My 28m wife 32f keeps throwing divorce in my face over everything. I just agreed and left.
I am currently staying with my sister.
My wife and I have been together for 5 years married for 4. We had known each other for years prior. We have 1 kid together who is 4.
I am the primary breadwinner in the house as she is a SAHM. It was her choice not to go back to work.
For the last year and a half, we have been having arguments about 1-2 times a month. To be clear I do help out with our daughter, I clean, cook, and am involved with both of them.
The first time she said she wanted a divorce was when we got into an argument when my sister called and asked if she could stay with us for a bit as she was having relationship problems(ironic). I said she could. My wife was not happy about that.
I pointed out that her friend stayed with us a couple of months prior for 5 weeks and didn’t do anything around the house. Plus she was just there. No discussion no nothing. She was a stranger to me and my daughter. My sister is lovely and has a great relationship with our daughter and I thought my wife was as well.
She ended up staying with us for a week helping out around the house, cooking, cleaning, and watching out daughter when needed.
I thought we both forgave each other and moved on.
The fights are usually over something small 90% are not started by me. I have suggested therapy and counseling but she always said she/we never needed it.
Well, I had it last night. She picked a fight saying I was spending too much time at work. And that she feels abandoned and that I’m not a good father ended her rant with I want a divorce.
I stood up and told her that the only reason I work so much is because she can’t stop spending our money on things we don’t need or use. She refused to get a job or go to school to help her out.
I provide for the family. For my daughter. I’m always at her important dates, functions, doctor’s appointments anything she needs. She refused to get help through therapy or counseling. I don’t want this anymore ill have my lawyer send her the papers when she writes it up. I got my daughter’s things and left with her to my sisters.
It has been 2 days and she keeps calling and texting saying she is sorry. She didn’t mean it. She wants to go to counseling and therapy. She needs me. She misses me. Etc.
I don’t know what to do. I love her. She is a good mother. But I can’t do this anymore. Internet strangers, please help.