We’ve been a couple for 2 years alr but I’m getting tired of him.

We’ve been arguing almost everyday for the past 2 months. Every argument was just full of grudges.

When we first started dating, he seem fine. Good looking, treats me well but as our dating days goes by. We lost more trusts n faith with each other, always second guessing each other. We breakup n get back uncountable times n now I’m really getting sick n tired of this relationship.

We met through mutual friends and his job just happened to be mine interest, so I left a comment on ig and then we started dming each other so end up being together. First few months of the relationship was good. Afterwards, we been arguing at least twice a week. The contradiction between us getting bigger every arguments.

When we dating, I once saw his phone apps consist of those meetings new friends apps ( but these apps usually is meet new gender friend and end up being a couple). I asked him why u need these kind of apps? He said I’ve always been ignoring him, since mine phone always on silence and he suspect I have affair outside just because a guy sent me a hotel room detail. But that was because I need to go his room for works and that guy I working with is a good husband. Everyone know how well he treated ppl, how popular he is at work. I cannot deny having eyecandies on him when he have capabilities as a boss and as a person.

We went out for a date n my bf didn’t say anything. just silent treatment when I asked him qns and he just left me alone in the mall n walk away. I messaged him what wrong,why are you giving me cold treatment. He said was because of the hotel incident and I said why didn’t u ask me. I could’ve shown you the full messages. I was very disappointed that he think I was such an easy person to get laid with. When I was working, all in mine mind was just to earn enough money so that we can have a grand wedding event. We could’ve sat down and talks about his unhappiness but he decided to just being angry and thinking that I cheated on him.

He also been meeting his exes. I once saw his message notifications from his friend stated ” wah, you going meet Ur exes ah? Not scared Ur current found out?”. I was so furious when I saw that notification.

During dating, we said we’ll be honest with each other regardless of what but he didn’t even mentioned that the ex asked for meetups with him. Only when I confronted with him,he started blurting out.

I’ve never mentioned about my exes because it’s in the past n we didn’t have contacts anymore but he did. He not only didn’t mention about it but also went to meetup with his exes.

One of our biggest arguements almost lead us to breaking up permanently. He suggested it but I didn’t want to. So he said ok. Let’s have cooldown periods instead. So during the cooldown period, I went out with 3 other friends( 1 F, 2M) we went to USS tgt. But he been accusing me of cheating on him with one of the guy because we took pair shot.

All of us are close friends and even my bf know them since we have mutual friends. He’s such a atrocious person to think that because of pair photos, I cheated on him. Moreover, the 2M also have gf already. We’re just purely hanging out to catch-up as clique. He also accusing me saying I’m a slut for hanging out with guys during our cooldown period but I don’t see anything wrong with mine actions.

he also ownself went out to drinks with friends, make new female friends at the drinking place. His friend ig stories videoed him playing happily with all the gals and said he’s single during our cooldown period then his friends also proceed to video him asking the gals for their social media, contact no and etc.

He said all the female contacts he added was just Vase. Just to look like he’s popular with gals but he don’t contact them.

He said he just using the ig stories to make me angry cause I went out hanging with clique that have guys included so he’s doing the same and he also have a lot chats that require password to enter.

I’m so done with him but I don’t want breakup with him. I should be the one dumping him not him dumping me. I have many admirers and all of them are better than him whether in looking, studies or as a person. I gave him the chance yet he felt that I was the one unreasonable during our 2 years of relationship.

Here are what netizens think:

• So he has to accept you went to a hotel with a guy alone, but you are not ok with him having app on his phone.”I am so done with him, but I don’t want to breakup with him”You are so full of contradiction. If you can’t decide go and pluck flower petals.”I should be the one dumping him, not him dumping me”What are you 3 years old?”I have many admirers blah blah”With your mindset, nothing will change.

• Just break, both of u are not emotionally and mentally matured to carry out a proper relationship.

• Certainly, there’s NO LOVE between you two, only resentment, hatred & grudges. Why don’t you two break up? Social pressure? or mutual friends? Forget everything about what others might think and just break up. Because at the end of the day, it’s only YOU who are gonna be responsible for your life’s decisions. Start a new life full of love, care & respect. You must be able to LOVE & RESPECT someone in order to be in a relationship with him. Love is about feeling for each other, bringing meaning to each other’s lives, uplifting each other & finding immense happiness in doing all these. That’s so fundamental to start with.

