Is it a red flag?
My sis is 22. She’s seeing this guy for a few months. He’s 26, an old repeat student and jobless. Before my sister starts her job in another country, he proposed to her with a measly tiny diamond ring. The diamond is so small I think it’s not even 0.2 carat.
I told my sis to not accept his proposal and just start her job without him. For context I often see my sister crying her eyes out while on the phone so I know they have frequent fights. He always accuse her of cheating when she’s just home with me. He also have been making my sister pay when out on dates and have been trying to make my sister give him money when they go out. He’s also extremely rude to me when he shows up at our place. I hate him so much and I can’t wait for my sister to get rid of him.
How do I get rid of this jerk?
Here are what netizens think:
- Sleep with him and send your sis a video of both of you having fun.
- You can give her all the advise but if she’s stubborn , she will never listen to instead will assume you are jealous regardless of your good intentions. Whatever it is, leave her be, it’s her choice if she wants that jack S One day, after years of burn out, she will open her eyes big big. This is the time when. She needs your sisterly support. Be there for her when the time comes.
- Just ditch him off, cut all contacts. If hes not rich, medium or low income but works hard its different. Don’t look at the quality of gold as the amount of love for someone, look at his character as a person. But this guy is sucking all her hard earned money out while being jobless. Big no.
- Ask your sister what made her attracted to him in the first place and what kind of future she sees with a man who is able-bodied, yet prefers to remain unemployed and dependent on her to support him long-term. If she can’t think of anything, try to convince her that she needs to let go of the relationship. There is a limit to how much we can do for a loved one who remains delusional and refuses to acknowledge that there is no hope and future, but only a lot of stress, mental deterioration and heartbreak in such a relationship.