A bit of context is needed and I apologize it may belong. It all started when my boyfriend (m27) and I (f27) moved in last year.

We introduced ourselves to our neighbour (f30ish) and she seemed great, super nice. We quickly learned that the soundproofing of this building is nonexistent, you hear everything. Regular toned conversations, showers turning on, TVs, you name it, we can hear it. I have tried my hardest to be a quiet and respectful neighbour but the neighbour this is about didn’t seem to care and often watched her tv at full blast and would have loud conversations on the phone at all hours. But it didn’t really bother me that much, what can you do?

A few months after moving in our neighbour had a guy “friend” over and it was loud. Headboard banging, slapping, screaming, loud. It was hilarious we thought, the first time. But this turned into an almost daily, almost always around noon, occurrence for about a month and this girl had lungs.

I could hear it everywhere in the building, toilet, downstairs. Just when I was beginning to get fed up with it and contemplating complaining to management, see I work from home and it was incredibly disruptive, it seemed someone else had enough and complained before me. Ah, the sweet relief of quieter sx.

The screaming was toned down to moaning and I didn’t feel as assaulted in my own home anymore. I do think she thought we complained because she wouldn’t look at us anymore after that but I didn’t care, it was worth it.

Fast forward to two months, she and the guy and slowly was getting louder again. But I felt like I could deal with it since they normally happened around noon, or at least no earlier than 9. I had started working some days in the office as well so I wasn’t home to hear it as much, and most days I was gone before 7 am for my second job.

7:30am and I’m startled awake by a banging noise followed by some squeals and moans. I grabbed my pillow wrapped it around my head and tried to ignore it and sleep. 8am and I’m wide awake the noises were growing louder and the headboard was slamming with impressive force. I could feel the rage boiling up. My sleep is precious to me, I work two jobs and one is very heavy manual labour. Without thinking twice I grabbed our headboard and slammed our wall (the wall we share with our loud neighbor) and yelled not very nice things along the lines of “omg shut the f up” and “I’m so sick of this”. The silence from her side was incredibly satisfying at the moment and it has been beautifully quiet since.

My wife (27F) got a tattoo and I (29M) am inexplicably furious when I look at it or her now. Where do I go for help?

This is so beyond my character and it’s so stupid but the emotions are real and they’re out of control.

I’ve been having panic attacks into the months leading up to it every time its mentioned, but I soldiered on thinking I would get used to it.

She got it yesterday and now any time I see her, and doubly so if I see that thing, I feel nothing but pure contempt, hatred, and resentment.

I’ve had to completely remove myself from the household for the time being or I risk doing something stupid. This isn’t like me at all and i have no idea what’s going on. It’s just a tattoo!

I love her so much, and she loves it and I want to be happy she’s happy but instead I feel no love or even care for her when I’m in the same room. I’m scared of myself.

I’m just looking for some perspective on what I should do. I recognize how messed up my own head must me right now, and how stupid this is.

This isn’t me. I want myself back. I’ve already cut some deep verbal wounds because I want her to hurt, we separate rooms I calm down, realize how stupid I’m being, go to apologize, and my blood is boiling again when I see her.

I need help but I don’t know what help I need. Please, any direction on where to go or what to do.

I’m prepared to be crucified. I deserve it. I am the bad guy here.

1 year into the service , & previously my shifts were god-tier, 7 in 7 out, which meant I could spend 1 entire day sleeping/ lazing around before I use my remaining 6 days to do things I need to do.

Now with my 4 in 2 out schedule. Things have been really tough , my bookout has been reduced to 2 days, and it staggers. (E.g If my bookout this week if Saturday, Sunday, my next one would be Fri & Saturday).

I still tend to spend 1 day napping I’m left with 1 day to do things I really want. Recently had to cancel plans with a friend cos I was too tired to go out..

I really want to Maximise & have a life outside of ns commitments but it seems like a challenge.

I’m posted to a unit where my it’s very intense & adhoc, which means if there is ops that suddenly occur in the middle of night , it needs to be addressed asap.

I’m in a unit where it’s daily ops so no jungle & activities like bmt , just policing in incarceration facility.

So I’m wondering for my stay in combat guys how do you make the best of your 2 days out ? It seems my plans have to stop until I ord in ~365 days

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Last 2 nights of your stay in sleep more than the 7hrs of uninterrupted rest. Used to have the same problem as you but i legit nap 2 days away.

After i started sleeping more in camp when nearing book out i feel my time out of camp was not so shag

This happened yesterday.

I was watching Dr Strange 2. There was a couple sat beside me. One of them reached first while the other was late and missed out the first act of the movie (about 10mins or so).

So when the BF came, the GF started explaining what happened in the beginning (i assume). At first, i thought it was fine because she is basically helping him catch up.

A few minutes later, i hear murmers from them again. It continued for another 4 or 5 times for the next 5 minutes and i wasnt having it anymore.

I turned to the BF and said “Bro, can you keep the discussion for later? We trying to watch here.”

He replied and i quote, “Ok. You dont have to be rude about it.” They then proceed to move to another empty seat.

I was like WTF? Was i being rude for telling him to shut up? And whats wrong with peoples theatre etiquette nowadays? Its not my first time experiencing this since the cinema opened.