Okay so I’m in a bit of a dilemma here.

I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so we are getting ready to receive our girl. The problem is my husband has recently told me he wants to teach her Chinese too. We are both Chinese but we don’t speak Chinese at all

The thing is, my family only speaks English! He was born here and lived in Singapore since he was 4 until he was 19. Now, if he had some sort of cultural or family connection to being Chinese then I might consider it. But his a Singaporean.

I told him what I told you guys above and that it would be hard for her because they are very different languages.

He started arguing that there are many kids that are raised bilingual and are very smart but I also feel like it might cut me from my child.

He is mad at me for not accepting and I can’t help but wonder if I was wrong here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Is not like the kid will not know English too, im sure if she continues the same path of arbitrarily making decisions like this the child will grow and cut themselves off from her even in English. Kids are innocent but they absolutely love when they grow and notice their parents negated them opportunities..I know I did, nothing like growing and discovering that your mom never let you achieve your full potential because they had some irrational fear just like

• You Chinese but don’t teach your child Chiniese language, so you gei ang moh ah

• Lao kui sia this mother.

My wife cheated on me 9 months into us dating. I just found out 16 years & 4 children later. I feel like a dagger has gone into my heart but somehow, I feel numb.

For those that want the details: her then manager kissed her on break and then went back to his place and did the dead all in one day.

She continued to work with him for several years and he even attended our wedding. Have not seen him in 12 years. She says she instantly regretted it and has stressed over it ever since. FYI my oldest is 10.

It is so long ago but I feel so betrayed as I have always had a zero tolerance to cheating, but I won’t throw away an otherwise amazing marriage and happy family for this…

Are there success stories? How do I move forward with the marriage and process my feelings?

Netizens’ comments

1. he was at the wedding! that is cold. did they exchange knowing glances, a chuckle at your expense? i am sure he got a laugh in at the both of you. i couldn’t live with that.
2. There is no expiration date on betrayal. For her, it was 16 years ago, not for you.
3. She invited this guy to your wedding. Knowing she cheated on you with him. That is so messed up.
4. I can understand wanting to work it out for the kids and maybe in this case, if she has told you EVERYTHING at this point, maybe it can work. You need to get EVERYTHING out in the open now though before committing another 16 years to this woman. Make her write the entire story down on paper, all the ugly details. Tell her if you find a single detail was missing or was a lie later on, it’ll mean immediate divorce.
5. My next door neighbor went thru the same thing. Found out she cheated on him with a coworker while they were engaged 17 years later he found a letter she had written to him but didn’t send. Their affair lasted 3 weeks according to the letter
   He confronted her and she confirmed it telling him it was over 17 years ago and should not matter.

What precautions should I take when getting frisky with my boyfriend while hiking.

My boyfriend and I are camping / hiking in some park (being vague) and he confessed that one of his biggest fantasies is getting blown while out hiking in nature.

I know he’s pretty clean and we’ll have plenty of wet wipes, so hygiene is not a concern.

What I am worried about is running into people there or just generally ending up in some list somewhere because someone happened to complain.

What should we do to make sure we have some fun but don’t get into trouble? Some simple tips and things to keep in mind?

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t get lost.
   Like, don’t wander too far as to completely lose where the trail is. If you pop off the trail to the west, walk x number of feet, then place your pack (or draw an arrow or something that immediately stands out from the surrounding wilderness) facing to the east (i.e. back towards the trail you just left) of where you do the deed, that way when you’re in a post-coital haze and your brain is full of feel-good stupid chemicals, you know which direction the trail/home is.
2. that’s a) not very fun for you and b) not very ethical given the at bare minimum embarrassment and possibly trauma you’ll have caused the other person. So I think you should take reasonable precautions to make sure you are not disturbed such as
   – don’t do anything until you’re far enough into the wilderness that you rarely see other hikers – one every few hours or so at the most
   – head off the beaten track
   – stay mostly clothed so you’ll be able to hitch up your clothes and style it out in a matter of seconds
   – if you are near any sort of path find cover and check sightlines so that you’ll see an approaching hiker long before they see you, and long long before they know what you’re doing (lookout is going to be the bj recipient’s job because the bj giver won’t be able to see much).

Friends who eat out all the time and complain about being broke

Aight, here’s my thing to get off my chest.

I (M28) get so annoyed when my friends complain to me about being broke all the time. But I’ll see them post on their Instagrams all these dishes that look mid af.

Like, good for you, you went out and spent sixty dollars on a single one inch piece of salmon on a bed of rice. For sixty bucks, I can make six dishes like that at home.

I dunno if it’s just that cooking at home is a lost art, but god damn. why don’t you just do it and stop being broke?

