Over glasses of wine a good friend of mine, who I met years ago through my husband, let me know a little “secret” that she and some of their friends had been keeping.

Evidently, after my husband and I slept together for the first time years ago on our third date, he told a few of them, his good friends (some male some female), that he had just had the best s– of his life. (That’s the good part)

These friends of course pried more details out of him about why it was so great, and evidently he told them some things about my body and my moves.

Just friendly banter, I get it. But of course we ended up getting married, and they had those details, and she said it’s all no big deal but sometimes they still tease him about it.

I even had a nickname for a while but that has been phased out now that I’m “official.”

Is this weird? These people are my friends and I feel a bit odd knowing there was this secret thing. But on the other hand it’s kind of silly/funny.

Curious what others think.

Netizen’s comments

You guys only had three dates, he was in a way closer to his friends at the time than he was to you. It happens that people share these kind of details with their friends on this kind of occasion. It was probably a marvellous moment for him and he wanted to share it with his friends.

This seems to be a long time ago and it also seems that he hasn’t shared more recent details since.

It is just an anecdote, don’t overthinking too much. Your husband was happy, he shared his happiness with his friends and now his friends are so close to you that they share that story with you 🙂

My mom’s been cheating on my dad for 25 years.

They finally got a divorce this year, so my dad opened up to me about everything. When he first caught my mom cheating, he was preparing to leave her until she announced that she was pregnant with me.

I’m now an adult and I think I look enough like my dad to not want to pursue any DNA testing, and tbh I don’t want to know if I’m not his.

I’ve been truly sick ever since he told me the details. My dad’s father died last year, and he has phone records of my mom calling her guy for several hours the day his father died and the day of the funeral.

I want to say something because mom is now bringing this guy around, but dad knows my mom is vengeful and hostile and thinks it would be best for my safety if I don’t confront her.

But man, I feel so disgusted by her and sorry for my dad.

Netizens’ comments

• You should confront her, you have every right. Your mom is the worst type of person, cheating alone, but also calling the man on the day of your grandfathers funeral, absolutely disgusting.
• I’m so sorry your mom is so toxic to you and your dad. Neither of you deserved any of that. That breaks my heart that she could be so cold and destructive to her family, for so long.

My husband wanted to watch me to sleep with another woman and I fell in love with her.

My husband Mark and I have been married for almost 4 years now and we dated for over a year before that. I loved Mark. Initially, our intimate life was pretty tame – nothing more than a few different positions and I was okay with that.

During the pandemic lockdowns, Mark wanted to try new things and I was open to that idea. We ordered some toys and started watching adult videos together to spice things up.

One day, he put on a woman-woman movie and I told him that I had a relationship with a woman back in school. It wasn’t very long but it was great.

Mark got obsessed with woman-woman stuff after that. He kept playing related movies and kept asking for details about my relationship with that woman from back in the day. Eventually he told me that he wanted to see me sleep with another woman.

I told him that I didn’t do one-night stands and that I had to get to know the other person. I think my husband was so obsessed with the idea that he agreed without thinking. Mark was okay with me being in a relationship with another woman as long as he got to see us in action. That was when I started losing respect for him.

My gym trainer Sarah was single, so I started talking to her. She was a great person and after a few weeks, I told her about the arrangement with my husband. She was skeptical at first but agreed as long as she got a few private nights with me. I told Mark about this and was hoping would put a stop to it, but he didn’t.

Things slowly spiraled out after that. I started spending a lot of time with Sara. She was a great person and an excellent friend. She introduced me to her friend circle and it was great. Mark knew about all this but didn’t seem to care as long as he got to see us doing it on some nights. At one point, Sara even warned Mark that he was losing me when she thought I was sleeping. This went on for months and recently, I realized that I didn’t love Mark anymore. Sara also started hinting that she wanted a full relationship with me and I think I love her. I definitely want to explore our relationship more.

I’m getting things in order to file for a divorce. I hate that I have to do this but Mark pushed me away with his actions. I warned him that this might happen, but he was so obsessed with his tendencies that he didn’t care. I loved Mark, and I’s so sad and angry with him as I write this.

I told a guy I had a crush on him and I deeply regret it. His reaction was utterly disgusting and disturbing

He said we’ll need to get to know each other before he decides if he likes me back or not and I agreed and asked what he would like to know about me.

Instead of asking any normal questions one would ask to get to know a fellow human being, he told me to send him “naughty pics” of myself in “bra and panties” from the “front and back view”.

When I told him I wasn’t comfortable with doing that he asked why. I told him I don’t have to justify myself and he was like “why are you giving me attitude” and “I can’t feel attracted to a girl if she doesn’t send me pics, I’m not attracted to faces and I don’t talk to people unless I’m attracted and the only way is those pics.

If you don’t send them then we can’t talk and I’ll delete you because then I won’t be attracted. Also note if you send them we won’t immediately be in a relationship. It can take a year for people to fall in love.”

I was utterly repulsed by this and called him out on his emotional blackmail and manipulative behavior. Then he started blaming me and saying I put myself in these situations by being obsessed with boys.

His hypocrisy is surreal as he was just asking me for pics but it’s my fault that he objectified and dehumanized me?? Wtf!!

I was baffled and utterly disgusted with this awful excuse of a human being. I cussed him out and we blocked each other. I feel so angry because I made myself vulnerable for someone so trashy. I regret ever talking to him. Just thinking about the way he acted makes me wanna puke all over him.