A man recently took money from his wife’s account and lend it to her sister. The man feels guilty for doing so without telling his wife. But his sister is the real demon behind it.

Here is the story:

My wife and I have joined finances but she has savings account her grandpa set up for her before he passed. It’s around 40k in savings. We both work IT jobs and get paid fairly well.

She stated to me that that money is for either an emergency or in case we plan on buying our own house. She said that in case I need money for an emergency I’m allowed to use it. I also have access to the account but so far I didn’t use anything.

2 months ago my sister asked me to lend her 5k because she wanted to pay for her wedding dress but her card had expired and kept declining. I lend her 5k but since I didn’t have the full amount of my own paycheck, I borrowed money from my wife’s savings. My sister said she’d pay me back once her new card was ready which would take less than two days. I didn’t tell my wife this because I’d replace the money in two days.

It’s been 2 months now and my sister is putting off on giving back the money she borrowed. She keeps finding excuses on why she couldn’t give it back every time. My wife hasn’t checked the savings account in ages but what if she happens to check it and she figures out 5k is missing?

My best friend says I am honest with her and I should accept the consequences of my own actions for not notifying my wife and not letting her know about the money missing. AITA?

I feel very guilty for this and for trusting my sister.