my guy friend and I have been friends on and off for the past 4 years. We met in school and he ended up really fancy me. He asked to kiss me once, but I told him no because I was in a relationship.

However, we had such a deep connection. Fast forward to 2 years ago he drove me down to his place and I slept over at his place.

I ended up getting really drunk for the first time and he came on to me. He kissed me and I passed out on his bed with him. Only one problem…I had just started a relationship. I cheated. I wouldn’t have done any of that if I wasn’t drunk. The following day he wanted to discuss what had happened, but I refused.

We never spoke of it again and I stopped talking to him because of what I did until now.

Presently, we reconnected. Two weeks ago we got coffee and talked for two hours. Catching up of sorts. It felt like no time had passed. He bought me the coffee and he opened his car door for me. It felt very date esque. Since then we have been texting every day, sending each other songs, and today we hung out again.

After interrogating I found out he is in a relationship with a really nice girl, Jill, for 4 months…. immediately I feel wrong about the whole thing because he has liked me for the longest time. Why didn’t he tell me before when we were getting coffee. And we had just been playing card games, drinking the bottle of wine he got me hours before, and just started dinner.

I ask further questions, stating “soo your girlfriend is fine if you hang out with other women who are just your friends” and he says “of course”…. “If she wasn’t that would just be controlling”

A man who wanted to try his luck buying a lottery in Taiwan won the million-dollar jackpot, after the man won he immediately kneel down on the spot to propose marriage, shouting “the marriage fund is available”.

According to the description of “Lai Jiu Fa Business”, the winners of the million-dollar prize were a pair of childhood sweethearts in their 30s. On the day of the big prize, they worshipped and prayed at the Tui Gong Temple.

There was a betting shop next to it, so he decided to go to the lottery shop to buy scratch-off lottery cards to try his luck. After buying the card he left only to return back a few hours later to ask the shop to help them confirm the winning prize.

The man won the jackpot prize of NT$1 million which is equivalent to over $48,000 Singapore dollars.

The woman said she was grateful to the Earth God for making her a bride this year, adding that she plans to have a baby next year.

Unlike Singapore Pools, Taiwan’s lottery system is on another level, the company had once organized a lottery event which is NT$880 million. Which is around $42 million Singapore dollar.

As the title states, my wife has gained upwards of 30kgs in the last 3 years. Her entire body type has changed completely, and I’m finding it almost impossible to be attracted to he and of course there is almost no “exercise”.

I feel like a complete jerk, and I never want to tell someone how their bodies should look. I still love her, don’t have any intentions of cheating on her, etc. But as hard as I have been trying to embrace and be attracted to her physically as she is now, I can’t seem to do it, and I don’t know what to do anymore.

I keep a healthy calorie count, and am also the one who tends to do most of the cooking. I always try to make health-conscious meals and snacks for her to have. She eats them and seems to enjoy them, but will also always buy or have chocolate, chips, ice cream, etc. that she seems to be eating consistently between and after almost every meal.

I also suggest we work out together when we have time. She’ll sometimes reluctantly agree, but then is very quick to cancel or find a reason not to when the time comes.

She has been experiencing some small indicators of her health declining since the weight gain (back pain, shortness of breath when walking, etc.) that she will always make a point to say obviously has to do with something else. Bringing up the possibility that it could be related to weight is a recipe for an intense argument, and I don’t take that route anymore.

Every once in a while, she’ll say she wants to lose weight, and I say that I will support her in whatever way she would be comfortable with. But every time, after either a week or two, the effort is dropped either because of a holiday, some friend event or birthday party, etc. And then it goes right back to the same way it was.

I’m trying to read as many articles as I can for how I can reframe my mind to change what I can find physically attractive. I try to let go as hard as I can to what my initial physical attraction to her was. But I can’t, and I just find myself increasingly depressed and frustrated.

I’m kind of at the end of my rope here. I would be more than happy to go to a therapist for myself, or maybe a couples councilor if that would be helpful. Though I fear that even bringing it up in a counseling session would start a huge fight.

I simply feel defeated and a bit lost at this point. Any insights into similar circumstances, recommendations for how to approach this, etc. would be so, so appreciated.

Thank you!

So a bit of context, I am in a Cougar-cub relationship, meaning old girl young boy. This type of relationship is getting popular I think, but still looked weirdly at. But my family is open-minded so it’s no issue.

Met this 39-year-old lady through tinder, she’s very petite, blonde hair decent i guess, and im very tall and lean with long hair, and we both have our fair share of tattoos and share the same skater vibe so we instantly hit it off we have been in 3 dates, waiting on a fourth due to her being in the process of moving to a new place. She works as a dance, gymnastics and choreography instructor and looks amazing, and im a boring 22-year-old geek.

So I really like this lady and honestly, even though it’s fun I’ve been looking to not be single for a while but just haven’t clicked right yet with anyone. And I would go all-in with her except for a couple of issues I’ve noticed.

