My wifes obsession with plastic surgery has made me lose attraction for her
I’ve been married to my wife for 6 years now. When we got married, she said she wanted to do minor cosmetic procedures on her face to help with her insecurities. She had been insecure her whole life so I was as supportive as I could’ve been. She got lip filler and Botox on her face.
After a few months, she got more lip filler and her lips looked scary to me, but she was very happy with them so I didn’t say anything.
Next she wanted to get her chest done. Again, she was happy with how they turned out but I thought they looked weird.
They were so big and stiff, and my wife is a petite and skinny woman so it just didn’t look proportional to the rest of her body. But again, it made her so happy so I was fine with it.
Last year, she said she was going to get a BBL. This time I actually told her I wasn’t going to support her on this one because it’s a dangerous procedure.
There was a story on the internet that went viral a month or so prior about a woman who died during her BBL procedure. I was scared. I asked her if she could see a therapy or psychiatrist about her body dysmorphia before doing this but she refused and said it hadn’t helped when she tried it before.
She said she was doing it with her own money anyway so I didn’t have a say in it. I shut up and took care of her after the procedure.
I was so glad she was safe and the procedure went well but in all honestly, it was horribly done. The doctor made her hips so wide. Her thighs and waist were really small so again, it just didn’t look proportional.
Now the problem is I genuinely don’t find her physically attractive anymore and I don’t know what to do about it. I want nothing more than to be madly attracted to her as I was years ago.
But everything she has done to her body makes her look slightly terrifying to me. I love her and don’t think that will change, but I hate getting intimate with her now. I don’t enjoy it but her libido has increased since the BBL (probably because she’s more confident now) meanwhile mine has basically tanked.
I thought of talking to her but I’m not sure what good that will do besides make her feel bad. There’s nothing that can be done now anyway.
She’s confident and happy in her body for the first time in her life and I don’t want to ruin it, so I obviously won’t ever say anything to her about this. I love every other aspect of our relationship so that’s just going to have to be enough.
I obviously can’t say this to anyone in real life so here I am. Just wanted to get this out.