I wish my boyfriend would comfort me when I’m sad

I feel like these past few days have been tough on me and I took the Plan B pill a few days ago. I feel very anxious and I’ve been crying everyday.

My boyfriend has been leaving me alone and went out with his friends to stay away from me so I can calm down and I keep having emotional outbursts and he gets mad at me. It’s been more than 3 days and I’m still crying and feeling depressed.

I feel like I don’t like my boyfriend anymore and I feel like all he does is criticize me when I’m sad.

Like I talk to him about how his sister is mean to me or how I feel bad (he doesn’t like her too) and he starts saying things like it’s all a delusion and my thoughts are wrong and starts saying how I’m thinking is wrong.

I really hate this and idk what to do. I live with him

I’ve been driving my Mercedes A-Class for more than a year now and recently, my agent told me he got lobang for C-Class. I feel like it’s time for me to upgrade but the thing is, I don’t want my boss to think I’m trying to upstage him leh. He always act like he don’t care what people say but actually the whole office most petty is him.

One time someone say my Balenciaga wallet nice ask me how much I buy, the next day my boss bring Gucci bag to work sia. The first time I wore the Tag Heuer that my gf gave me also the same. The next day my boss walked in with a Rolex and the whole day he shake his hand so much until we all scared he dislocate his wrist sia.

And it’s not just me. Even the cleaner aunty he also don’t let go. He overheard her telling us how excited she was for her son cos he managed to get the Bidadari SBF then he just cut in and say he will be on leave cos he going to collect keys to his new condo. And that’s not all.

He still go and complain to big boss that the cleaner aunty always talk in pantry never do her work.

Walao eh like this he also shiok? This kind of people how come can be manager I also dunno… okay lah I think I’ve made my decision. But now I got a new problem. Sports rim or no sports rim?

Here are what kind of netizens think:

• Like that you tell him you prepare your funeral before you die, got burn iPhone 13. Make sure he prepares to burn iPhone 31.

• This kind of person will never be contented.

• You challenge him who goes Woodbridge first.

hi everyone, would like to seek opinions if is it normal for my boyfriend to reject my S advances?

As every time when im at his place or he is at my place and my parent’s arent home and i try to ask him to do it with me, he rejects me and says he wants to wait till we’re married before doing it.

I’m his 1st girlfriend and his 27, and we’ve been together for 2 years already so I don’t know why is he so shy, is my boyfriend secretly gay? As i can’t think of any guy who would reject their girlfriend when their girlfriend is the one initiating it, and i did say whether he wants to use a rubber anot it is up to him, but he acts like a wuss and keeps rejecting me.

How do i get him to man up and do it?

Here are what netizens think:

• He is keeping his virginity for his one true love whom he is going to marry. Nothing wrong with it . Premarital S used to be the wrong thing to do until ppl normalised it and start thinking not having it, is abnormal.

• Does he have a religion that he adheres to closely? Or his family has very strong moral values? He’s a keeper. Respecting you and your body and yet you do not even appreciate it. Just because a guy doesn’t want to have S with you you think he’s gay?? That’s a very toxic mentality. There’s nothing abnormal with not wanting to have S before marriage and people who have this value shouldn’t be shamed into thinking there’s something wrong with them.

• Hmmmm, did you manage to check or visually see before that it is functioning tool.

• Don’t blame yourself for wondering what’s wrong with him. He could be a monk. See if you can break him. Be the dominant one!

• Your bf is a real keeper. He’s mature, and he doesn’t want the risk of having a baby outside marriage.

I have full custody of my 12-year-old daughter.

Her mom only has one monthly visitation. Recently my daughter has been acting up and insisting on living with her mom because she thinks I’m a bad dad.

I knew she couldn’t live with her mom because her mom is a terrible mom. I know it because I’ve seen the way she treats her other kids which is why I tried so hard to get full custody. Also, my daughter is used to her very privileged life which her mom can’t give her.

A few days ago we got into an argument and again she said she hated me and wanted to live with her mom. I got angry, I made her pack a bag.

Took her to her mom’s home, left her there and told her she is gonna live here just as she wanted.

