I started dating this 30 y.o guy about 10 months ago. He kept pursuing me for many months before us officially dated. His behaviour used to be incredibly strange. I thought maybe I’m just being paranoid due to all the hurt experienced during the past. Ignored all of my worries and still kept talking to him — started noticing things like him only being available after 8 pm.

He would randomly yell out while on the phone “I’M WITH MY SISTER”. Or say “I’m with my mom” when I will hear a female’s voice in the background. Long periods of ghosting me and then coming back as if nothing happened.

Soon he admitted “I’m sorry. Currently living with this older woman because I have no choice. Her house is close to my work so it’s simply convenient. She cannot know about you. By the way, she knows I’m not attracted to her.”

He soon blamed everything on me. Accused me of denying our love. Lack of sleeping together. What the heck. Blamed his behaviour on me because I didn’t want to be exclusive or keep meeting up with him after 8 pm.

Why would I want to be exclusive with someone who’s so secretive? camming only in the car because of “business trips” Not only that he lied to me about his name as well! Searched his number and found his social media… it turns out he’s married!

Right now, he’s ghosting and giving me the silent treatment until I come to my “senses” smh. Usually, he always comes back over and over again. Not this time blocked him via phone company! Feeling tempted to tell his wife but don’t know if it’s the right thing to do or not.

Now I feel just incredibly stupid for everything thinking back. Lots of regret just about everything.

A woman shared how she wants to give up her career and the success that she has found, in exchange for being a traditional housewife.

Here is the story:

I want to quit my job and become a traditional housewife.

Not the juiciest confession, honestly. But it’s hard to communicate to even my fiancé without getting weird looks.

I met my fiancé back in 2010, but we just on and off dated until 2021, when we began dating fully. He proposed last year.

Throughout all of our history I have been a career-focused woman. I am extremely proud of myself for the success I’ve found, but it’s somewhat unfulfilling. Before I met him I never would’ve thought of it, I probably would’ve laughed any implication of the sort off.

He’s a sweet, loving, kind gentleman. Gentleman is the only way to describe it, he’s respectful of me and my wishes. He’s dreamy in the 1950s ideal nuclear husband way. And god, I never knew that was my type before him.

We have a beautiful home that I enjoy taking care of. His reaction to the foods I cook and bake, or the little projects I take up gives me a million times more joy than any milestone or achievement I’ve had over the course of my career.

Worst of all, I know that I could quit and he could easily support our household, no if ands or buts about it. He’s successful and makes enough to support us easily. But I can’t quit. My family perceives me as a headstrong, hardcore feminist, career woman. And it’s not that I’m not, I firmly believe in gender equality and I’m damn proud of what I’ve done.

But I desperately crave being a stay-at-home mum, the picturesque “housewife” image. I want nothing more than to cook, clean, care for the children and take care of my husband when he isn’t working. But my family, friends, even his friends would judge me terribly for doing so.

I know I just can’t do this, and it’s making me somewhat sad. Just wanted to get it off my chest.

Editor’s note: If you can dream it, you can achieve it. If you want it, you better go get it.

My husband’s mom has been generally sickly the last few years but has gone downhill this last year. She’s a widow and it’s gotten to the point where it’s not good for her to live alone. However, I do not want her living with us.

We have had a volatile relationship since my husband and I started dating 6 years ago. She’s got 3 kids but my husband is her “golden child” and to her, I’ve never been anything more than the girl who stole him away, despite all my attempts to bond with her.

My husband and his two siblings got together last week to talk about her and came to the decision that they wanted to approach her about selling her house and getting some help. Well, when they did this she immediately said “I want to live with Aaron” (my husband, fake name of course for privacy).

Aaron loves his mom and has always had a hard time saying no to her so his response was he’d love to have her but just needed to talk to me first. I was against it the second he mentioned it to me. Physically she’s got some ailments but mentally she is still 100% there, so I know her living with us would just be her picking fights with me and trying to baby him and acting like I don’t exist. I don’t think I can handle years of someone undermining me.

She’s sick so if it were just Aaron and I, I would be more open to it but we have two kids and I don’t want them witnessing dysfunction and fighting. My husband and I work really hard on making sure we never argue in front of them and our home is a really stable environment, and the idea of that being disrupted gives me a lot of anxiety.

I explained all of this to Aaron and he was offended and upset at first but couldn’t deny that her and I would butt head and it wouldn’t be good for the kids. He ended up telling his siblings first and they’re both really mad at us.

One of them is a lot younger and not in the position to have her live with them and the other has a travelling job. She could talk to her job and remain local if she wanted to but she doesn’t want to make that adjustment. They just think we’re the “easiest” option even though we’re the only ones with kids.

Aaron just yesterday told my mother-in-law that it may not be the best idea to have her live with us and she completely lost it and called me selfish and a horrible wife. Now that entire side of the family is angry with us and my husband is under so much stress and is feeling a lot of guilt.

I’m starting to second guess myself because I don’t want him to secretly harbor resentment since this is more my decision than his.

What should I do?

A woman shared her story on how her husband is having a ‘sick’ hobby, she found out he has a collection of woman’s underwear tucked hidden behind the backboard of the bed while doing spring cleaning.

Here is the story:

I’m married to my husband for 4 years and I found out that he has been keeping a collection of woman’s underwear at the backboard of the bed we sleep in.

He had each of his underwear wrapped in a zip-lock bag and labelled each of the bags with many different woman’s names. I saw my name was on one of the bags as well. I suddenly realised it was one of my old pairs of panties that went missing.

I confronted him and he said:

“Some people collect Pokemon cards some collect stamps, your husband collects memories”.

I asked him what kind of memories was he keeping, he said that it is the collection of his ex-gf’s panties and when I ask him why was it stored in a zip-lock bag.

He said: “IT WAS TO SEALLLLLLLLLLLL IN THE FLAVOUR“.

I am lost for words, This is one of the most disgusting things I have seen in my life. and yes, he did emphasise the word ‘seal”.

I told him to throw it away, he agreed too quickly and he went to the rubbish chute to throw it. But he took too long and I realised his car keys were missing!!!

I went down to the carpark to look for him and the car was gone!!! I thought he did not want to throw it away and hide it in his car.

I called him and he said that he is buying some Macdonald as an apology. But I still doubt if he has really thrown it away.

A month went by to CNY eve and I got suspicious of him after he started to have the habit of buying Mcdonald or cakes for me. I checked on his credit card statement while he was sleeping and found out that he has paid for a self-storage $58 a month.

I choose to turn a blind eye as long as I am not sleeping with the underwear of 11 other women near my bed.

This is the worse Chinese New Year ever.