A relationship before marriage is like testing whether he/she is suitable for you.
Firstly there must be some sort of admiration, gradually love, while you get to know more on the characters and behaviors of the partner.
Marriage is not merely an agreement signing ceremony, careful observations must be carried out during a relationship to prevent future regrets.
During this, both must agree on their goals, earning potential, spending behaviours, living attitudes, what they wanna be after marriage and how much they earn to support the family, their family relatives, etc.
Be realistic
love is also practical after the infatuation phase.
Girls, pls wake up from having high expectation that your partner would be able to pay for 50% of your expenses, most likely they don’t.
But most of the time, all of you girls’ savings will go into the housing and renovation, leaving you with almost nothing to spend for yourselves. Worse still, when you have kids, you need to juggle most house chores in addition to your full-time job.
Do not expect that your husband will be understanding, most will not and will just indulge in their side hobbies after work and leave you to struggle alone.
Yes, most guys hate it when it comes to doing housework and taking care of kids especially if they are very career-minded and do not have much patience for kids. They will just dump everything to you and expect you not to complain about it.
These kind of guys are not worthy of your love even though you might love him deeply, because eventually you will choose to leave him due to being physically and mentally exhausted. You also have to be mentally prepared for any potential nasty treatments from his family, if you are lucky enough it would just be minor nit-picking here and there, and if you are unlucky, the guys family will expect to spend your money as well.
Girls, do not go after guys who expect you to be the one contributing all the time, it is not gonna work if they choose to be just a 花盆.
Find the right guy who will not bring you trouble.