Resignation problem, Resignation letter was “not acknowledged” instead of “rejected”, asked to do it after long weekend because unfair to have holiday during notice period.

Because they want to follow company’s rule instead of MOM’s rule, they let me report to MOM.

Reported to MOM through Employment Act Violation, currently trapped because notice period is more than 2 months even though I am a low level employee.

Wondering if I should just pay in lieu of notice since it’s so toxic? In the meantime, is there anything else I can do other than reporting to MOM?

Help.

Netizens’ comments

• Resignation doesn’t need to be acknowledged or accepted. It’s just recommended as proof of when you gave notice. Just follow up by email to record that you submitted notice.

• No company has the right to decline, reject, or ignore your resignation. Even if they refuse to look at the letter, don’t open your email, it’s submitted and you can leave right at the end of your notice period.
  It’s a one-person decision. You want out, you get to be out.

• Bruh there is nothing unfair. That’s nonsense from the company. You just note down the date you sent them the resignation, calculate the last day, then just don’t turn up afterwards.

“I was out drinking and eating and I saw my friend’s wife hanging out with a few guys but she did not recognize me in the pub. I was working previously overseas and missed my friend’s wedding, the wife knew about the husband’s best friend name is “Ryan” but have not seen me before.

I continued drinking and I notice she was kissing and hugging one of the guys in the group. I did not know what to do. The next day I told my friend about it and he was in disbelief and said that I was drunk.

A month has gone by and I saw his wife again in the pub and I decided to hit on her and I managed to get her number and even ask her out.

I went drinking with my friend’s wife and she decided to get intimate with me and followed me home. On the way home. I Whatsapp my friend and told him to wait near my home and avoid the elevator area, he was quite pissed and he still did not believe that his wife was so “loose”.

After the girl was on my bed, I told her that I am going for a shower first but I called my friend to come up immediately. She was waiting on my bed not knowing that her husband was on his way over.

The next 5 minutes were the worse torture for my best friend, he came into my room and saw her preparing to undress in my room. Only then she realized that I’m her husband’s friend. He immediately took photos of me and her to use as evidence against her if needed.

The commotion was so noisy that the whole neighborhood could hear them.

6 Months went by and they are finally divorced, but there’s a niggling feeling that maybe I went too far and overboard.

In a recent job-hunting experience shared on social media, a candidate showcased strategic negotiation skills that led to a favorable salary outcome for a government position.

The individual, who interviewed for a government job with an urgent need for replacement, sensed positive vibes from the hiring team. During the interview, when asked about salary expectations, the candidate boldly stated a figure of $4.5k, despite being aware that most peers in similar roles accepted offers below $4k for fresh graduates.

The job, which involved shifts, required the candidate to work only 3-4 days per week from 9-5 but remain contactable on other days when at home. The next day after the interview, the HR department contacted the candidate, expressing their interest in hiring. However, the conversation quickly turned to the negotiation of salary.

When questioned about other job offers, the candidate disclosed having an offer of $3.7k. Shortly after, the HR team made an initial offer of $3.8k. Seizing the opportunity, the candidate decided to take a bold stance, reminding the employer of the initially discussed figure of $4.5k. The candidate made it clear that the offered $3.8k was unacceptable, proposing a minimum of $4.3k or parting ways.

Surprisingly, the following day, HR called back to inform the candidate that they were willing to meet the proposed $4.3k. This successful negotiation highlighted the candidate’s understanding that salary negotiations are often influenced by supply and demand dynamics rather than individual worth or job scope.

What the netizen said

I have a job-hunting experience to share: After an interview for a government job that requires replacement ASAP, I sensed they like to employ me so when they ask what salary do I expect, I said 4.5k (which in fact most peers I know is <$4k for fresh grad).

The job has shifts so I only need to work 3-4 days per week, 9-5, but should remain contactable on other days when I at home. Next day HR calls me saying I am hired but they like to discuss on the salary. They asked what other offers I got, I said I have one with 3.7kThen later the day they called me saying they offer me 3.8kAt this point, I took a bet, telling them initially we mentioned 4.5k, now your 3.8k offer I can’t accept it, so my terms is: either you pay me 4.3k minimum or we say goodbye.

