Why do men commit adultery?

I have never once betrayed our marriage or given it up no matter how difficult it is. Holding on because of our daughter. Yet ended up getting scarred and betrayed by him again and again.

I don’t know what I should do now. I am doing a part-time job because I still have to look after my daughter and all. Not earning much.

I really want to divorce him because my heart can’t hold it anymore. At the same time, I am worried about where we have to stay after the divorce and the daily expenses.

Netizens’ comments

• No point holding on to a man who cannot stay faithful to the marriage. Not worth the pain and heartache. Take care of your heart and love yourself more. 
  It would be helpful if you can get evidence for adultery. That would help in you getting a fair share and custody. Jiayou!

• I have the same encounter. So instead of treating the marriage as commitment i change my perspective to business partner. Instead of focusing his wrong doing i focus on making myself feel good

As a woman I only like submissive men

Okay, this is going to be one of the weirdest things you’ll read today, but I genuinely want to get this off my chest, I’ve been wanting to talk about this for a while.

I’m a 27 year old woman. I wouldn’t be saying this if it wasn’t true, but I’m very lucky in the looks department, I was really popular in University as well. I have a hard time finding men I like though, because I only like submissive men..

I broke up with my boyfriend in December 2021, we argued, but we were together for 2 years. He was 4 years younger than me, and he would say ”even though you’re only slightly older than me, you’re almost like a mum, you’re so protective and strong and confident and attractive, you’re one of a kind”

my boyfriend was very submissive, but he wasn’t a weird guy. He was aware of the fact that our relationship dynamic wasn’t really accepted in society and he would act normal in public, but he was very submissive in private, he would let me baby him and he used to enjoy it soooo much. He was obsessed with me, every now and then he would say ”you look so good and you’re also my saviour, you’re one of a kind!”

I don’t know why I’m like this, I do realize I’m weird when it comes to dating, but this is literally the only relationship dynamic that I enjoy. I’ve tried different things, I gave other types of men a chance, but no, I only enjoy a relationship if it works like this, which means I have a very hard time finding men that I like because you basically need to act like a poor harmless baby to attract me..

I can’t forgive myself for my dog’s death. Its been nearly 30 years

Monty was a great dog. He was my best friend in a time when I was socially crippled with extreme shyness.

I loved him but I didn’t take care of him as well as I should have.

I could have done more research into what kinds of food would have been more healthy. I could have trimmed his hair more often in our really hot summers. I could have used better quality soup on him which left his fur lifeless and dull when it could have been beautiful and shiny. I should have been even more attentive in his old age when he got depressed

Here’s what I say to console myself. I lived in a pre-internet world where dogs are not appreciated. As a result there weren’t really much opportunities for any kind of research.

There were very few veterinarians and those that existed were lacking in resources. I myself had to act as a nurse in at least 2 cases where the vet had to operate on my dog’s ears.

I had no idea what kind of food or products were good for a dog. As a result I’ve never been able to shake the realization that he was malnourished and he often covered in ticks that I had to spend ages removing one by one.

Most of all, I was a kid and had to do most of this on my own.

None of that seems to work. There was always more I could have done. When he became sick in his old age and because of his health issues I should have paid even more attention to him.

I stay alone, I want to rent out a room, my gf don’t allow, how

One of my friend is currently renting on her own, but her rental is ending next month. Her new house will only be ready Sep/October this year, so she is looking to rent somewhere for just a few months until then (her family is not in SG so she doesn’t have anywhere else to stay).

Since I stay alone with extra room to spare, she asked if she can rent at my place.

I had a chat with my gf about this, and she wasn’t happy because it’ll just be me and my friend at the house (my gf doesn’t stay with me due to family reasons).

So I asked her if I were to rent out the room to a guy is she ok? And she also said no, because she wants to come over as and when, and having a random guy around will be uncomfortable for her.

I understand her view, but to me it’s such a waste to not rent out the room since it is extra income. Need some advice on how to navigate this situation?

Netizens’ comments

What if the shoe is on the other foot? Would you be okay if your gf has a house and rents out a room to a guy friend?