I don’t know why my gf love to ask me if she’s fat and get upset no matter how I reply. We have been together for a year and I really dislike it when she ask me these kind of questions because of the way she responds.

My gf is a 32C with a 24 inch waist. She’s 163cm and I think she’s underweight. I memorized her dress size so when we go shopping I would help her find her sizes. She’s a xs or xxs. To me, she’s a goddess no matter what she wears. I made a mental note to be careful because once I passed her a size L clothing and she got upset and asked me if I thought she’s this large. My mistake.

Sometimes she would randomly ask me if she’s fat in an outfit. I would say she looks great and she would sulk and tell me don’t bluff her. Sometimes when she scroll ig she would ask me if this influencer looks skinnier and prettier than her. I always tell her in my eyes her figure and looks are the best. Then she would roll her eyes. I don’t know why she like to ask me these kind of difficult questions.

The other day we argued about this then I asked her if she wanted me to say someone else is prettier than her coz even when I said she’s the best she don’t believe and get more upset. Then she cried. I felt bad.and clueless.

I’m not a smooth talker so I really don’t know how to make her feel good about herself. If I say she’s pretty, wrong. If I say not pretty, which I won’t, also wrong.

I love her very much but I cannot stand answering these kind of silly questions. She said I don’t understand her. I really don’t. Why can’t she just tell me what she wants?

Here are what netizens think:

• If she is occupied with something interesting or useful, she wont have time to think about her body size. All the images she is being exposed to,.give her false impression about body images.What she sees on print, media etc are what they want impressionable girls to focus.She just has too much free time on hand.

• She just fishing for praises and attention. Next time she asks you, you ask her back, “Am I handsome?”Give her hell no matter what response you get. Two can play.

• The reality is that her self-worth is tied to all these numbers and sizes. Therefore nothing you say (or anyone else) will ever change her insecurity.Idw to give her shit for her body issue struggles bcos tbh all these unrealisitc expectations for female bodies come from media and society… But if you aren’t prepared for a lifetime of her mental breakdowns regarding her size (which will naturally change with age), you should leave for your sake.You can’t fix her (nor is it your responsibility) and it’s hard for her to change her unhealthy mindset if that’s the basis of her identity.

I have a group of friends who love to drink. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m ok with drinking if it’s for an occasion or for social settings like gatherings, chilling after a hard day at work etc.

But I do not like to get dead drunk, nor do I like the feeling of hangovers the next morning and having to spend the next day doing nothing but recover.

On the other hand, my friends are very into hard liquor and drinking till they are gone. There is also no option for me to drink less when I’m with them, as some of them will keep pouring drinks or end up ordering a lot of drinks that we can’t finish and eventually have to split them up to finish since the drinks are expensive. 

I enjoy their company, but I really do not enjoy drinking too much. When I refuse their offer for more drinks or cook up an excuse that I am not attending their drinking party, it seems as if I’m a party pooper or not making the effort to stay as friends.

I cherish all my friends but drinking is not really my thing. The good thing is that they aren’t a bad influence in other ways cos they work hard at their jobs etc, just the part about drinking that I can’t see eye to eye, though I never made it known to them. 

What would you guys do in my shoes?

Noticed boyfriend/fiancé has a habit of glancing at girls back and forth multiple times whenever we are out together.

It’s quite apparent till the other girl has noticed, so it’s not discreet anymore?

Broached the topic of how it’s made me uncomfortable and embarrassed for 4 times this year already, and he kept explaining in his POV, he’s just looking at a general direction…

This makes me feel like he’s denying what he did and he told me to nudge him whenever I feel uncomfortable.

Am tired of this act cus it feels insensitive and disrespectful. And he’s denial makes me feel like he’s invalidating my feelings.

He tells me I should’ve told him immediately and nudge him if I feel like he’s making me uncomfortable. Honestly it makes me feel almost like I need to smack my pet in public when it’s misbehaving???

And it becomes my fault that I didn’t tell him or stop his behavior???

Does he get a serotonin high when he does it??

Madly disappointed. Why does he keep doing it and I’m getting tired I don’t know if this is a lost cause

The place I work at requires us to wear these stiff uniforms. I was already turned on before heading to work but honestly was just lazy and went about my day.

As I was driving, the seam of my pants hit my “little sister” just right when I scooted my butt over a little.

I found myself moving my hips so the seam of the pants kept pressure on my womanhood going back and forth.

I found myself getting really close to “coming” and having trouble concentrating on driving, so I slowed down on the pleasuring myself, even though I wanted to climax right then.

Once I got to the parking lot, I pulled into a space and unzipped my pants and circled my “little woman” with my finger and quickly came.

I didn’t think much about someone watching me (although I should have probably atleast looked around first). I walked into work soaking wet after finishing myself.

I felt naughty all day but also it made my day so much better.

Netizens’ comments

• RIP her DMs

Locking up your home is the first thing one will do after leaving their gate.

While most of us have one, two or three locks. This uncle “overkills” his security at home.

A man who resides in Malaysia was seen unlocking his home which has over 10 padlocks and chains.

Over 3 minutes to enter his home

The man was seen in a video taking over 3 minutes to unlock his door.

However, netizens commented and said that if a robber has the intention to rob his home, they would have waited behind him and threatened him with a knife.

Others said: “It’s like advertising your home that there are a lot of valuables inside”.

While some defend the man’s action by saying: “Maybe he got kena robbed before and unsure to secure his home. Therefore he just add more locks.”

Here are what netizens think:

• Uncle, you need one good lock not 10 lousy locks

• Inside sure got gold bar, if I robber i don’t even bother unlock the locks, i jus saw hole through the wooden door.

• Uncle ah, by the time you open finish a robber waiting behind you loh.

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Kiasu Malaysian Uncle locks 10 plus lock at his home

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