Guess what, next day HR called me saying they are willing to pay me 4.3kMy learning point is: HR don’t pay you based on your worth or job scope, its a supply and demand problem. We’re negotiating in business and just want to cut a deal

A story was shared online and netizens are calling this girl a gold digger, even though she said that she is earning must less than her unfortunate husband to be. She is demanding a list of ridiculous items.

You get a wife like that you earn 6 figure a month also not enough. Like that rather get a Vietnam wife, equally need to pay but at least can cook.

Burn for her better

Here is her full post:

My bf has finally wanted to propose to me! We went through so much together and this is going to be the most beautiful ending to our journey. I am so glad to have known him as he is a caring and ambitious guy.

He is already earning 5 figures not long out of university and his career is on an upward trend. As I earn several times less than him, he is happy to pay for the lion’s share of our wedding and future expenses. From his pov, he is a kids lover and he wants at least 2 kids. As for me,

I am drawing up a list of demands:

• A condo, at least 3 rooms and above as our home
• A car for me to drive. At least 1.6L, brand doesn’t matter and fully paid for by him
• A supplementary card for me with at least 3k per month credit. I must be able to spend the amount freely in the card every month, no qns asked
• At least 2 holidays every year. If due to the pandemic we can’t go overseas, a gift of any amount of my choosing as a substitute.
• At least one maid for the household so that I don’t have to cook, clean and wash
• A diamond ring costing at least 15k for the proposal
• No limit on the number of dogs, cats or any pets I keep in the house as I am an animal lover. All expenses paid by him
  Any other things should I include?

There are many reasons why one would want to slim down most often for looks and the least important reason is normally health. I did an experiment try a beer-only diet which helped me slim down 6kg after doing a beer diet for a month with no exercise.

Here is my routine, wakes up and drink as much water as I can and followed by a multi-vitamin supplement. At lunch, I have 1 – 2 beers and I continue doing my work from home. During dinner time I have an average of 6-8 beers before going to sleep. Anytime during the day go ahead and drink as much water.

Although, people always talk about “beer belly” there is a misconception, it is often caused by eating after having a drink and not just limited to beer (any alcohol).

A question I got from a friend was: “Which beer did you take?”

My answer: “any beer that is on promotion, I don’t really have a preference”

Other benefits, my skin cleared up. I used to have dry and flaky skin but now my skin became better.

Another warning, I have very good alcohol tolerance therefore I did not get drunk and I was able to continue working. Another factor to take note of is if you have liver issues or other health concerns that do not recommend drinking alcohol do not try this diet.

Husband’s behavior has changed after marriage

My husband and I have been together for 6 years before we got married. Everything was good and he was nice to me and appreciative. However, things started to change after we got married.

During my first trimester I requested to go out for supper at 10pm but he asked me to eat whatever is at home instead. But all the time, he would stay out late with his friends at the void deck but not bring me out for food. He would ask me to grab myself (1 pax portion at $10 which I felt was not worth it).

Our S activity also went down as we transitioned into marriage. After we got married, he told me that he has a low s** drive. This never crossed my mind before, but I eventually believed him. However, recently I found out that he has been actively watching P. I feel so upset, unhappy and betrayed. I offered for intimacy, he rejected, and instead prefers to watch other girls on a website? Why?

Now that I am pregnant and have given birth, I wonder if this was why he turned to P?

I don’t know if I should confront him about it. Every time we discuss something serious he will just laugh and put the matter behind. I’m not sure if it’s nice to question him on it as well.

Here are what netizens think:

• You can also tell him love language like “I loved you, I appreciated you etc” be confident dear, you are his wife. The one who had been through thick and thin with them, the one who gave him a lovely child.

• I think it’s important to talk to him seriously about this as it can snowball to a more serious issue.Work something out whether is it taking time to spend alone time together to build up your romance again.

I have been with my fiance for over 5 years and got engaged lasat year and we were supposed to get married in a few months

We were in an open relationship but everything had to be approved ahead of time. He went away for a month for work and wanted to hook up with someone. I wasn’t super comfortable with it but he guilted me into agreeing. We set boundaries of what was allowed and what wasn’t and he broke all of those boundaries and lied to me about it and so I consider that cheating.