Through our month of texting and during our dates she never brought up her having a son, I only found out when I finally decided to open an Instagram account and follow her since I’m not a social media person but she is. And a couple of photos down there she is with her 18 yo son on his birthday. I have no issue with her having a son but I do find it weird that it never came up in conversation. Maybe he’s not living with her or didn’t want to scare me I don’t know.

And the second thing that concerns me is that she recently (like 3 months ago) got out of a relationship with a 23 yo guy, and when that came up during our first date, she went on a real rant about it, maybe coz it was still fresh. Everyone likes gossip so it was fine, but it does raise a flag with me like, maybe it’s too soon for her to get into another relationship like that breakup was partly the reason why she decided to move.

Here are what netizens think:

It’s been a month and three dates. I personally think you are overthinking things. There’s no rush to get to the relationship stage is there? Let things bubble along naturally.

You may find out along the way that she’s not what you’re looking for anyway but you don’t know her well enough yet to make that decision.

I find it very common on first dates that people ask, how was your last relationship, how it ended or why and how u feel about it.

The fact that she does not mention her son is not a big deal especially if hes 18. I myself usually always mention that I have a child but In my profiles But some people like to keep it separate.

Blindsided divorce with cheating. I was wondering if you ever had an ex reach out that you thought you would never hear from again.

Found out she was cheating less than one year into our marriage. She was immediately cold and wanted nothing to do with me. Our relationship had no fighting, no abuse. Everything seemed so wonderful. I guess she had communication issues. Im posting this wondering if anyone has ever had an ex reach out years later acknowledging there behavior or even apologizing.

I don’t expect to ever hear from her again as we haven’t spoken since September other than our lawyers finalizing the divorce.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yes! It was an incredible experience – he had been high most of our relationship and emotionally abusive. 15 years after our breakup, he asked if he could talk with me because he had an issue in his current relationship and felt like I would be a sympathetic listener. During the course of our call, he apologized for how he had acted 15 years earlier. I was gobsmacked! I think I shook for 2 days. He passed away a few years later and I’m eternally grateful that we made our peace before he died.

• your ex sounds like a completely different person from the one you married… did she ever apologize and ask to try to make things work for planning that trip to cheat???

• I had a similar situation. Married for 2 years and she up and left me for another guy who was married with kids. She had major communication issues because I thought things were great, she let every little thing bother her and never told me. Honestly I would love an apology from her for not communicating well in our relationship and hurting me as bad as she did but I don’t expect anything. It’s been 7 years since the split. Honestly I’m ok if she never reaches out because the only thing better than an apology is to never hear from her again. Significantly better off without her in my life.

My wife and I have been married for 21 years and dated for 4 years before.

I continue to have a very difficult time getting over a cheating/lying incident that occurred while we were dating, about a year before we were married. The issues I have are continuing resentment and negative feelings towards my wife because of how she went about dealing with this episode.

To add some context, here is a little backstory. Dated my wife while in college. It was amazing. Experiencing a new college town and sharing an apartment. About 18 months into living with each other, the dreaded cheating occurred.

She started an argument and stormed off stating she just needed space and to go back home (8 hrs drive away). The next day she told me on a phone call, she went out to some bars with friends that night and was surprised by her ex-boyfriend.

I could tell she was feeling bad about something, and she admitted that her ex-boyfriend had kissed her. After talking with her, disappointed, I said that if that’s all that happened things would be ok and we could work it out. She drove back to our place that day to reassure me.

Fast forward 1-month later schoolmates of ours tell me that I need to talk with my girlfriend. Our friends Filled me in that they heard from her ex-boyfriend that she hooked up and cheated on me. I confronted her immediately about this.

She left class to find me and relay her side, stating that, nothing happened more than the kiss she admitted to. She vehemently denied our friend’s accusations and stated that they were all lying. Further more she encouraged me to quit hanging out with those friends as they were involved in stuff she was concerned about.

Being my best friend, I decided that her word deserved more credit than my buddies and chose to believe her. Fast forward 10 years Married for 9 years, with 3 amazing kids. We are having a date night enjoying each other’s company. We get on the subject of sharing secrets and She decided to share.

She shared that she did in fact cheat on me back in school with her ex-boyfriend. That it happened a long time ago and I had no right to have feelings on it.

I was in shock. Not only was this new reality devastating, I was told that it was not ok for me to have feelings on the matter. None the less I swallowed that information and my feelings and let it fester for about 5 years. After 5 years of not knowing the whole truth, just bit and pieces of what my true reality is, I started to have issues with resentment and negative feelings towards my wife.

I attempted multiple times to communicate with her (admittingly badly sometimes) and ask questions in order to have some sense of what my reality is and get to a better place. She continues to be non-communicative about the whole thing. Stating that she will never talk with me about what happened.

That it is in the past where it would stay. I feel like she has crushed my reality. That I live in a shell of a relationship with many unanswered questions. Ultimately there has been very little acknowledgment and ownership of what happened on her side.