I’m about a year into NS and I don’t have anyone I can confide to, so I’m doing it here.

Before NS, I was generally very chill and a happy-go-lucky kinda guy. Now, I’m easily irritable and annoyed at every single thing.

I bottle up all the bad emotions and experiences I faced into myself and it’s gotten to a point where I start to vent these very set of emotions onto my parents.

Whenever they are talking to me, I feel uninterested and upset at them for no good reason, and I talk to them in a very annoyed and sarcastic way.

I know deep down that I shouldn’t be talking to them like this but I just can’t control myself anymore.

I have a bunkmate who is a complete jerk. He acts and talks smart every single time but whenever he makes a mistake, he doesn’t admit it.

He has a problem with almost everything I’m doing and I honestly feel I’m going to punch him the next time he acts up again.

Long story short, I’m more anti-social now and I became more wary of others. I feel frustrated every single minute and I don’t like me as a person anymore.

Thanks for reading.

Netizens’ comments

To anyone who is gonna tell OP to man up. Manning up means nothing. Just because OP might be leaning on the edge of being a social pariah doesn’t suggest anything about his masculinity nor his capability to function in a professional setting.

Sure his current behaviour might lead to some concerning issues in the future, but you also need to understand that people react to different environments in their own ways. It is not logical to insinuate that OP’s struggle in NS would lead to a struggle in real life.

If you are successful in Singapore, would you be successful in the western side of the world? No one can say for certain.

In a world where cancel culture is the norm and people’s heightened sensitivities to toxicity is starting to dictate workplace etiquette, do you really think he can learn anything from the realities NS would supposedly instil in him? I’d honestly say, let the kid figure things out on his own.

People who find struggle adapting to the toxicities of such an environment would normally have a significantly better time out there where toxic masculinity tends to be noticed and punished rather than sucked up.

To OP, just try your best to survive. Nothing that happens in NS matters. My best advice would be to limit your social interaction to avoid unnecessary repercussions. I was in a similar position and I found that the less I gave a shit, the less I suffered.

I found my ex-girlfriends OF and now I feel like shit. Help

Me(20) and ex (19) gf of 2 years broke up a few months ago, it was hard but I’m eventually starting to get over her now.

Yesterday I was going through my social media and looked at my followers, I saw my ex still followed me. I know I shouldnt have been nosy but I decided to click on her account.

I checked her updated profile and I saw a onlyfans link and link to another profile. At this point I knew I should of went back, I’m sick to my stomach that I clicked on it and it made my heart drop.

I remember while we were going out, we always used to make jokes about her starting an onlyfans and she always used to say she was too shy and she would never do it. Obviously I understand, we are broken up and she can do whatever she wants of course but it’s still just tough to see.

I scrolled through her posts, knowing well I shouldn’t have and even came across a post of her talking about how shes still in love with her previous ex boyfriend, a guy who she told me she hated. Again everything normal just hard to see at this point. Just seeing her posting all these suggestive photos makes me sad and jealous.

It’s been 24 hours now and I can’t stop thinking about it. I know it’s stupid and we are broken up, I just feel like I read someone secret diary and now I know too much. I wish I could go back yesterday and not look at my stupid followers….

Any advice appreciated.

Tomorrow is my 32nd birthday, and I’ve never felt more alone.

I will receive no birthday wishes, unless I announce on social media that it’s my birthday. I have no friends, let alone anyone that is willing to actually plan something for me.

I will spend the day in bed, watching whatever I can to take my mind off the day, and will overindulge in pizza when I’m already way overweight.

Life sucks and then one day you die.

Netizens’ comments

• happy birthday. let this year be the one you realize you are the best company you can have and fuck everyone else.

and make sure you get yourself a cake. birthday cakes matter.

• My birthday in December was spent alone, I had gone no contact with my father who tormented me in my youth, days prior, I did the same to my mother 15 years prior. My girlfriend passed from a brain tumor that same month. I sat in my room, alone, did nothing. I recieved no presents, and questioned why I was even alive. We all have our low points, just do whatever makes you happy for your day, make plans, don’t wait for others to make them. Buy a cake, your favourite kind. Watch some movies, ones you’ve seen dozens of times and still make you happy.

Happy birthday stranger.

Oh ya, do not worry about over indulging on your birthday, that’s the day you’re allowed to without guilt.