When he got back I asked him to cut contact with this person but he refused to say they are friends and I can not control who is he friends with. We agreed to close the relationship and see a therapist. Through talking to the therapist, we uncovered deeper problems and that he did what he did because he was unhappy with certain parts of our relationship. I have been working hard for the past few weeks to try to be a better partner but I also found out that he has been continuing to talk to the girl this whole time when he agreed to stop while we were in therapy. After I found out I was really upset and he agreed to cut contact but wasn’t happy about it.

We had another session with the therapist yesterday and when he told her I made him cut contact, she said that was a red flag that I made him do it. This comment is what has been bothering me the whole time. To me it was a no brainer, if he cheated on me, he needs to cut contact with that person if we want to continue the relationship. So the red flag for me was him not agreeing to it and fighting it so hard.

I feel like after everything that happened, I’m taking all the blame for not being a good partner to cause him to cheat and he is receiving more support than me. And I know I need to be better and I’ve been trying hard, while he was still talking to them behind my back. And being told that making him cut contact was a red flag really upset me and is making me question whether that was a reasonable thing to want now. I feel like I just want some support and some validation for how I feel and I have not been able to get that from anyone.

A lot of people have interpreted that the therapist’s comment about the red flag was that my partner didn’t offer to cut contact on his own. That was not what she meant. She specifically said he shouldn’t do something he doesn’t want to if he feels I am making him do it.

We have agreed to close our relationship and don’t have plans to reopen it.

He has willingly agreed to stop contact.

My bf has a coworker who has caused us some problems. We have been dating for a few years, and when we started dating he was dating a few different women, one of which he works within a school.

Basically, the timeline as I understand it is we started dating, he met this girl in September, there was talking/flirting, they went out once and got drunk and slept together, he wasn’t super attracted to her and gave her the “I’m not really looking for a relationship right now” speech and figured they were cool. (Insert narrator voice, they were not cool) We became official in November

He thought they could still just be friends but I could see she wasn’t cool with that and things eventually erupted with her sending him walls of texts about leading her on, which happened to come up on his phone while I was sitting right there. So being a new relationship I of course think he’s cheating, and demand to see the messages. What I can say is he wasn’t cheating, she confirmed they only slept together once, and she was just really hurt. But the giant paragraphs were very victim-y and made me super uncomfortable. He blocked her number.

We had a long talk that he needed to really just stay away from this girl as much as he could, she’s not his friend and would be happy if we broke up. I did what most woman do and looked her up online and found…a lot. A bunch of posts about how it’s heart breaking to see the love of your life with someone else, how two people can be in love and the timing be off, and a lot of posts about being kept on the back burner/being a side chic. This upset me a lot too, I think mostly because I’ve been there. I’ve totally been the chic a dude was keeping in the back ground and it’s not cool.

Now I sorta sat on this info for a while until the pandemic happened and since everyone was working from home, I realized her number had been unblocked. I saw the name come up on my bf’s phone again and was not happy. He’s like “we’re fine, we just work together” and that’s when I showed him all her posts and said no way, he needs to be careful with this girl. And shocker a few weeks from that convo she sent him all these walls of texts confessing her love and how they are meant to be and accusing him of leading her on. I took these messages and read them to my therapist because now I’m like…am I being gaslit here?

What’s really going on?

My therapist said they sound very manipulative and like someone who may have narcissism or another personality disorder trying to victim blame into getting her way. He reblocked her number (and to be clear they are not in contact on any social media or any other platform other than email). After that blocking she sent him an email when someone in his department got Covid that was like “I know you said no personal conversations but I care about you and want to make sure your ok” so I know he’s had convos with her about things being strictly professional between them.

Now moving forward to recently. He had a big issue at work where he had to work with her on something and came home and talked about it. I’m sorry but I just don’t like this girl. She makes me uncomfortable. So I googled her name again just to see if anything came up and I looked at her linked in. I think was hoping I would see something indicating maybe she would be leaving or moving on.

But its never ending