Choosing not to date a girl because of her small chest?

I’m probably going to get chewed up for this. But I’m just posting because I don’t like what I’m thinking. I’m seeing a girl and have done for 3 dates. She’s really pretty. Lovely girl. Most things about her are attractive.

Except she’s completely flat chested and I’ve always been someone who’s liked a bit of size around there. It’s almost the first thing that attracts me to someone and I’ve always liked curves.

I’m not sure I can date someone with nothing there. But I hate myself for saying that. Is this a reason to stop dating her?

I won’t tell her it’s for this reason obviously

I honestly don’t know. I like her enough to want to keep seeing her. I don’t know if I like her enough to want to see ONLY her for the rest of my life. If that makes sense

Im kinda looking for a girl who could be my wife now. Im not that young anymore and I don’t want to end up breakup up in a few years being in a bad place to date

I don’t know enough how much of a deal breaker it is

Netizens’ comments

1. Learn from this. If breast size is really a dealbreaker for you, the nice thing is that’s something you can easily observe up front. Don’t waste 3 dates of the next girl’s time when you already know she doesn’t tick a “must have” box for you.
2. Why did you date her in the first place?
3. Dont waste her time if its such a major thing for you
4. If you can’t look past it – stop seeing her. it sounds like physical appearance is a major factor for you. That’s fine but don’t miss out on something good for things that won’t matter in the long run.
5. It’s up to you. Physical attraction does matter and that’s the truth. If this keeps being an issue then might as well end it before she ends up catching feelings. Don’t lead her on.
   But if you really love talking to her and see this as not a big deal then why not. I do think this is something you might not move past tho but who knows.
6. You are only 25 chill and wait to date someone who fits your preference. Don’t force yourself to be with this woman because you find her lovely, that wouldn’t be fair to her or yourself.
   I would advice putting yourself in her position and how you would feel, you wouldn’t want strung along. Having preferences is fine as long as you aren’t being nasty or judgemental about which you don’t seem to be so don’t feel bad.

I [30M] am in a relationship with a single mom [27F] and I regret it.

I started this relationship 2 years ago when I was 28. we only see each other on the weekends. She has her son M-F and the weekends dad gets her son (7yo). I really only see him on Sunday nights when he gets dropped.

I was always nice to her son. I would play Minecraft and take him out, even went on vacation with her and him a couple of times. But I’m not going to lie I never loved the idea of dealing with him.

Despite my attempts at treating him like my own he has proven time and time again that he’s just a difficult kid to deal with. I want to keep this post short so I’ll spare the details.

But the problem is that recently he’s been with us every weekend and I’m starting to get a clearer view into my future with her and her son.

I have zero time to myself, there’s no intimacy (haven’t had it in over a month), and I find myself hiding in the bathroom just to get a moments peace.

I no longer look forward to my weekends I actually look forward to Monday because at least after work I have a few hours to myself for some peace.

I’m starting to realize what my future is looking like and it horrifies me. I tried having a conversation with my girl about it a few times but it always seems to lead to an argument. It’s like I have all the responsibilities of a parent, but none of the authority.

I really love my girlfriend and we have such a good relationship outside of her son, but now I think it’s time for me to end it.

I just feel completely awful about the whole thing because I knew she was a single mother before I got into this relationship, but I kept ignoring red flags and kept telling myself it would get better, but it hasn’t, it just kept getting worse.

I feel like I wasted both of our time but i’m just having trouble letting go. Every time I think about ending it I get scared that i’ll miss her too much. But deep down I know that I have to. Any advice or anyone else go through this before?

My boyfriend (22M) rated me (20f) a 6 on a scale of 1-10.. which has really lowered my confidence and I don’t feel desired everytime we get physical. What should I do?

My boyfriend (22M) and I (20F) were playing some immature games and he started rating random people based on physical appearances.

He rated me a 6 which didn’t bother me until he rated my best friend an 8. I feel very insecure and ugly every time I look myself in the mirror. I’ve lost my confidence.

I communicated about this and he apologized and told me he loves me for my personality but I can’t take this shit out of my mind and can’t help but feel ugly everytime I’m with him, getting physical.

I don’t feel desired anymore even though he keeps telling me I’m hot. It just feels like he’s trying to cover up for that thing.

Netizens’ comments

1. He’s totally negging you. Trying to make you feel ‘down’ and insecure so you don’t look at his lacking personality as well as physicality.
   I’ve never played this game, but my husband always (I know he is not exactly telling the truth) told me from day 1 how I was a 10/10 or infinity out of 10. The point being is, your partner should want to hype you up, appreciate you, compliment you and love on you.
   OP. You should turn it around, rate his friend as a 8 and him as a 5. He’s not going to be happy about it too.
2. Listen. Partners do this in a relationship to break down your self esteem and trap you with them. Dump him, he’s a loser. You’re hot and you have a great personality. Kick him to the curb and find someone who tells you how incredible you are everyday.
3. I would’ve been like “It’s funny! I always saw you as a 5 and your friend an 8 too! that’s so crazy like it’s enough to break up!” Then I would’ve broke up with him. No way I’m dating someone who thinks my friend is hotter bc he must’ve checked her out
   Edit: I’ve asked my bf this before and he would say infinity and beyond! Get yourself a bf who who appreciates you and loves you
4. There’s so many things here that he said wrong. Ok the 6, would hurt anyone. But then your friend ? Nah bro. Even if he thinks she’s a ten it’s so impolite to tell you she’s higher then you.
   And by the way, just because that’s what he rated you doesn’t mean your a 6. At this point you should release yourself from this relationship, because the damage has been done and it’s affecting your intimacy with him.
   And the icing on the cake he says he’s with you For your personality ? Ok that’s nice but that didn’t make the pain go away for his first insult?
   That’s like saying he’s D is a 6 on a scale of 1-10, his friends D looks like his would be an 8, and that your man shouldn’t worry because even though he’s small and cute , your with him for his personality.