Netizens’ comments

1. I had a roommate like that once. She got takeout 5 or 6 nights a week, then complained about being broke and gaining weight. We were cordial, but not friends, and she paid her part of the rent on time, so I just made vaguely sympathetic noises when she complained to me and figured it wasn’t my business.
2. you know i totally get what you’re saying. it can be frustrating to see friends complaining about being broke while indulging in expensive restaurant meals. cooking at home is a great way to save money especially when you have access to affordable ingredients. maybe they just need a gentle nudge in the right direction.
3. I have a friend like that. Filed for bankruptcy being -$40k in credit card debt (never owned a house or business). Asked to borrow money at least once a month, then Id see him getting crabs and eating good food. Had to stop lending him borrow money after the amount needed to borrow got greater and so did the time he can pay it back
4. I agree. I can’t believe how much people spend on food delivery too! No way I’m paying 2X the food cost to have it delivered.

I lost my v card to a 37 year old woman, and now A 14 year old girl has reached out to me claiming I’m her father.

It has been a weird couple of days for me and I need to get this off my chest. This all started on Friday when I got a Facebook message from an old colleague telling me my daughter was trying to get in contact with me, I hadn’t heard from this person in years so I was sceptical at first but I decided to hear them out.

The girl in question has recently lost her mother to cancer and the man who she though was her father turned around and told her she wasn’t his and kicked her out, she moved in with her uncle thankfully but ever since she’s been looking for her real dad.

Anyways around 15 years ago I was a naive young man barely in my 20’s working in a supermarket, when I started I was buddied up with a 37 year old woman who was drop dead gorgeous.

Like I said I was rather naive so obviously I instantly became infatuated with her easy going and tactile demeanour, sadly only a month after I started that job she handed in her notice and that spurred me to go for it and ask her out on a date.

she laughed and agreed, and so started the wildest 3 months of my life. I won’t go into details but we were intimate on a handful of occasions and I even stupidly confessed my love to her, but it was then she told me she was moving in with her fiancé which left me absolutely heartbroken.

Later a colleague would tell me that she was also seeing another guy at work at the same time she was seeing me (and cheating on her fiance).

Back to the present day and I had all but forgot about it, I have 2 kids and a very pregnant wife to think about after all, so this has somewhat knocked me sideways.

I feel for the kid having her whole world torn apart so abruptly but the thing is I don’t think I’m her father. though I was young and foolish I always used protection but there is a part of me that hopes I am, as I can provide the loving family that she is so desperately looking for.

I haven’t told my wife yet because she is 8 months pregnant with our third child and has enough to worry about but I have arranged a paternity test.

another thought that crossed my mind that she is contacting me first because I am the better prospect, as I went on to bigger and better things while the other guy still works at the same supermarket 15 years later and from what I’ve been told has a bit of a problem with alcohol.

I’m also angry at the man who raised her, playing dad all those years only to callously abandon her when she needed him the most. I’m also angry and sad that i might have missed out on so much of my potential daughters’ childhood.

the wife knows somethings up so I think I’m going to bite the bullet and tell her, I just had to get this off my chest.

In the heart of an exhilarating skydiving experience, tragedy struck, leaving Ms Lee’s loved ones in mourning.

The Tragic Incident Unfolds

It was supposed to be a thrilling adventure in the sky, but the excitement turned into a nightmare as Ms Lee faced a fatal accident during a skydiving jump. The circumstances leading to this tragedy have raised serious questions about safety protocols and the responsibility of the skydiving company.

Allegations Against the Skydiving Company

Ms Lee’s boyfriend and friends are pointing fingers at the skydiving company, accusing them of failing to provide adequate assistance, including CPR. The claims suggest that the safety harness may not have been securely fastened, amplifying the severity of the situation.

Critical Examination of Video Footage

A crucial piece of evidence is the video footage capturing the entire incident. A meticulous analysis reveals concerns about the safety harness and raises questions about the effectiveness of CPR efforts. The visuals paint a distressing picture, intensifying the controversy.

Contradictory Claims

As the incident gains public attention, conflicting statements emerge from both the skydiving company and witnesses. This stark contrast in narratives underscores the need for a thorough and unbiased investigation to uncover the truth behind Ms Lee’s tragic fall.

Brother’s Account of the Incident

Adding another layer to the story is the account of Ms Lee’s brother, who claims that the instructor was aware of safety issues during the jump. This revelation adds weight to the allegations against the skydiving company and intensifies the ongoing scrutiny.

Prosecutor’s Investigation

In a quest for justice, the prosecutor visits the funeral home for a post-mortem examination. The emotional toll on Ms Lee’s family and friends is palpable, as they grapple with the sudden loss and the unanswered questions surrounding the incident.

