A guy shared a story of how he got married to his Thai wife a few years back but he feels that she does not love him and is at a loss of what to do.
Here is the story
“I met my Thai wife in Thailand four years ago. She is 32, I am 50 and we’ve been married three years – my second marriage. I have given my wife most of the things she has wanted financially, but I am finding this a strain on our resources.
The problem is, she is expected to help her family back home and this is where some of our money goes. My wife has cut down on giving out money, but she still wants to support her parents and her younger brother so they have a better life.
My wife wants to send her young brother overseas to either the States or UK to be educated there, but I know this can be expensive and I feel why should I support this? She has already helped her older sisters. I need to be able to retire at 65 and be comfortable financially.
We have just bought property in Thailand so that we have got somewhere to live if we want to leave this country. We both work, but I am the main source of income.
I have given everything possible to my wife, but I feel I am just not getting enough love and support from her. I have tried to tell her how I feel but she says things like, “You can get another lady if you like, but you have no money” and “You are old.” I find this hurtful and feel like she doesn’t want to improve our relationship.
She is not as interested in bedtime activities as I am. At first the intimacy was fine (we were able to experiment a bit) but she says I was controlling her and it seems now she wants to control the relationship totally. I think she’d be happy with no intimacy, but I have said there is no marriage without intimacy.
She is not very affectionate, doesn’t like being touched a lot – unlike me. I have suggested that we could go to counselling, but I am not sure if she would actually go, as she doesn’t like to talk about personal problems with others.
I feel I am not being treated fairly as I think my wife can be very selfish. I really don’t know whether this relationship is worth saving. I have already forgiven her once about an affair at work with a married man after 18 months of marriage.
At the time I asked her why, and she said she had never had love throughout her life and wanted more.
I am a very loving, caring and understanding person and feel I have given her all the love I can give but that I am getting nothing in return. She has told me I am very good-hearted and I think she is sincere, but sometimes I feel a fool.”
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