One day later I got a message from her asking me to take her home. I ignored all her messages and calls for 4 days until I figured she has learned her lesson. I answered her call and she was crying and asking me to take her home, which I did.

She has been staying in her room ever since. My family thinks I’m a bad father and should have just brought her home the first time she called but I thought it was necessary. 

I just want her to learn a lesson in her privileged life. Am I at fault here?

Here are what netizens think:

• Wrong for not at least answering her calls and talking to her to make sure she was safe. That’s awful. She already has to live with the fact her mom is terrible, and now she probably feels she can’t trust her dad either.

• she’s just a kid. Sometimes you argue with your kids. It doesn’t justify (temporarily) kicking her out. I bet she feels abandoned.

• I understand that you were trying to make a point

• You left your child for 4 days with a woman you describe as a bad mother…

I know this guy for 6 years dated and all, planning to get married. Hais just recently, while we were in heated argument, he accidentallysaid “I will never forget my ex even after we married” and “My ex is better than u in 2 years of knowing her than u can ever do in 6 years” “She knows how to take care of her man, sweet, caring unlike you”. It hurts me so much and even while I was crying he never stopped saying all these hurtful things.

Alreadyin rs for 6 years, still haven’t moved on from his ex of only 2 years they dated. From then on, I already felt like want to just end it all but hais 6 years wasted gone to waste just like that… tbh, he’s not even my type but yeah there must be love to last till 6 years right? The most painful part is that he’s My first love… yes his ex is prettier than me and she is his type.

I know should just let go after being compared with ex all. Haisss… actually felt like we both dragged this rs way longer than it should be… hais cuz First love I guess. Hard to let go… but I know deep in my heart, if I were to end up married with this guy, it will be a loveless marriage just cuz first love. Hard to let go n forget… hais

Here are what netizens think:

• You both just having each other to pass time and not being alone. If a guy can say such things to you, no point staying anymore. It’s only pathetic, and more hurt will come your way.Is it only me who gets irritated at “hais” instead of “sigh”? 

• Hmmm….Sorry to burst your bubble but this r/s isn’t build on love. It’s build on “put up with”.

I don’t think guys would ‘accidentially’ says things like “I will never forget my ex”, “My ex is better than u” during an argument. Deep down he still miss his ex and compare her with you.

He is only with you because he has reached a point where he just want to accept someone who is willing to stick with him.

Same for you….You mentioned he is not your type. But you “put up with” him for 6 yrs because he is the one willing to stick with you.

Having said all that, my advice is to have a real heart to heart talk with him. Find out what he wants in a wife and you tell him what you want in a husband and work your issues out from there.

Like you said, 6 years is long time to just quit. At least try to salvage and hopefully start building the r/s based on love.

• 6 yrs is a fraction of a lifetime. Don’t see it as time wasted, see it as time spent learning. Move on and find someone who can love u as u are with his whole heart. It’s just silly to stay with someone u don’t love.

So my mom and I went out for dinner at a restaurant and became Karen. She paid for both of our food. When she went to pay, she accidentally tipped 20% on the card machine ($5.62 tip).

The two guys working were younger and weren’t sure how to cancel the payment. My mom told them it was a mistake and requested the money back. When the employees said they didn’t know how to cancel the payment after it had gone through, she got visibly irritated. She never insulted or raised her voice but was condescending to the workers.

Ultimately they called a manager who wasn’t there and the manager told them to reimburse her out of the tip jar.

After we sat down with our food I told her that it was humiliating that she was so adamant about getting the money back since it was such a small amount and was a tip to the employees to who she was talking down to. She then got mad at me saying that I get mad at her for everything she does.

I never actually called her a “Karen” to her face. It was just the best way I could describe it.

2) Money isn’t tight at all in our house. My parents have shared finances.

Am I wong for telling my mom she humiliated herself and me after demanding the tip back?

Here are what netizens think:

• since the tip was her mistake. If it hadn’t been her error I could have gotten behind her on this, but it was on her so, imo, she just needed to live with it and take it as a reminder to be more careful next time.

• I think it is great that you told her. Growing up, I never would have said that to my father because I “respect your elders.” Well, now we know that respect goes both ways, no matter the age.

• I frequently enraged my family by telling them respect was earned not automatically given when I was in my teens and twenties (1970s-1980s). I would have definitely called a family member out on behavior like this.