Relationship Background

Behind the tragedy lies a five-year relationship between Ms Lee and her fiance. The couple had plans to marry next month, but fate had other plans. The unforeseen turn of events has left family and friends in profound grief and disbelief.

Public Reaction

As news of the incident spreads, the public expresses shock and sorrow. Social media platforms become a space for collective mourning, with hashtags reflecting the community’s solidarity and demands for accountability.

Ongoing Legal Process

The legal process unfolds as investigators delve deeper into the circumstances surrounding Mr Lee’s death. Updates on the investigation and pending questions contribute to the evolving narrative, keeping the public engaged and concerned.

Community Mourning

Communities come together to mourn the loss of Mr Lee. Vigils, memorials, and support for the grieving family become prominent, showcasing the impact of the tragedy on the local community.

Impact on Skydiving Industry

The incident sends ripples through the skydiving industry, prompting discussions about safety standards and regulations. Stakeholders and enthusiasts alike question the adequacy of current measures, advocating for reforms to prevent similar tragedies.

Lessons Learned

As the community reflects on the incident, there is a collective realization of the importance of safety in adventure sports. Suggestions for both companies and enthusiasts emerge, emphasizing the need for continuous improvement in safety practices.

Conclusion

In the wake of Mr Lee’s tragic skydiving accident, unanswered questions linger, and grief envelops those who knew and loved him. The incident serves as a stark reminder of the fragility of life and the imperative for safety in high-risk activities.

Is it me or does SG feels more and more….Dystopian?

at 30 with a pay of 5k, I can’t see myself being able to afford a house after paying for expenditures and parents for allowance.

How do other people make it? As a single, it seems like a dreary grind until death. It is dystopian how most of my friends seem to welcome death jokingly often too.

I know most would say ‘get a hobby’. am trying for that because most hobbies are just costly in sg. looking to get into a physical hobby that is healthy.

Netizens’ comments

1. Maybe more information on your expenses breakdown?
   Lots of physical activity are free or very low cost tbh, running, swimming, cycling etc.
   Have you even seen decathlon? Lots of sports equipment for sale on a decent price.
   Not to mention our nationally funded ActiveSG
2. I dunno why are people complaining with 5k salary as a single. I only got around 3k plus married with bto. Just spend within your limits? I still set aside money for gaming and hobbies though.
3. You need new and better friends. Friends who don’t indulge you in your doomer mindset. Yes yes, we are all on this earth for a few decades and then we’ll all die anyway – so why not choose to make the best of our time here instead of rolling over and dying inwardly years and years before we actually hit the grave for feal?
   Seriously if you think owning a home brings happiness or is a milestone that you’ve made it in life – I feel very sad for you.
   Life has so much to offer, and while having money certainly opens up more avenues, if it is the showstopper to your happiness, it simply means you’re not looking hard enough. So many wonderful experinces in life don’t cost even a single cent. Maybe the first step out of this is to accept and be grateful for what you do have, instead of indulging in frustrating fantasies and illusions about what you don’t/could have.

When I was around 12 I decided to be a rule-breaker and get discord.

I had no use of it until my favourite meme YouTuber at the time kept posting weird and sad threads on his YouTube community.

I decided on joining and made a lot of new friends until one day he messaged me (direct message) and sent a simple hug action.

The truth is, I said in general I wanted to jump through the doors and hug someone. But that message was for my other friend, not him.

He got confused but quickly started complimenting me and getting closer and I thought I had a really cool friend who made then hilarious content.

Soon however he started asking for good morning kisses and such. I said yes not thinking it was weird because he used the excuse he was foreign so I wouldn’t get it.

One day, when everything got bad personally he started asking me for pictures and more from me like ERP (role plays) which he got outta me. He liked my wordplay and said it was the best yank he’s ever had which made me feel gross.

Soon I got used to it, his weird schedule, getting up at lunch and staying up till 3 almost and more. he asked me to be his secret girlfriend (because he was very aware it was illegal) and I felt loved at the time because of how much we had in common. Since I moved around too quickly I never had friends.we both liked purple, cats, the same music, memes and enjoyed the park.

One day I got back online after school and noticed a strange amount of pings (the noise/ notification when someone types your tag in chat) from the server.

They were all… Congratulating me? For what?? I didn’t understand until he told me he told everyone. He also used me as a “secret” for his YouTube channel for when he reached a certain amount of subs.

I was a product, I was his doll and I couldn’t get away because he knew me. Where I lived and everything. He demanded more and more and more until my body felt too gross to go on.

12 year old me being told to shave and to dress a certain way. Our birthdays are close together, the same week. I told my mom but it’s only gotten me mocked and yelled at.

Despite the times I’ve cried, the times I’ve failed. My words finally have power against his when I got older.