My GF just told me about an STD

My gf and I have had unprotected intercourse for about 2 months now and she just told me she’s had herpes for about 10 years. She currently does not have an outbreak, and says she has somewhat managed it.

Do I have a right to be worried and consider my options? I feel like a lot of the advice here would support me staying with her, but this is something I’ve always feared and stayed far from.

Im not promiscuous, and I’ve actually tried hard not to get this. I get it, I should have worn protection. So I’m not here to be scolded or reminded.

Just wondering if it’s reasonable that I’m considering leaving. Lots of worried thoughts about this right now. Is there any way I can get tested if there is no outbreak?

Netizen’s comments

Okay, so two separate issues here – trust, and risk.

I’ve had genital herpes type 2 for almost 20 years, and always advocate for people telling before sex happens. There are loads of people who say they don’t unless a relationship gets serious, but that’s illogical, because if it’s serious, there’s trust.

She should have told you, and I’m sorry she didn’t. You have an absolute right to be angry and upset. She doesn’t get to make the unilateral decision about your health and your body.

Your risk is probably lower than you think it is, if that helps ease your fears. If you are male, and all you do is avoid sex when she has symptoms, there is a 4% chance that you could get this a year, if you have sex 2-3x a week.

I don’t know what “somewhat manages” mean – that’s really vague. Is she on daily suppressive therapy with antivirals? Did you use condoms?

I will say that not only promiscuous people get this, so you should be asking all your partners to test before sex if STIs are a big fear of yours.

You can get a blood test now – make sure it’s a type specific IgG blood test. It can take up to 3 months to show positive, because it looks for antibodies, and those can take time to develop. 70% test positive by 6 weeks.

I was supposed to propose to my girlfriend next week and I just found out she has been screwing my brother

I had a whole thing planned out. We’ve been dating for seven years, since we were 15.

This afternoon I get a call from my brother’s wife sobbing that she found a video of him sleeping with my girlfriend.

So now I’m trying to decide if I show her the ring and tell her about the plans before I break up with her or not.

Netizens’ comments

• Just make sure to break it off for good. That toxicity will never heal.

• That’s awful my dude. If anything, be glad you found out now before a marriage certificate and children. Best of luck to you.

• Confirm the video. Return the ring and get your money back. Return your gf to the streets. Work with your SIL to tell family and friends about your brother.

• Fake propose and tell her after she says yes. She will get excited thinking she gets to marry you then you can swat her down hard.

I’m a newly wed. Met and married my husband after a few years of dating after school. I seldom visit his place for meals during our dating days because both of his parents had been working. They have retired not long ago and my mil started to cook more often and invite us over for meals.

I notice a few times after eating there, I will suffer a serious of bad diarrhoea the next day. I couldn’t go to work and would have to visit a doctor and I would need to take at least a day off because of this.

Other than avoiding raw egg yolks in dishes, I pretty much have a strong stomach and rarely have this happen to me until I start to eat at my mil’s place. I deduced it’s because of my mil’s food hygiene. She don’t allow me or others to touch or help out in her kitchen other than washing up the dishes so the food prep was solely done by her. I notice she chops up cooked meat inside the toilet, with the chopping board on the floor, instead of at the spacious counter top which absolutely disgusts me.

I do not know if this is normal practice for some people as my family doesn’t do this. I mentioned this to my husband each time when I am suffering from extreme stomach pain and he doesn’t think chopping meat inside the toilet was the issue. But he also can’t explain why I LS like crap the next day after having dinner there. I don’t want to be rude but I really don’t wish to continue eating there anymore if this continues. I have tried avoiding the cut cooked meats but I still LS the next day.

What can I do? Help!

A small intro. I’m a 25 year old male currently work full time and overtime in the security field. Not much to note other then overworking myself.

My gf is 23 years old with a list of self-diagnosed issues.. Including claiming to have DID but only when an adult talk comes around then she acts like a 5yr old. Or passes out when confronted with her own behavior.

I have been with my gf for almost 2 years now and she is my first partner. Things were going great at the start but like a love blind youth with my own family issues, she talked me into getting an apartment together with her after only 6 months. At the time we both had Okayish jobs and the promise was to split the bills. Well moving time comes and she doesn’t want to work her gig jobs alone so I ride along on them. No biggie more time together

Jumping forward a year. Ive jumped jobs for better pay and career advancement, working 60 hours a week and cleaning the house. While she quits jobs faster then she can get them cause they are hard (retail) or they dont respect me (she they tell her what to do). We have a joint account for bills but she spends the money on fast food or game streaming supplies, claiming she will make that her job. Being supportive i get her set up but make the rule she needs a normal job until streaming makes her more Than her day job. She agrees.

Jumping to today. Our lease is almost up, she lost a cushy manager job I pretty much handed her (whole blown out resume which the owner loved) on the 2nd day cause she agreed to 10 hours then told them she can’t work more than 6. She’s been without a job for 2 months and does nothing but make messes and play vr chat. She will sit in piles of trash and whine at me to clean it up. I currently work 2 jobs 7 days a week to make ends meet and am dead at the end of the day.

I do love her very much but the effort of caring for her and keeping things afloat is causing enough stress my liver is struggling (according to my doctor) and my hair is falling out. Im not sure if i should ask her to move back home when I renew the lease or what. If i bring it up to her she starts crying about me being just like her exs and i hated her this whole time.