I look forward to my two-week reservist training every year.

Nothing beats the feeling of knowing that, for two weeks, I can put aside the stresses of everyday life and focus solely on my military obligations.

Can go back and slack

I enjoy the break from the routine of my daily life. I can forget about my job, my family, and all the other commitments that usually fill my days.

Instead, I use the two weeks to basically just rot and go with the flow of the program that are planned for us and just care about nothing other than what to eat from the canteen and where to go with my buddies during nights out.

Good catch up with friends whom I spent two years with

I also look forward to the camaraderie of the reservist training. It’s a great time to be able to catch up with friends and buddies who I may not have seen in a while.

We get to share stories and experiences and get to know each other better. It’s great to be able to come together and share our military experiences, and it’s a great way to strengthen our bond and our commitment to the military.

It also helps me to build connections and find opportunities with people from different walks of life who may have something to offer me in real life.

Some training might be tough, but its still worth going for

Many people would say that reservist is very useless as it disrupts our normal lives and sometimes when the training gets tough, they would complain and say that they are not NSFs anymore and there is no need to go through with such tough training.

While I agree with them to a certain extent, I would rather go through all these at times because it is just a follow through motion activity and once we’re done with it means we’re done.

It is really a chill two weeks for me, to get away from all the nonsense outside.

I had just started my new job with the company and, so far, it had been a rather disappointing experience. I had such high hopes for this job when I applied, but things were not turning out the way I had expected.

The job was supposed to be a great opportunity to hone my skills and gain valuable experience, yet I felt like I was stuck in a dead-end job with no real prospects for growth.

No career progression, tasks are all mundane

The tasks I was assigned were mundane and repetitive and my boss showed no interest in giving me any feedback or helping me develop.

To make matters worse, I had recently discovered that the company’s CEO was sending a spy to the office to assess employee morale.

It was clear to me that this was an attempt to gain insight into how the employees felt about their jobs and if anyone was unhappy.

Told the spy that I was unhappy with the CEO

This was my chance to finally make my feelings heard and I decided to take it. I waited until the spy was making his rounds and then I approached him.

I told him that I was unhappy with the job and that I was not getting the support or opportunity for growth that I had expected.

At first, I thought the spy was going to be sympathetic to my plight. However, his expression quickly changed when I mentioned the CEO’s name.

He informed me that the CEO is away of everyone’s response and attitude towards work, and I should count myself lucky that I still have a job.

I was shocked and embarrassed by his response. I had been so sure that speaking up for myself would make a positive difference, but instead it had only made things worse.

I tried to explain myself but the spy was not interested in listening. He simply told me that I should be grateful for the job and that I should stop complaining.

Felt like I jepoardised my job

I suddenly felt like I had made a huge mistake in speaking up and that I had put my job in jeopardy.

I spent the rest of the day feeling angry and disappointed. I wanted to quit and find a better job, but I knew that was not possible.

So I just carried on as if nothing had happened, trying to pretend like I was happy with my job.

I had just finished dinner with my girlfriend and we were walking home. The night had been mostly uneventful, but I had been feeling a bit strange all day.

I had been having a strange dream the past few weeks and I was having trouble getting it out of my head.

Dreamt that I dated my gf’s twin sister after she died

In the dream, my girlfriend had died and I had decided to date her twin sister. I felt guilty for even thinking about it, but it was a recurring dream and I couldn’t shake it.

When we got home, I decided to open up about the dream to my girlfriend. I figured it would be better to get it off my chest and talk about it, rather than bottle it up inside.

I told her about the dream and how I felt guilty for even thinking about it. I expected her to understand, but instead she got angry.

She yelled at me and said I was being selfish and insensitive, and that she couldn’t believe I would even think about such a thing.

She then stormed off, leaving me feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

Apologised to her but everything was never quite the same after

I tried to apologize and explain that it was just a dream, but she wouldn’t listen. She was too angry and hurt to hear what I was saying.

I knew I had messed up, and I felt terrible. I wanted to make it up to her, but I wasn’t sure how.

The next day, I called my girlfriend to apologize again. This time, she seemed a little calmer and more understanding.

We talked for a while and she eventually agreed to forgive me.

However, things were never quite the same between us after that. We still went out and had fun, but there was always a certain tension present.

I could tell she was still upset with me, and I felt terrible for what I had said.

Fast forward to a few months later, and my girlfriend had finally had enough.

She told me she was breaking up with me because she couldn’t get past the fact that I had once said I would date her twin sister if she died.

She said that ever since that, the image of me and her twin sister getting it on kept flooding her mind and she could not take it.