How many of you lost your relationship because of your friends?
Sometimes when our relationship are down in the doldrums, we really need a place to rant and let go of our frustrations. Sometimes we might even have second thoughts about the relationship and feels like breaking up or letting the past affect us and our negativity.
Do you think it’s helpful then for our friends to be encouraging us to breakup? But do they know the hurt that I’ve to go through afterwards? And I have to bear them all alone.. I don’t know whether it’s the right move anymore.
Sisters
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for eight years now. We’ve been through a lot together, and I’ve grown to love her and her family. But her sisters have been a huge source of frustration for us over the years, and I often feel like they are the number 1 sabotager of our relationship and marriage.
It’s not that her sisters are mean or anything like that. They mean well, but they often give ill-advised advice that puts ideas into my girlfriend’s head which often lead to arguments between us. And it’s not just us, I’ve heard from other couples about how their sisters have caused major problems in their relationships as well.
It starts innocently enough. Her sisters will often give her advice on how to handle a situation or give her advice on what she should do in relationships. They’ve even gone as far as to tell her what type of men she should be with and what kind of things she should do to make her happy.
Unfortunately, this advice often goes against what I think is best for our relationship. So when she takes their advice, it can end up causing a lot of tension in the relationship. And it’s not just between me and my girlfriend, it can also affect our whole family.
For instance, my girlfriend’s sisters have suggested that she move out of our house because they think it’s not a good relationship. This caused a huge argument between us and it put a strain on our relationship. It also caused a lot of stress within our family because her sisters felt like they were being left out.
My girlfriend’s sisters also put a lot of pressure on her to get married. Every time we talk about marriage, they come up with all these reasons why we should hurry up and get married. They make it sound like it’s a matter of life and death and they even talk about what kind of wedding we should have and how much money we should spend.
It’s frustrating because I know my girlfriend loves her sisters and she wants to please them, but at the same time, I feel like they are sabotaging our relationship. I want to tell my girlfriend how I feel, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings or make her choose between us.
At the end of the day, I know the most important thing is that my girlfriend and I have a strong relationship and that we are happy together. But it’s hard to do that when her sisters are always interfering and giving her advice that doesn’t really help the situation.