thought he wanted to marry me. The wedding is supposed to happen in two months on our ten year anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I am wrecked.

I’m 35(f) and my younger brother is 29. He has severe mental health problems, starting with Non verbal autism, anger issues and complete inability to look after himself. My parents looked after him since the day he was born due to all these issues.

I have tried to love him, but as the ages gone past I have resented him. He has always been big and tall and since very young age he has tried to hurt me. I was always covered in bruises while living with my parents. When he got older he would try to kill me. He would try to drown me, choke me, threaten me with a knife and make holes in me, and I’m not mentioning the amount of times he has tried to set the house on fire. I ended up hating him and barely had contact with my parents as they always find an excuse for his behavior.

They are getting old and have recently contacted me asking for help to look after my brother. I laughed. I told them if I could I would happily put him out of his misery. But because I couldn’t I have told them if they force me to look after him I will either make an anonymous call for him to be taken to a place where qualified people can look after him or just abandon him by one and make sure I will never see or hear about him again.

I don’t want to be related to him. He is the reason why I will never be able to have kids of my own. He is the reason of many ugly scars left on my body and face. And I will happily get rid of him the chance I have or get him locked up for good.

I do not blame what he did on his autism. He needed treatment from a very young age which was not provided to him by my parents which has caused this violence and anger issues. Autism might just make them a bit stronger but I don’t believe it is a cause as he also has a bunch of other mental illnesses he was diagnosed with.

However people who say he didn’t choose it and he can not understand what he does and try to either make it seem like I’m blaming his autism for it or who are blaming autism for it themselves seem ignorant. He enjoys causing harm to me, to my parents or any pets we owned (my brother would “dispose” of any pets we owned from fish to dogs/cats). When he was younger it was hurting everyone, once he grew up it was aiming for a kill. There’s no outbursts or anything, it’s just him trying to actively get rid of me or any pets as he wants to be their top priority. When he is not my parents get hurt by him. He previously made attempts to burn me alive where I woke up covered in fuel while he was watching me while playing with lighter. I am not going to list everything he did, but its something I do not wish upon anyone.

My parents and my brother do not know where I live and I haven’t visited them in years due to my brother, especially after he tried to “dispose” of my girlfriend. We are currently looking to move to a different country across the world and change names if we can, so there will be no way for my parents or the government to look after my brother or pay for him to be in an institution as these are expensive.

Hi everyone, I really need some advice on how to cope with working hours. Ok, so abit of context.

Im from SG and graduated here. However, I moved overseas to a Nordic country to work for several years and just moved back here and I simply cannot cope with the much harsher working conditions back home.

Here’s some fact about my previous employment:

– My income is approx SGD$13000-ish when converted (but do not be fooled into thinking thats high because taxes are 46% here and the cost of living here is much much higher)

So even though Ill be taking a 5k pay cut if I move back, after taxes and CPF, I’m still better off in Singapore.

I had no problems finding a job here because it is an industry Singapore is just starting to venture into and thus, most companies lack experienced workers in said field whereas my country of employment has had decades of experience with it.

Now here’s the problem. I have to start at 8.30am and I realised that I’m only going home at 7+pm and I even have to come back on weekends! I know this sounds normal to most people but it really is not for me. Technically speaking, this would be my first employment in SG so I’m telling myself things will get better once I’m used to the lifestyle back home (after all I freaking lived and studied my entire life here) but I really can’t. Its just too big a jump.

Previously, my working hours were from 8.30am to 4.30pm with a 1.5 hour lunch/nap break in between and we are mandated by law to be provided with a minimum of 24 weekdays of paid leave per year (which companies are required to extend to a minimum of 25 days after 5 years of employment). Here the leave I get is barely enough for me to get a break!

So I’m asking how do I cope with the working hours here? Will I get better with time? because I truly feel MISERABLE working here. Maybe I just became weak after working in a country with good labour laws.

Here are what netizens think:

• verything is about opportunity costs. When you said pay is better off, you aren’t really better off in this way. Bcos in terms of time, work arrangements, you’ll need to do more. So by getting a higher pay, lower taxes you’ll need to pay the opportunity costs of having longer work hours. Its now up to you if you want to sacrifice your time in return for money isn’t it? Happiness vs Money vs Time. Which is your priority in life?  in any case there’s always trade offs.

• Given the high and extremely progressive income tax in Nordic countries, it is rational for them to take more leisure and less work.Given the low and less progressive income tax in Singapore, it is rational for us to take less leisure and more work.Its all about making rational decisions for the people in both countries.

• Well, I work for a Nordic company in Singapore and I also have experience working overseas hence understand what you are saying.Work life balance is supposedly better in Nordic companies (Swedish/Finnish/Danish). But still if based in Singapore, you need to manage your expectations to put in more. You cannot expect to get paid better and yet expect the same benefits. It doesn’t work that way.Manage your expectations, or otherwise, you need to go back to where you were. Singaporeans are known to be resilient in adversity. Give yourself some time, and I’m sure you will slowly get used to be home